I've just had the biggest argument with my younger sister (51) over her crack addicted husband. I own a large home and my 84 year old mother lives with me. My sister came to live with us after she was evicted from an apartment she shared with her husband. Her husband left the state and was gone for 4 years and according to her he was "clean and sober" and wanted to come back and stay with her. I was okay with it at the time. To make a long story short - he is still addicted to crack. He leaves her for several days at a time, mainly when he gets his social security disability check and she has no idea where he is at. When the money is gone - he's back. No rent and no money. She has accepted this for more than a year and I've tried to hold my tongue. I have sat down with her and him and informed them that in order for him to stay in my house he must go to rehab. He didn't go and my sister feels that he does not need rehab-yet she wants me to keep allowing him into my home. The last time he left he came back with bed bug bites all over his body (according to my sister). Today I told her enough was enough and I would not let him come back. She actually called the police and asked them if I was within my rights to not let her "husband" come back into my home. She said that the police said that I must allow him back unless I give him 30 days notice. I know that she did not tell them that he was on drugs. I will not let him back into my house and I am giving her 30 days to find a place for her and her husband. I am through being an enabler for my sister.
Good for you for standing your ground. You are doing the right thing! A tiny bit of advice for you. Go to the courthouse and get a formal eviction notice. My sister and her husband pulled the "you have to give 30 days" card when staying with my mom. She went to the courthouse, talked to someone and found that to be true. So she got a certified eviction notice and the lady at the courthouse helped with that. That way the notice was in writing, very official, so they would have to leave. Cover your behind and talk to the court and find out the best way to give a 30 day notice to have it hold up in court in case he fights you. Unfortunately when someone lives with you for a period of time, they some how have rights and have to be formally evicted, crazy I know!
But stand your ground. You don't need that in your life. Your sister doesn't either but you cant stop her from being with him. What you can do is exactly what you are doing, not allowing it in your home.
But stand your ground. You don't need that in your life. Your sister doesn't either but you cant stop her from being with him. What you can do is exactly what you are doing, not allowing it in your home.
Thank you for your reply. I did get the eviction notice and I had her served. It is so sad that it had to come to this - but I can't stand seeing her blind devotion to this man.
