Thankyou ca for the info. We have since heard that he is wandering around Phoenix using. Some friends are going to try and find him and have him admitted somewhere. He seems to have given up the struggle. Gave his dog that he loves to his ex girlfriend, pawned his guitar that is his most prized possession and stole from friends to get there. He has never resorted to crime before. We are living in dread of THAT call and hope he turns up before its too late. Does anyone know the legal requirements of having someone committed to a detox center. He is a danger to himself right now. If he is willing to surrender and get treatment, once detoxed, we are going to try and find a long term place for him to recover and relearn coping skills, handle his guilt and shame etc. It is a long and painful process to come clean and face these realities, but does anyone out there believe it can be accomplished? Can a longtime addict truly find and live a sober life? I am losing hope. If a mothers love was the answer, he would be cured, but I don't know how to help him. Like everyone out there struggling with this disease, we are in anguish. How much do we help and how much is it his deal to fight for his life? Please share.
Hi Te,
The is always hope. I believe that your son can still be helped. I have just recently gotten clean after being addicted for years. It was a long drawn out process and I know I still have a long way to go in order to process all the guilt etc that I am suffering with now, but everyday I get stronger and everyday that I wake up clean I feel stronger. There is a life after being an addict for so long. I used regularly for about 6 years then got on Methadone, which didn't help much at all. I just used on top of it. Then the last 2 years I switched to Sub. Sub was a real life saver, I believe, as I didn't use while I was on Sub, but I was at the stage where I didn't want to use anymore. I was sick of the life and knew that if I didn't try and help myself soon that I was literally throwing my life away. It's funny how ageing itself can be a wake up call.
I guess what I am trying to say is that if I can stop using and stay clean after being on H for almost 9/10 years then anyone can. Don't get me wrong it is not easy and I went through hell getting it together but I have no regrets, I'm clean and there is no going back.
My mother was the rock that I needed to get through this and still is. She never gave up on me, athough I wouldn't have blamed her if she had. Your son sounds like he is in that place where everything is spiraling out of control. It is hard to get through to an addict when they are in that place but it is also the time when they need you the most.
I know that I had to be ready myself before I would accept help from anyone else. Don't give up on him.
Kyle
The is always hope. I believe that your son can still be helped. I have just recently gotten clean after being addicted for years. It was a long drawn out process and I know I still have a long way to go in order to process all the guilt etc that I am suffering with now, but everyday I get stronger and everyday that I wake up clean I feel stronger. There is a life after being an addict for so long. I used regularly for about 6 years then got on Methadone, which didn't help much at all. I just used on top of it. Then the last 2 years I switched to Sub. Sub was a real life saver, I believe, as I didn't use while I was on Sub, but I was at the stage where I didn't want to use anymore. I was sick of the life and knew that if I didn't try and help myself soon that I was literally throwing my life away. It's funny how ageing itself can be a wake up call.
I guess what I am trying to say is that if I can stop using and stay clean after being on H for almost 9/10 years then anyone can. Don't get me wrong it is not easy and I went through hell getting it together but I have no regrets, I'm clean and there is no going back.
My mother was the rock that I needed to get through this and still is. She never gave up on me, athough I wouldn't have blamed her if she had. Your son sounds like he is in that place where everything is spiraling out of control. It is hard to get through to an addict when they are in that place but it is also the time when they need you the most.
I know that I had to be ready myself before I would accept help from anyone else. Don't give up on him.
Kyle
Kyle
Thankyou for your reply. I am desperately trying to hold on. Have not heard from my son nor has anyone else and I am in an agony of fear for his safety. My thoughts are, if he calls, to urge him to call an intervention hot line and get into a detox. I pray he will. He had an appointment yesterday at the clinic to get his scrip for suboxne but never went, obviously chose to use again. Why? I thought the sub was supposed to help him stay off the H. I dont understand.
He claims he cant live this way anymore but cant take the help that is there. It is a helpless feeling to not be able to help your own child. He has detoxed in and out of hospitals so many times in the past ten years, and each time is worse than the one before. I am so afraid he is dead in some house or his car and I just cant handle this. Just dont know what to do other than pray to God to look out for him. Things have NEVER been this critical before. I feel he has given up.
Thankyou for your reply. I am desperately trying to hold on. Have not heard from my son nor has anyone else and I am in an agony of fear for his safety. My thoughts are, if he calls, to urge him to call an intervention hot line and get into a detox. I pray he will. He had an appointment yesterday at the clinic to get his scrip for suboxne but never went, obviously chose to use again. Why? I thought the sub was supposed to help him stay off the H. I dont understand.
He claims he cant live this way anymore but cant take the help that is there. It is a helpless feeling to not be able to help your own child. He has detoxed in and out of hospitals so many times in the past ten years, and each time is worse than the one before. I am so afraid he is dead in some house or his car and I just cant handle this. Just dont know what to do other than pray to God to look out for him. Things have NEVER been this critical before. I feel he has given up.
TE,
being an addicted i know how helpless life can feel. even when help is right in front of you it is so hard to take. heroin grabs ahold of you and comsumes you. your thinking isn't clear anymore and help doesn't seem like help. sometimes it can seem like the total opposit. you feel like your drowning and you'll never be able to catch your breath. it may be hard for you to understand. your son may want the help but can't exactly see it there, to him it may be hidden. this evil plays tricks on your mind it makes you think its the only way. your body and mind crave it and need it.
i do hope your son is okay, and that he will find his way back up. you are in my prayers.
keep your head up
raerae
being an addicted i know how helpless life can feel. even when help is right in front of you it is so hard to take. heroin grabs ahold of you and comsumes you. your thinking isn't clear anymore and help doesn't seem like help. sometimes it can seem like the total opposit. you feel like your drowning and you'll never be able to catch your breath. it may be hard for you to understand. your son may want the help but can't exactly see it there, to him it may be hidden. this evil plays tricks on your mind it makes you think its the only way. your body and mind crave it and need it.
i do hope your son is okay, and that he will find his way back up. you are in my prayers.
keep your head up
raerae
Raerae
Thanks for the reply. It helps to know that others understand the complexities of addiction and the struggle it is for the addict and those who love him/her.
Thankyou for keeping us in your heart and prayers. My prayers tonight will be for everyone suffering from the ravages of this disease
God bless
Te
Thanks for the reply. It helps to know that others understand the complexities of addiction and the struggle it is for the addict and those who love him/her.
Thankyou for keeping us in your heart and prayers. My prayers tonight will be for everyone suffering from the ravages of this disease
God bless
Te
