Someone please help me... Our 16 year old, daughter, started using ICE about a year and half ago.. We have had her in several rehabs... the only one that somewhat helped was the Catherine Freer Wilderness program in Oregon. We live in Texas. Now, she runs away all the time and 2 weeks ago she invited 2 of her addict friends into our home (while everyone was gone) and they robbed us of so many precious things....
She came home this morning... she calls me once in awhile while she is on the run to let me know she is safe.
I made a doctor's appt. for her this afternoon with our family doctor who is a woman and Samantha feels very comfortable with... However, she is shooting up now.... and, right now is coming down big time.
Tomorrow, she has an appt for an extensive outpatient program, but, know she will just run again or something of that nature.
My heart breaks for my angel.... she told me, yesterday, she wants to stop and yet she cannot, especially, since she started shooting up...
Our family has been torn apart.. I want so badly to help her, and, yet KNOW THAT I CANNOT, UNLESS, SHE WANTS THE HELP.... HOWEVER, WITHOUT HER GETTING THE HELP.. our lives are torn apart as a family... and, now we cannot trust her in her own home anymore, alone OR I suppose even while we are here.
SOMEONE, PLEASE, HELP ME HELP SAMANTHA... I worry night and day that she is gonna die. She confides in me, her mother, but it breaks my heart and I feel it is some form of manipulation, also... any help or guidance ANYONE CAN GIVE ME WOULD BE APPRECIATED.
She will be 17 in October and in the state of texas that is considered an adult, and, then we won't be able to step in at all... but, all of our stepping in seems like the worst things we have done, also...... but, no longer feel safe with our daughter here... and, feel like I will be punished for even feeling that way... I just want her back so badly... HELP !!!!!!!
OH geezz, I also live in Texas and since she is under age get her into treamtnet NOW. Don't wait to past go, just take her, drag her, however you get her there. Get her there.
Then get yourself to a meeting, an Alanon meeting. Come join us on the freinds and family board.
Jenny
Then get yourself to a meeting, an Alanon meeting. Come join us on the freinds and family board.
Jenny
Dear Maureen, I know EXACTLY what you are going through. My heart breaks for you and Samanthat. My Brittany is in the same position, only she's 22 and there is NOTHING I can do to help her, though God knows I tried. When she begs for help, she sounds like my little girl of years ago..and you just can't help but believe them. I'm sure they mean it at the time, but the addiction is just so powerful they can't follow through. Two years ago I called the police on her, and they did take her to jail where the judge said he would get to the bottom of it and have her put in a rehab program. She was in jail three weeks, and then the ball was dropped. On her court date, it was a new judge, new public defender, new prosecutor...and she was let out to attend six weeks of alcohol classes. I suggest, as hard as it is, that you call the police when you know she's high...and write a letter to the judge, as I did, asking for help for her. If you are luckier than me, that's exactly what they will do. It's a great opportunity to take before she turns legal age. It was the hardest phone call I ever made...and I know it could have changed her life if she had actually made it to a long-term rehab. Unfortunately for me and britt that didn't happen...but maybe it will for you and Samantha. I don't think an out-patient program is the way to go at this time..she needs to be removed for a long period until she builds up her strength and learns new coping methods. Good luck to you both. There is hope. There is help. Be as strong as you can be, Maureen, even if it hurts. corrinne
I am so sorry for you, I know it hurts you so much to see your daughter in this state. When I was that age I was your daughter,I hurt not only myself but my whole family also. 3 abusive relationships and 4 kids later i have decided to get help. i am 30 years old now. I hope your daughter really gets into a program and sticks with it because i've come to realize now the pain i've caused. and that's there's so much more to life than staying high all the time.
Good luck i wish and pray for the best
Good luck i wish and pray for the best
Maureen,
You need to know as much as you can about drug addiction, about meth and about you daughter. Heartahe gave you some sound advice. Many more on the friends and family board have gone through and are going exactly what you are going through. You will not only find much information there which will make you stronger in coping with this, but you will also find simpathy and strength in numbers.
This is a horrible disease, and we are all here for each others.
You need to know as much as you can about drug addiction, about meth and about you daughter. Heartahe gave you some sound advice. Many more on the friends and family board have gone through and are going exactly what you are going through. You will not only find much information there which will make you stronger in coping with this, but you will also find simpathy and strength in numbers.
This is a horrible disease, and we are all here for each others.
