That other post was locked but I have somthing to say on that issue!
I have learned in my shory time of 10 months clean a few things. We get clean to live a better life. Allthough un-popular another un-popular small factor is that so we present ourselves better to society. We were somewhat sick of the presentation we gave when we met people. We looked sick, we acted sick and we were sick. The main reason we got clean was to be healthy, serene and get out of a chaotic style of living.
Many people in society will go months if not years without swearing. I dont mind and I do it myself. I am carefull as to when and where I do swear as well as the frequency. It is out of respect for others that I do not swear. People do NOT appreciate for the most part this guy working the steps with claimed serenity saying "F This" and F that". It does not present well to the program nor does make others more comfortable with us, at best they will act as if its normal.
I have curtailed my language by leaps and bounds and no longer swear frequently. It was easy to do once I was given some peace in my mind and heart. That in itself tells me that swearing is indeed none other than the language of frustration. I find that today when I do swear excessivley, it is because some outside factor is frustration me, my lack of acceptance of a certain personm place or thing. It is a GREAT warning sign I use often. I do as I said still swear however today it is for the shock value.
One mans opinion,
Ben
I like to swear, I'm not sure why. Sometimes it animates what I am saying. But, I can keep it to myself as a courtesy to others.
And heres one womans opinion
F**** YOU BEN
LOLOLOL Just kidding i actually agree with you....once again....whoda thunk it???lolol
Hugs,
Ali
F**** YOU BEN
LOLOLOL Just kidding i actually agree with you....once again....whoda thunk it???lolol
Hugs,
Ali
ROFLMAO!! Holy S*** that was funny!
Just messing with you ben, mr. robocop you...
Stacey
Just messing with you ben, mr. robocop you...
Stacey
Thank you guys for writing this. Its bad enough getting sworn at and demorilized about female body parts, but some people see nothing wrong with it on the board.
I personally don't think any of this will change.
It is too bad. I have had good times on this board.
I personally don't think any of this will change.
It is too bad. I have had good times on this board.
Wiverson,
Youknow of course how much you are respected here, and you EARNEd that repect.. People take you seriously because you do not make constant CONSTANT remarks on your body parts and how much others WANT them
( Gag) Swearing can be affective if used upon occasion and in the right context, but noone wants to hear constant male OR FEMALE bashing and constant chatter about their...well you know...
Hugs to you,
Hope you'll stay,
(Take me with you if you go....I dont eat much and can contort to a small suitcase......lolol)
Ali
Youknow of course how much you are respected here, and you EARNEd that repect.. People take you seriously because you do not make constant CONSTANT remarks on your body parts and how much others WANT them
( Gag) Swearing can be affective if used upon occasion and in the right context, but noone wants to hear constant male OR FEMALE bashing and constant chatter about their...well you know...
Hugs to you,
Hope you'll stay,
(Take me with you if you go....I dont eat much and can contort to a small suitcase......lolol)
Ali
Ali,
You have mail and it's kinda important... I don't think I should post it here, so could you read it when you can and try and put some perspective where I have none.
Love ya
stac
You have mail and it's kinda important... I don't think I should post it here, so could you read it when you can and try and put some perspective where I have none.
Love ya
stac
LOL Ali, the deal is I swear to but I would never go and call people out on their body parts etc., like you said, its how its said and when to do it.
I want to say hi to stacy and Ben. I have read your posts and think you guys are both smart, cool and funny. You will be sucessful in your attempts. I get the feeling you both have determination.
YOU TOO ALI!!!!!!!!!!
I want to say hi to stacy and Ben. I have read your posts and think you guys are both smart, cool and funny. You will be sucessful in your attempts. I get the feeling you both have determination.
YOU TOO ALI!!!!!!!!!!
Wiversen
I have always thought very highly of you. You seem to say the things i think!! Thanks for that. lol
Thanks for the words of encouragement. I can never get enough of that.
Stac
I have always thought very highly of you. You seem to say the things i think!! Thanks for that. lol
Thanks for the words of encouragement. I can never get enough of that.
