My sister is 21 years old and has been a chronic meth user since she was 17. I finally convinced my parents that she was using and they spent way too much money to send her to rehab, which she finished and moved back home. Shortly, after coming home she went back to her old ways, my parents kicked her out and she moved in with her ex-convict boyfriend.
We planned another intervention. When we brought her back home we found she was pregnant and had to get an abortion. My mom thought that she would be able to help her instead of sending her back to rehab (which my sister refused to go back to), so my mom let her get a job and gave her a car to drive to work. I told her it was a bad idea. She didn't listen, so I told her to at least track the mileage she was driving to make sure that she was only going to work. Now they are realizing that she is making side trips, lying, and using occasionally (so she says). I told my mom she has to take away the car, but she says that this won't solve anything. What can I do to help my sister???
You have the right ideas, ...Mom needs to get educated on meth and addiction to it .....as long as mom keeps tippy toeing with your sister ...your sister will continue to use ...
I agree with you ....if she isnt using the car just for work and is running off to score and use .......nothing will change .... Taking away the use of the car wont stop her , but it will make it less convenient to use .
If it means taking her to and from work ...then do it ....
Stopping meth use is not easy , and it wont happen untill your sister decides that is what she really needs to do ....SHE needs to make that choice...and everything you can do to nudge her in that direction will help .
Maybe you and your mom should read through the topic of "parents and partners of addicts" check out a lot of the posts on enabling , and detaching, ..seek out support for yourselves ....you are in for a battle
best wishes AL
I agree with you ....if she isnt using the car just for work and is running off to score and use .......nothing will change .... Taking away the use of the car wont stop her , but it will make it less convenient to use .
If it means taking her to and from work ...then do it ....
Stopping meth use is not easy , and it wont happen untill your sister decides that is what she really needs to do ....SHE needs to make that choice...and everything you can do to nudge her in that direction will help .
Maybe you and your mom should read through the topic of "parents and partners of addicts" check out a lot of the posts on enabling , and detaching, ..seek out support for yourselves ....you are in for a battle
best wishes AL