CALL THE POIICE!!!
I know it may seem awful but if she gets busted in oct. it will be a differnt story .
there will be nothing you can do to help her any more.
There is a big chance if she is injecting she is selling or something worse
to get her fix.There is something in my county called drug court you might want to look in to it they do weekly drug test and in & out patient treatment
and mandortory N/A mettings it has had a grate sucess rate were i live
And if she makes it through the 2 year program her record will be cleared.
Good luck keep praying god has his own plan in mined for your daughter
even if you can't see it right now. But when his plan playes out it will be better than any thing you could hove hoped for
god bless you & yours
monny
oxoxoxoxoxoxox
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I know it may seem awful but if she gets busted in oct. it will be a differnt story .
there will be nothing you can do to help her any more.
There is a big chance if she is injecting she is selling or something worse
to get her fix.There is something in my county called drug court you might want to look in to it they do weekly drug test and in & out patient treatment
and mandortory N/A mettings it has had a grate sucess rate were i live
And if she makes it through the 2 year program her record will be cleared.
Good luck keep praying god has his own plan in mined for your daughter
even if you can't see it right now. But when his plan playes out it will be better than any thing you could hove hoped for
god bless you & yours
monny
oxoxoxoxoxoxox
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Yesterday was my daughter's drug screen for meth and pot, she failed, took another one and failed 5 minutes later again. While we were there testing there was a joint on the coutner, it was hers. Nothing happened.
We have police and sheriff involvement. At times she is fearful of this, othertimes it makes her rebel more and feel more in control as, hey there sat a joint on her counter and the sheriff did nothing.
Sure wish I would have made the call much earlier. Now at 18, it seems the rules really change .
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We have police and sheriff involvement. At times she is fearful of this, othertimes it makes her rebel more and feel more in control as, hey there sat a joint on her counter and the sheriff did nothing.
Sure wish I would have made the call much earlier. Now at 18, it seems the rules really change .
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Dear Maureen
I am in Australia, my husband and i have just taken out a court order to have our 25 year old daughter committed.... It literally is the hardest thing we ever had to do... She is in full DRUG INDUCED PSYCOSIS... but it was do that or end up burying her... There was no option.... She has been there two weeks now... Still not well.BUT......... we can see her slowly improving....slowly....
We know we did the right thing... BUT.... it's tuff mate.... get up in the morning and put on your armour. She left us no choice! And surprise surprise!!! she has rang her friends and told them what her parents had done to her.... Their response was "what assholes" BUT guess what..... NOT ONE OF THEM HAS BEEN TO SEE HER!!!! MUM DAD AND BROTHERS ARE THERE EVERYDAY......She now has a chance....... And we will keep doing it until we get her back for good....... good luck honey..... good luck to all who need it....
Thankyou so much for this forum..... it does a mums heart good, to maybe able to help others......... remember BE STRONG.....it's tuff.... But we are all they have............. xoxoxoxoxoxo Jenny
I am in Australia, my husband and i have just taken out a court order to have our 25 year old daughter committed.... It literally is the hardest thing we ever had to do... She is in full DRUG INDUCED PSYCOSIS... but it was do that or end up burying her... There was no option.... She has been there two weeks now... Still not well.BUT......... we can see her slowly improving....slowly....
We know we did the right thing... BUT.... it's tuff mate.... get up in the morning and put on your armour. She left us no choice! And surprise surprise!!! she has rang her friends and told them what her parents had done to her.... Their response was "what assholes" BUT guess what..... NOT ONE OF THEM HAS BEEN TO SEE HER!!!! MUM DAD AND BROTHERS ARE THERE EVERYDAY......She now has a chance....... And we will keep doing it until we get her back for good....... good luck honey..... good luck to all who need it....
Thankyou so much for this forum..... it does a mums heart good, to maybe able to help others......... remember BE STRONG.....it's tuff.... But we are all they have............. xoxoxoxoxoxo Jenny
There are no easy answers and all hurt. I'm going through it with my 19 1/2 year old daughter. Is it my imagination or is meth more rampant in daughters? Maybe I'm just reading more posts about daughters. Mines been in rehab and got out in may....Shes using again and life is an uproar. People say try not to worry but its all you think about. Try to stay sane, it doesnt sound like much but sometimes its all you have. Will pray for you and your daughter and everyone elses and my own.....olliesmom
