Hi there,
I apologize for the long rant, i am just extremely stressed and have not been able to speak to a family member or friend yet. i have just found out that my long term partner and husband of less then a week has been taking unprescribed methadone for roughly the last year or so. He has never tried heroin but has previously gone through a stage where he abused other drugs such as oxycontin and endone. I only found out while we were staying away and accidentally came across a bottle of it in his luggage. He has now admitted to me that he has been taking 20mg per day every day for atleast 6 months after having it a few times a week to start off with.
I am familiar with methodone as my parents are heroin addicts and have been on the methadone program longterm. He is extremely ashamed of the situation he has gotten into, and i know he feels so guilty for not only lying to me for so long but also for the fact i found out on our honeymoon. I am really trying to stay strong and supportive for him but i am also so devastated. My mum is an addict and as much as i love her i have never been able to trust her as i have learnt that addicts by nature can be extremely deceptive. Its something that has had a huge effect on me growing up and now to find out that i am back in the same situation i feel completely overwhelmed. I love him unconditionally and will support him to seek help but i am so scared of the challenge that lies ahead of us as i know methadone withdrawal is going to make him very sick.i also worry how we will get our trust back. If there is any one reading this who is in a similar situation or has any advice to give it would be so appreciated.
I'm so sorry sweetie that you thought that Part of your life was over with just to find out its not. Well your going to have to help him rise above this. I suggest you attend some Nar anon meetings. Those are for the families or friends of the addict. There you will find resources and others whom are dealing with the same battle ground as you are. Give him a chance, one chance to not enable him but to be here for him as he maintains his sobriety. If you ever need anyone to talk to. I'm here for you. I'm a H addict . And am currently on 20mg methadone too. Good luck. Feel free to open up again since we are all here to try to help each other.
i am so sorry. Do you know for certain if he has used heroin? How do you know what to believe? What is he using methadone for? Where is he getting it? how much? What mixed with? why is this a lesser offense than heroin? Methadone is more addictive than heroin, It is not a modern approach to keeping people off of morphine/heroin.
I am not comforted for you. I feel you are being lied to and not told the truth.
leave and get answers. You do not need to deal with this.
I am not comforted for you. I feel you are being lied to and not told the truth.
leave and get answers. You do not need to deal with this.
FYI you do not "have to help him rise above this". The person who wrote that to you is wrong!
You do what you want to do. you take care of you! xo
You do what you want to do. you take care of you! xo
excuse me but she just married this man, she just took a vow for sickness and in health. Maybe I should of made myself more clearer, "to help him rise above this if he accepts the help" but if not then, ! But the person whom you say is wrong , has a name. In clear view for you to see..... personinneed I don't think you've ever been in love before but I may be wrong. Because you seem a little bitter. Your right, she does what she wants to do but let the person who created this topic , this discussion ultimately declare who is wrong for saying what. Sheesh Louise. Do they sell chill pills where your from ?
