I am a 27 year old female who has an almost 31 year old partner who is addicted to marijuana. We have been together for 7 years and in the beginning it wasn't so bad, I wasn't aware of exactly how much and how often he smoked, besides it's something I thought he would grow out of. I have tried to leave so many times but he would say this is it, no more, i'm giving up. Which he did for a little while, it was awesome, he was really with me. He was energised, he got angry, excited, basically he was feeling for the first time in 12 or 13 years. I'd only ever known him as stoned. It didn't last though, his friends would offer or ask him to get it. I am at my wits end, I love him but I don't want to waste any more of my precious years just waiting and hoping to have a connected relationship that I deserve.
If anybody out there has been or is in a similar situation I would love to hear from you.
hallo
i have the same probleme. We have been together for 3 years now. I also wasn't aware of exactly how much and how often he smoked, the times he stoped. It was wonderful, until he gets to the point where he wants to smoke again. I love him alot but i have even put my life to a stop to help him and after all he is still smoking. Same times i just want to say take your stuff and get out i had enough. If i think about him not in my life i want to cry, but get so angry when he smoke. I also dont know what to do? i got a job and went on with my life. so he cant take me under anymore. but what about him now. i really want to help him.
i know how you fell.
i have the same probleme. We have been together for 3 years now. I also wasn't aware of exactly how much and how often he smoked, the times he stoped. It was wonderful, until he gets to the point where he wants to smoke again. I love him alot but i have even put my life to a stop to help him and after all he is still smoking. Same times i just want to say take your stuff and get out i had enough. If i think about him not in my life i want to cry, but get so angry when he smoke. I also dont know what to do? i got a job and went on with my life. so he cant take me under anymore. but what about him now. i really want to help him.
i know how you fell.
Hi Guys or should I say Gals,
I am usually on the PP side but I saw the posts and to me I think you should both post your stories on the Family board. Over there you will find some very wise people who have been where you are and can give you some suggestions.
I just want to let you guys know that your partners have to reach their own bottom. You cant force them to. They have to do it on their own. Are they willing to stop?
Post your stories on the Family board and you will get much needed advice.
Most importantly take care of YOU!
I am usually on the PP side but I saw the posts and to me I think you should both post your stories on the Family board. Over there you will find some very wise people who have been where you are and can give you some suggestions.
I just want to let you guys know that your partners have to reach their own bottom. You cant force them to. They have to do it on their own. Are they willing to stop?
Post your stories on the Family board and you will get much needed advice.
Most importantly take care of YOU!
