I have a personal but important question for men on methadone.
My husband has been on methadone for 15 months now. He started out on about 150mg and is now (so he says) down to 20 some mgs. He is coming down faster than what is recommended by the counselor, but he claims he just wants to be done with it.
Due to the methadone, he has ZERO feelings/desires. We have had sex twice in the past 2 years. Twice. He has absolutely no libido at all. I KNOW this is a side effect of methadone. I'm trying really hard to deal with this. However, if he's on such a low dose, shouldn't the "feelings, wants and desires" be returning???
Please school me on this. Sadly, I need to hear it from another male. I can't go by what he is saying. He says "its not you, it's me". But I sure don't feel that way. I don't know how much longer I can do this. Before I throw my relationship away, I need someone to tell me if I just need more patience or to move on.
I know this is a personal thing that some men may not want to admit to, but it would really help me out to know what direction I need to take. Thank you in advance!
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Okay i am not a male..but having been on methadone in past i can say that yeah Definitley effects libido for both women and men. Him saying its not you..its NOT..its the drug..does that make it any easier? Probably not. The amount he has gone down is pretty huge..did you notice any changes in him as he went down..there had to have been. I read a bit of your other post. I don't know what he was taking prior and dosing but 150 is insanely high dose i would think for him taking pills prior.. And yes wven if on low dose your body is stabalized on therefore same feelings (or lack of) even if was still on high dose. (i think) for me was anyway.. Only you can decide whether to be patient or leave and be happy..cause ultimitly thats whats important for you. Yes he needs to take care of him..and if that means you guys doing seperatly..maybe for best. Do you initate sex or wait for him? If you do does he reject. If i were in situation i would Definitley initiate and not wait for him..because obviously not happening..and maybe he would be receptive if you did? (maybe you have/do) anyway it must really suck to say least...hope you figure out what you want to do..
Thank you for your response MaryKat.
I have tried to initiate sex. I get rejected every time. It's lets try tomorrow or he gives some other excuse. You can only image how that makes me feel to constantly be rejected while being told "its not you". I'm not trying to be selfish. Believe me if any of you know what he's put me through and I'm still with him you would know I'm far from that. I'm just human. I've talked to him until I'm blue in the face and its just give me time. I understand it takes time, but I think two years is a very long time. I feel like he's just pacifying me.
He started with Percocet then switched to Suboxone then to Methadone Pills. After taking the Methadone pills for so long, he figured why not join the program and taper himself off.
The only differences I notice are that he no longer looks or acts high. He has attention for the things he likes again like playstation and comics. As for a relationship, he still seems to have zero desire for one. I'm a convenience.
I just thought with him being on such a low does, his manly feelings would start to come back. I've read on here that people are on methadone for YEARS. How do you possibly live a normal life with a husband and family and have no emotions? That's why I feel like it's just me. Because it seems like other are living normal lives on methadone. I don't understand but I'm trying to!
I have tried to initiate sex. I get rejected every time. It's lets try tomorrow or he gives some other excuse. You can only image how that makes me feel to constantly be rejected while being told "its not you". I'm not trying to be selfish. Believe me if any of you know what he's put me through and I'm still with him you would know I'm far from that. I'm just human. I've talked to him until I'm blue in the face and its just give me time. I understand it takes time, but I think two years is a very long time. I feel like he's just pacifying me.
He started with Percocet then switched to Suboxone then to Methadone Pills. After taking the Methadone pills for so long, he figured why not join the program and taper himself off.
The only differences I notice are that he no longer looks or acts high. He has attention for the things he likes again like playstation and comics. As for a relationship, he still seems to have zero desire for one. I'm a convenience.
I just thought with him being on such a low does, his manly feelings would start to come back. I've read on here that people are on methadone for YEARS. How do you possibly live a normal life with a husband and family and have no emotions? That's why I feel like it's just me. Because it seems like other are living normal lives on methadone. I don't understand but I'm trying to!
Even at 20 mg that is a pretty good amount, look I am a male and the sex drive will return. I have been off methadone for 1 year and 5 months just give it more time. And remember methadone has a long half life so it will take a longer time to get it out of his system.
