My husband was in a car wreck a few years ago and started using prescibed pain medications, then he went to getting them from other drs., got caught. Has found one DR. to prescribe but even though it is heavy pain medication he says it doesn't work. He has degenerative bone disease, and diabetic. He drank very heavily two week ago, quit and is now inhaling paint thinners all the time. My mother-in-law, myself and his daughter have all told him how dangerous this is. I am going crazy, where do we turn. We don't have any health insurance and cannot afford a treatment center. He is 54 years old. I am having to work and handle everything now, I can't watch him 24 hours a day. I love him, but this is too much. I lost my son in July at the age of 25 to a heart attack. It's hard enough to deal with that grief without this. Any suggestions.
Oh my goodness! You are having a tough time.I don't know anything about inhalents.But i don't think that you or anyone else can make him stop.He has to want that for himself.
Have you checked w/ your local hospital? Or your local NA/AA?
I'm sure that they could give you more information.Maybe someone will be by that knows more about this than i do.
So stick around.There are a lot of great people here that can give you a lil suport.
Good luck to you and your husband.
DJ
Have you checked w/ your local hospital? Or your local NA/AA?
I'm sure that they could give you more information.Maybe someone will be by that knows more about this than i do.
So stick around.There are a lot of great people here that can give you a lil suport.
Good luck to you and your husband.
DJ
Dear Troubled:
I am sorry for your situation. I could make twosuggestions--Alanon and are you religious?
If yes then seek advice from your church or whatever your religion is.
Troubled you cannot make your husband quit the sick behaviour. You need to take care of yourself.
Hope this helps--Jeff
I am sorry for your situation. I could make twosuggestions--Alanon and are you religious?
If yes then seek advice from your church or whatever your religion is.
Troubled you cannot make your husband quit the sick behaviour. You need to take care of yourself.
Hope this helps--Jeff
I am sooo sorry. How did your son die so young from a heart attack? I hope it wasnt addiction, sounds like you have enough of that on your hands. You have to take care of YOU.
He is 54 and knows what stop means. He is choosing NOT to. Please take care of yourself. My heart goes out to you.
He is 54 and knows what stop means. He is choosing NOT to. Please take care of yourself. My heart goes out to you.
Hello,troubled
I read your post and i just cant imagine what you are going through.looseing your child im so sorry about it.I know you have alot going on and feel like you dont know where to turn.There is help and you can get plenty of good advice here.What state are you in?Is your husband wanting the help?He is killing himself fast one or the other of the three is going to kill him.The paint thinner ive never done it before,i have seen and read about people doing it and i have seen and read some bad stuff.If you would like email me let me know what state you are in and i will try to find you some suport.if your husband is willing i can look up some help for him as well.Here in georgia we have state hospitals,state funded rehabs.Also,if he is not willing to go inpatient there is outpatient services also.There are alot of different choices but,he has to be willing to except the help.Im on suboxone and i was at the end of my road i felt if i didnt get help soon i wouldnt be here much longer.Suboxone has really helped save my life and im trying to get on with my life.But,i deal with depresstion everyday.Ive also got the degenal dic. diaease two bloging dic.also otho (detearating bones ) ,And have found this out in 2000 and over time it gets alot worst.And the dic. end up arupting and i cant get surgery until this happens.So ive been put of the pain pills for the pain for the past 4 and a half years.You can email me at lovelytobe23@yahoo.com ......Take care ........crystal
I read your post and i just cant imagine what you are going through.looseing your child im so sorry about it.I know you have alot going on and feel like you dont know where to turn.There is help and you can get plenty of good advice here.What state are you in?Is your husband wanting the help?He is killing himself fast one or the other of the three is going to kill him.The paint thinner ive never done it before,i have seen and read about people doing it and i have seen and read some bad stuff.If you would like email me let me know what state you are in and i will try to find you some suport.if your husband is willing i can look up some help for him as well.Here in georgia we have state hospitals,state funded rehabs.Also,if he is not willing to go inpatient there is outpatient services also.There are alot of different choices but,he has to be willing to except the help.Im on suboxone and i was at the end of my road i felt if i didnt get help soon i wouldnt be here much longer.Suboxone has really helped save my life and im trying to get on with my life.But,i deal with depresstion everyday.Ive also got the degenal dic. diaease two bloging dic.also otho (detearating bones ) ,And have found this out in 2000 and over time it gets alot worst.And the dic. end up arupting and i cant get surgery until this happens.So ive been put of the pain pills for the pain for the past 4 and a half years.You can email me at lovelytobe23@yahoo.com ......Take care ........crystal
Man, you have been through the wringer......Losing your son like that is so tragic and I'm so sorry.
Your husband on the other hand going from pain killers to inhalents is just plain crazy...It sounds to me like a lot of the pain he is in is from his Heart, Could it be that he is trying to numb the pain of your son's death?
I Ask you this because my brother lost his son at 7 weeks old, his only son & he had him late in life, so he won't be trying for another.
On Oct. 27th it was 8 years that the baby is gone, but my brother went from pain killers to anything he could get high from, Before Michael's death he took pain killers like your husband, for the same reasons, but after the death....he went downhill real bad, He needs to get to a counseler or de-tox program fast so he can deal with these issues.
But you need help too........alanon or a support group for grieving parents, anywhere you can talk about this........You will suffer too if you don't get help for yourself.
God Bless
Dottie
Your husband on the other hand going from pain killers to inhalents is just plain crazy...It sounds to me like a lot of the pain he is in is from his Heart, Could it be that he is trying to numb the pain of your son's death?
I Ask you this because my brother lost his son at 7 weeks old, his only son & he had him late in life, so he won't be trying for another.
On Oct. 27th it was 8 years that the baby is gone, but my brother went from pain killers to anything he could get high from, Before Michael's death he took pain killers like your husband, for the same reasons, but after the death....he went downhill real bad, He needs to get to a counseler or de-tox program fast so he can deal with these issues.
But you need help too........alanon or a support group for grieving parents, anywhere you can talk about this........You will suffer too if you don't get help for yourself.
God Bless
Dottie
I am very sorry for all your troubles life can be a real bit*# . As much as you want to help your husband you may not be able to, but you can get help for yourself. Suboxone man said it Alanon is a great support group, you cant make your husband get help unless he wants it......Even if your husband doesnt want help the strength you will get from Alonon meetings will help you face your problems and give you a new way to think about them, who knows maybe when your husband sees you starting to heal he may even want to change himself....all my Best wishes.........Shel