Stac
Stac, that is soooo cool. Sometimes I feel like the only one thinking things and like a freak but it is cool to hear that....Big time compliment.
Wendy
Wendy
Stacey,
What does Robocop mean? I am out of the loop on that one. Its good to see ya post. How are you doing? Have you started another taper yet and if so how is that going this time? Have you found any support yet? Sober support, people who have been where you are now, especially f2f? Tried any meetings?
Wiverson I hear ya. It is a futile attempt to change others however a great way to practice acceptance. Trailer talk is somewhat telling as I said before in so many words.
Ben
What does Robocop mean? I am out of the loop on that one. Its good to see ya post. How are you doing? Have you started another taper yet and if so how is that going this time? Have you found any support yet? Sober support, people who have been where you are now, especially f2f? Tried any meetings?
Wiverson I hear ya. It is a futile attempt to change others however a great way to practice acceptance. Trailer talk is somewhat telling as I said before in so many words.
Ben
Ben,
I was just kidding with you, it's just sometimes you act like you investigate a lot and you remind of a the po po's .
Anyway, I am down to 3 a day today 2 the next two days... and then i'm done. I'm nervous and anxious about it, but I'm ready to get it over with. This time I'm coming off of oxycodone instead of hydrocodone so that worries me a little cause oxy is stronger. And my husband is still wanting to use. We're going to the mountains with his brothers next weekend and all I'm hearing is how we're gonna get something for our trip. I think the mountains and a huge cabin alone are enough to take my mind off of using! Thanks for asking.
Stacey
I was just kidding with you, it's just sometimes you act like you investigate a lot and you remind of a the po po's .
Anyway, I am down to 3 a day today 2 the next two days... and then i'm done. I'm nervous and anxious about it, but I'm ready to get it over with. This time I'm coming off of oxycodone instead of hydrocodone so that worries me a little cause oxy is stronger. And my husband is still wanting to use. We're going to the mountains with his brothers next weekend and all I'm hearing is how we're gonna get something for our trip. I think the mountains and a huge cabin alone are enough to take my mind off of using! Thanks for asking.
Stacey
Stace,
I thought that was a put down. I reserved judgement until it was confirmed. Typically, in a Face to Face meeting of AA/NA or typical conversation of recovery and someone tells me what they have learned about themselves I dont listen and then when they are done pick out a character defect of theres and put them down. If I did it would speak very poorly of me. It would put me in a very low class of people. You dont wear that label well stace. It makes one look terribly low class and its hurtfull to others. Just another tid-bit I have learned from my experience of being in recovery.
I hope you can do it this time. Its a tough thing to do alone. Most addicts with any certain level of honesty know this. I had to experience that so many times before I gave up and fell to my knees screeming for help. Either way your research will help you get to where you need to be.
I came off of codone countless times and not by choice. It did suck however the worst of it was over in a period of 2-3 days. If you could get to some meetings and get a sober support network of sober people you could at least have some phone numbers when the urge hits when your husband inevitably pulls out a bottle of dope.
Try and have fun,
Ben
I thought that was a put down. I reserved judgement until it was confirmed. Typically, in a Face to Face meeting of AA/NA or typical conversation of recovery and someone tells me what they have learned about themselves I dont listen and then when they are done pick out a character defect of theres and put them down. If I did it would speak very poorly of me. It would put me in a very low class of people. You dont wear that label well stace. It makes one look terribly low class and its hurtfull to others. Just another tid-bit I have learned from my experience of being in recovery.
I hope you can do it this time. Its a tough thing to do alone. Most addicts with any certain level of honesty know this. I had to experience that so many times before I gave up and fell to my knees screeming for help. Either way your research will help you get to where you need to be.
I came off of codone countless times and not by choice. It did suck however the worst of it was over in a period of 2-3 days. If you could get to some meetings and get a sober support network of sober people you could at least have some phone numbers when the urge hits when your husband inevitably pulls out a bottle of dope.
Try and have fun,
Ben
