Im so lost and confused when I met my husband 3 years ago we were just Great friends then we stared dating then I found out he was a heroine addict and I left him as a gf but stood by his as a friend through detox and rehab he came home and we started dating again before we knew it he was a year clean and we were engaged next think I know we bought a house and got married and now have a baby on the way the past 2 months he's been acting funny money's been gone it just wasn't feeling right and then yesterday it all came out he relapsed and has been shooting up everyday the last time he did was sun it's now wed and he went to a counclesr today and he is insisting he wants to do everything he can to make this better and make us work and figure out what in his brain pushed h to use the drugs he Dosnt do it for the fun high feeling he does it to hide pain and not feel anything this is all so hard for me to understand iv never been around drugs my whole life now I'm faced w.this do I stay and help him through this or do I get.out now before it just happens again. How likely is it that he can stay clean from.now on
I'm so sorry you're going through this. Through my own experience of seeing my daughter being addicted to heroin, I too felt helpless and lost. I've never seen such a strong addiction. she would do anything to get the drug and put herself and life in jeopardy to do it.
it's not that they don't care about us. The medical system now states it in the journal of psychiatry that addiction is a mental illness.
maybe he should seek a psychiatrist and go for weekly therapy with a therapist. he has to learn about his addiction and why he does it.
just by him stating he wants to stop and saw a counselor is fact he really wants help.
My daughter wouldn't even do THAT. not until she was forced by the law did she go for out patient therapy and get on suboxone.
she was on methadone first. I personally think methadone should only be given to real addicted people. I've seen various strengths of addiction. how addicted the person can be and what they do while using choice of drug.
with methadone you have to be at the clinic to get medicated every day, and they test your urine. then if you prove you're doing well, you get take home bottles.
where as with suboxone, you don't go every day. you get either a two week supply and see dr. every two weeks, or once a month. but they suggest you are in therapy and some type of group meeting to go along with the suboxone.
Only you would know whether you want to give him another chance, and only God knows whether your husband will relapse. even an addict doesn't know they're going to relapse. you can be straight for 15 yrs and out of the clear blue sky you fail. I never really believed that addiction is a life long battle, but I do now.
It is possible for him to stop and for you both to have a good life together.
some woman just pick up and go permanently without a bat of an eye, and others stay with the person hoping that they'll stop.
this worrying is not healthy for you and your baby. so I would suggest that you see a therapist to get you through this tough period and I would do research on addiction. there's a lot of helpful information to give you insight on exactly what addiction so you that you don't take it personaly and that you don't think he doesnt' love you. because he DOES love you.
no one wants to be an addict. you don't grow up as a child saying " I want to a drug addict when I grow up". it's a tough life to live. A clean and sober life is SO much easier to live.
make some boundries. tell him he MUST get help and get into therapy and possibly on a medication to help his addictive behavior, plus for the mental illness. suboxone or methadone won't allow him to get high. it blocks all opiates. but the two are very addictive themselves and can be difficult for most to get off of.
but which would you rather have? a clean husband? or one that's on medication that gives him time under his belt so he can retrain his brain again to not want to get high and that life itself is a wonderful high alone.
I really wish you the best and know what you're going through. we are all here for you. I'm here if you read this msg and need to talk. take time to reflect on the situation, do some spiritual work, any type, and remember, he's not doing this because he doesn't love you or doesnt' care.
it's not that they don't care about us. The medical system now states it in the journal of psychiatry that addiction is a mental illness.
maybe he should seek a psychiatrist and go for weekly therapy with a therapist. he has to learn about his addiction and why he does it.
just by him stating he wants to stop and saw a counselor is fact he really wants help.
My daughter wouldn't even do THAT. not until she was forced by the law did she go for out patient therapy and get on suboxone.
she was on methadone first. I personally think methadone should only be given to real addicted people. I've seen various strengths of addiction. how addicted the person can be and what they do while using choice of drug.
with methadone you have to be at the clinic to get medicated every day, and they test your urine. then if you prove you're doing well, you get take home bottles.
where as with suboxone, you don't go every day. you get either a two week supply and see dr. every two weeks, or once a month. but they suggest you are in therapy and some type of group meeting to go along with the suboxone.
Only you would know whether you want to give him another chance, and only God knows whether your husband will relapse. even an addict doesn't know they're going to relapse. you can be straight for 15 yrs and out of the clear blue sky you fail. I never really believed that addiction is a life long battle, but I do now.
It is possible for him to stop and for you both to have a good life together.
some woman just pick up and go permanently without a bat of an eye, and others stay with the person hoping that they'll stop.
this worrying is not healthy for you and your baby. so I would suggest that you see a therapist to get you through this tough period and I would do research on addiction. there's a lot of helpful information to give you insight on exactly what addiction so you that you don't take it personaly and that you don't think he doesnt' love you. because he DOES love you.
no one wants to be an addict. you don't grow up as a child saying " I want to a drug addict when I grow up". it's a tough life to live. A clean and sober life is SO much easier to live.
make some boundries. tell him he MUST get help and get into therapy and possibly on a medication to help his addictive behavior, plus for the mental illness. suboxone or methadone won't allow him to get high. it blocks all opiates. but the two are very addictive themselves and can be difficult for most to get off of.
but which would you rather have? a clean husband? or one that's on medication that gives him time under his belt so he can retrain his brain again to not want to get high and that life itself is a wonderful high alone.
I really wish you the best and know what you're going through. we are all here for you. I'm here if you read this msg and need to talk. take time to reflect on the situation, do some spiritual work, any type, and remember, he's not doing this because he doesn't love you or doesnt' care.
