I'm a type 1 diabetic with coeliacs disease and bi-polar. I got back with my ex earlier this year after splitting last year, due to his drug abuse. We were ok for the first couple of months after we got back together and he wasn't smoking pot or k2 that often. But then my parents found out we got back together and through me and my son out. So I moved with my ex to his hometown to have a fresh start, cos he promised me that he would stop. It was a big mess when we got to his hometown, because he had no money, had to rely on me to support him, his friend and my son and I could only afford for us to stay at a campsite for a week, but then my funds ran out and we ended up on the street, because him and his friend didn't organise their benefits and were both doing drugs. So me and my son ended up in a womans refuge, while my ex and his friend had to practically live on the street. And the whole time he has been manipulating me, thinking that things would get better and that he would cut back and find a job. Six months later, he has his benefit sorted, but is still smoking heaps of pot and k2, while relying on me to pay for everything else and not even going out to look for work, but I have been door knocking at every business in the town to find work each day. I do all the housework, pay all the bills and most of the food and hardly eat, because he eats most of it when he gets the 'muchies' and I have no money left to afford my diabetic and coeliac food and barely have enough to cover my insulin that keeps me alive each day. I mostly starve myself, so I don't have to take my injections. I'm risking my health because of him.
We are in a flat, thanks to me going to winz to help set us up and not him, he hasn't helped me one bit. All he pays for is some of the food and his drugs and then he ticks up weed bills and I have to pay them or get in trouble with whoever he owes the money too, which has made the bills clock up now, and now I can't even afford to get anything for christmas this year for my son, cos I'm in so much debt cos I'm helping him. He manipulates me into doing what he wants and giving him what he wants without thinking that he's hurting me and my son because he knows that I can't live alone with my condition incase I have a seizure due to low bloodsugar levels and he knows I have no friends or family to support me and my son. I am terrifies I am going to have a massive break down and commit suicide leaving my son with a monster like that. I can't get away from him either and feel completly lost, cos the place we live in is so small and I don't have a car. I sold it to move to his hometown. PLease help me.
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It is not your partner who needs help, it's you...he has all the 'help' he needs and then some. Your money would be better spent on an alert necklace that will summon help for you should you have an episode related to your illness. This man does not love you or care about you and will not stop using you until you take the steps to break free. Right now he has no reason to change a thing because you are taking care of every little thing while he gets high. All that money he is going through could be taking care of you and your son. Why do think that's good enough?
I understand that you feel trapped, but kick him to the curb. It sounds like the flat is yours, not his and if so, ask social services to help you get him removed. It is not your responsibility to keep him off the streets. Go to social services and ask for help...anything would be better than where you are now. What you have now is neither love, nor a loving relationship and you seem aware of it. Please ask someone for help.
Peace ~ MomNMore
It is not your partner who needs help, it's you...he has all the 'help' he needs and then some. Your money would be better spent on an alert necklace that will summon help for you should you have an episode related to your illness. This man does not love you or care about you and will not stop using you until you take the steps to break free. Right now he has no reason to change a thing because you are taking care of every little thing while he gets high. All that money he is going through could be taking care of you and your son. Why do think that's good enough?
I understand that you feel trapped, but kick him to the curb. It sounds like the flat is yours, not his and if so, ask social services to help you get him removed. It is not your responsibility to keep him off the streets. Go to social services and ask for help...anything would be better than where you are now. What you have now is neither love, nor a loving relationship and you seem aware of it. Please ask someone for help.
Peace ~ MomNMore
Your health is suffering, and your sons well being is being affected, he is going with less
because you let this guy control you. He will not change, and as long as you allow him to get away with it, he never will. I am so sorry but there is no love in this relationship. He has food on the table and a place to stay because you allow him too.
Sorry but honestly, any guy that makes you endanger your health, has no love for you, or your son. Say sorry to your family, they were right to not want you with him, they see him for what he is.
Go back to your family who loves you, and want the best for you. You will see your health will improve, and so will your son, remember he is not happy, if you are not.
You both deserves so much better, and one day you will find someone who truly cares for you.
Go to the hospital and get checked up, explain your situation they can help you if you have little medication, they know you need it, and how urgently.
Do not waste anymore bad times on this guy, be strong, your son deserves so much better.
because you let this guy control you. He will not change, and as long as you allow him to get away with it, he never will. I am so sorry but there is no love in this relationship. He has food on the table and a place to stay because you allow him too.
Sorry but honestly, any guy that makes you endanger your health, has no love for you, or your son. Say sorry to your family, they were right to not want you with him, they see him for what he is.
Go back to your family who loves you, and want the best for you. You will see your health will improve, and so will your son, remember he is not happy, if you are not.
You both deserves so much better, and one day you will find someone who truly cares for you.
Go to the hospital and get checked up, explain your situation they can help you if you have little medication, they know you need it, and how urgently.
Do not waste anymore bad times on this guy, be strong, your son deserves so much better.
