Hey all..he ahs been clean for almost a month now...and boy is he not a happy camper...he has NO emotions...none what so ever...my grandmother died on Tues night and he was GREAT took me there was there for me...then BOOM yesterday he is upset and frustrated how he has NO emotions...he cant handle this right now...blah blah blah..
he had just come from his therapist office and i guess it was a rough session...he just keeps saying how hard it is to be there for me because he literally has NO emotions right now...ive heard ppl say that before...
he said it would take him months to be able to feel again...how long did it take for you guys to get back to "normal" he hasnt been "normal" in almost 5 yrs so he is having one hell of a time right now...what did you guys do to deal with all these new emotions?
Becky
Clean for a month is fab
Give him time, his body has had a big change it needs to rebalance itself with it's own natural chemicals, our emotions are really just a result of certain triggers setting off certain chemical reactions - that's the scientist in me coming out, funny how that logic disappears when I expect a certain emotional response and don't get it.
He's doing well and so are you.
k
Clean for a month is fab
Give him time, his body has had a big change it needs to rebalance itself with it's own natural chemicals, our emotions are really just a result of certain triggers setting off certain chemical reactions - that's the scientist in me coming out, funny how that logic disappears when I expect a certain emotional response and don't get it.
He's doing well and so are you.
k
Alright Becky,im off heroin&benzos 3mnth now&feel very much like your b/f.You think once you stop the drugs eveything will fall into plce.eventually they should but its a long daily emotional struggle to get there.our bodies are used to that comfetor&when its gone the world feels like a very raw place.Becky just saying im with yer man on this one.Take care&all the best ...Davey
I'M so glad he's been clean a month now CONGRATS. Recovery is diffrent for eveyone. Each person has their own personal struggle to overcome. For me "while using" my emotions were non existent. When I got dope sick from being out of H.... I was pretty darn emotional, felt like hanging myself to not feel so much like crap. On to methadone treatemt, back to not feeling any real emotion about anything. After getting off methdaone stoped going to the clinic at 30mg! very long drawn out month OR more of super emotons crying fits "just like being dope sick 4 a very long time". On dope no feelings but, getting clean 4 me was filled with extreame emotions. For a long time I hated to be cuddled or touched while getting clean. I was real jumpy and irrated for like the 1st year!. Heroin dose damage to the brain that takes a VERY VERY long time to heal from. DON'T KNOW if that was at all helpful just my experience. I would cry over anything getting off methadone and H both.
Hi becky,
My hubby says he felt numb after he stopped using. I couldn't get it. I stupidly thought once he stopped he would be back to his old self after a week of going cold turkey. We were apart at the time and i suppose i needed some support on the telephone and of course he couldn't give it, he wasn't able to. I now realise that of course he couldn't because he life was so completely on getting clean. He wasn't being mean or anything he just couldn't feel anything.
Just keep supporting him becky as i know you are. Don't make the mistakes i did and get angry and upset because i felt unimportant at the time. 9 months later and things are great and i am important again!!! :-) hahahaha
Give him time
take care
your friend
crazywife
My hubby says he felt numb after he stopped using. I couldn't get it. I stupidly thought once he stopped he would be back to his old self after a week of going cold turkey. We were apart at the time and i suppose i needed some support on the telephone and of course he couldn't give it, he wasn't able to. I now realise that of course he couldn't because he life was so completely on getting clean. He wasn't being mean or anything he just couldn't feel anything.
Just keep supporting him becky as i know you are. Don't make the mistakes i did and get angry and upset because i felt unimportant at the time. 9 months later and things are great and i am important again!!! :-) hahahaha
Give him time
take care
your friend
crazywife
..BeckyP..
..Long may it continue..good luck all round..Robbie..
..Long may it continue..good luck all round..Robbie..
hey thanks all...everyday clean for him is a great day!!! he has ups and downs and i just have to adjust and give him some space for now...the weekend was great and he was AWESOME through my grandmothers funeral and thereafter so far...i think after his therapy sessions are going to be the worst for him...i just need to learn when to give him space...when to let him vent and which thigns i should take to heart or get upset about when really he is just venting or whatever...thanks for all teh advice and keep praying for him...a month and going strong...suboxone is workign wonders for him!!!
