I moved out of my own house for 3 days because I could not stand the lies, and the anxiety i feel when i am around my son. he is only 19 and addicted to heroin I have known about him using since last September I have offered rehab, intense outpatient program, doctors he wont go. He was going to NA or i thought he was until I found a receipt in his truck for the time he told me he was in NA meeting the receipt was from the town where he gets his drugs. He had 4,000 in savings it is all gone 0 left he finally showed me his bank statement all withdraws are from the town where he gets his evil drugs. My husband and I got him a new phone with new sim card so he could start fresh and not have his dealers #s and he was happy and ok with this because as he has said a million times "I'm done" well he had their #s hidden on his computer in a file. How dumb were were "are" Easter Sunday he said he was going to meet a friend (none of his friends know he uses) when he didn't come back when he was suppose to we called him of course he shut his phone off so we called the friend the friend said he's not with me my son told him he was out shopping with me oh the lies and the lengths he will go to. So i saw him today for the first time in 3 days stopped by his work OMG when I saw him I just cried his whole face is covered in scabs from him picking at his face he was jerking and shaky. I just want my son back I know it's only a matter of time before my son Od's. my life has fallen apart i am so alone the only other person that knows of our pain is my sister. My home is toxic I hate being here but I have a older son who needs me he's autistic. So onward I march to the beat of my sons life choices what else can I do? Watching your child slowly kill themselves is the worse torture that can ever be inflicted on a parent.
I know your pain. It is horrible to watch your child struggle. I would plan my daughters funeral in my head. I did what addicts in recovery told me & I told her she couldn't live in my house if she was going to use drugs. I told her she couldn't come back until she was doing the right things towards her recovery. I also would talk to her a little every day. I would tell her she isn't living, just existing, that this drug is taking everyone & everything she loves away. I would also tell her when she's ready for help that I will be there. She had to hit her bottom to want help. As painful as it is, try to take care of yourself. Set boundaries. Let your son know that it isn't ok that he is using drugs in your home. I will say a prayer for you and your family. Try to not lose hope. There is always hope
Dear Moms, Look up on utube or just the Internet and show him the pictures www. Drugsa
ndmugs it will let him see what he has to look forward to if he continues to use drugs. The odds are against our kids in America. Heroin use is up by 286% in this country. No one will step up to the plate and do anything about this epidemic. They've just passed it along for 20 yrs from one leader to another. It's awful! I feel for you and what your going through. It's like living with someone that has a terminal illness. I'm right there with you and my heart is broken too. Our government have abandoned us by not taking care of the drugs coming into this country years ago. Now they want to do something. Well their 20 years too late!! Speaking from experience the best thing you can do for your son is give him the ultimatum...stay here and go to detox,rehab or get your things together and get out! It's very hard to do but letting him live at your house makes it too comfortable for him. As long as he has his cozy home to live in he won't quit. It's called enabling! You didn't cause his drug use, you can't control it and you can't cure it! It's all up to him. I read this on here and it's so true.Be strong we're all here for you. Sarah.
ndmugs it will let him see what he has to look forward to if he continues to use drugs. The odds are against our kids in America. Heroin use is up by 286% in this country. No one will step up to the plate and do anything about this epidemic. They've just passed it along for 20 yrs from one leader to another. It's awful! I feel for you and what your going through. It's like living with someone that has a terminal illness. I'm right there with you and my heart is broken too. Our government have abandoned us by not taking care of the drugs coming into this country years ago. Now they want to do something. Well their 20 years too late!! Speaking from experience the best thing you can do for your son is give him the ultimatum...stay here and go to detox,rehab or get your things together and get out! It's very hard to do but letting him live at your house makes it too comfortable for him. As long as he has his cozy home to live in he won't quit. It's called enabling! You didn't cause his drug use, you can't control it and you can't cure it! It's all up to him. I read this on here and it's so true.Be strong we're all here for you. Sarah.
Mom's,
My son is a 29 year old heroin addict. Right now he's in jail so he's not using. I hope he stays in long enough to start thinking differently but who knows. We kicked him out of our house for the last time almost 2 years ago. He has been literally homeless and living on the streets in the past for about 4 months. It still didn't make him quit using. I don't know where his "bottom" is but I do know that it's all up to him. I cannot cure my son, no matter how much I love him. It's terrible and so sad that your son is only 19 and has been sucked into this life. You need to make boundaries and stand firm in them. At one time I thought that bringing my son a meal was fine but then I realized that it's just less money or time he has to worry about food and more time and money he can spend on drugs. Read stories on here and it will help you find strength, hopefully. We can feel your broken heart and you aren't alone.
Michelle
My son is a 29 year old heroin addict. Right now he's in jail so he's not using. I hope he stays in long enough to start thinking differently but who knows. We kicked him out of our house for the last time almost 2 years ago. He has been literally homeless and living on the streets in the past for about 4 months. It still didn't make him quit using. I don't know where his "bottom" is but I do know that it's all up to him. I cannot cure my son, no matter how much I love him. It's terrible and so sad that your son is only 19 and has been sucked into this life. You need to make boundaries and stand firm in them. At one time I thought that bringing my son a meal was fine but then I realized that it's just less money or time he has to worry about food and more time and money he can spend on drugs. Read stories on here and it will help you find strength, hopefully. We can feel your broken heart and you aren't alone.
Michelle
