My daughter is a heroin and meth addict. I am clueless on how to find her help. She has been using for several years but I have spent a small fortune at suboxone clinics only for her to get kicked out of them. I have ever seen her this bad though. I know the end result of this mess, I am an RN that has watched many others die from it. There are log wait lists for inpatient treatment and she refuses this anyhow! She won't do intensive outpt therapy since she works. I am at a loss! Is there any way to help an addict realize if they don't get help they are going to die? And, how can I find help? I went to a local place today that couldn't see her until August 5th. I'm not sure she'll last that long. She has 2 sons not in her custody. I cannot begin to fathom how I will deal with them later if something happens to her. Anyone have suggestions?
Hi Kirstonic , there is no simple answer to your dilemma - sorry - no addict will recover unless THEY really want to - no matter how much you want to be able to "fix" your daughter, you cannot - the solution lies in her hands alone - she is the only one that can make the decision to stop- it sounds like your daughter is in the full grip of this horrible drug - a short term solution may be to have her certified on the grounds that she is a danger to herself (this depends on where you reside) this would allow her to be detoxed, forcefully , this may only serve as a temporary solution as she may well go straight back out there when she returns home - i wish there was a simple solution - perhaps someone she knows who is in recovery may be able to help her- she may listen to them - outside chance, but might just work - interventions are usually only a temporary solution, again it is always back to the addicts desire to quit - or not - coming off drugs is really hard- staying off them is even harder - you have to want it really , really badly - more than anything else in your life- forced rehab, detox, quitting - have very poor odds of success - i am truly sorry that you find yourself in this situation, there are many more just like you in this forum- please read their posts- you may find some comfort in some of these posts or perhaps some inspiration - i truly hope your daughter finds her way into recovery - all the best -
Travlin' man has excellent input.
I might add one more thing: You might look at any of your actions which are enabling.
Once the consequences of the addiction rest soley with the addict, then the odds of the addict choosing recovery increase.
So, if you are providing food, housing, money, etc. - you should cease. The only telephone call you will accept is the one where the addict says, "OK, I am ready to seek help".
I hope this helps.
I might add one more thing: You might look at any of your actions which are enabling.
Once the consequences of the addiction rest soley with the addict, then the odds of the addict choosing recovery increase.
So, if you are providing food, housing, money, etc. - you should cease. The only telephone call you will accept is the one where the addict says, "OK, I am ready to seek help".
I hope this helps.
A good rule of thumb: Don't do anything for them that they can and should do for themselves. Stop looking for rehabs, stop looking for help...that is for her to do. The more you do the less she has to do for herself. The last post before mine has simple and excellent advice...stop doing all of that, it hasn't worked anyway so why keep expecting a different outcome? I'm sorry for your family and especially for the innocent children, focus on what you can do for them, they are the ones who have no choice and no voice. Do not spend another penny on your daughter, there is plenty of free help out there should she reach for it.
Peace ~ MomNMore
Peace ~ MomNMore
