= Concerned....He's manipulated most everyone he has come into contact withe to avoid him to keep myself sane. I am just wondering...just wondering.... Is he still out there.....Prayers upon prayers daily......Just breathe and be strong my son....Love you and always will. Don't know how to answer anymore.... Yes, Love, No, don't talk to me; don't answer your phone.....just being ---- MOM
Hazelden - it works or it doesn't work. It's expanding which in my opinion indicates our Nation is failing to control DRUGS as we have NEVER known it before.
Millions of dollars are being spent to 'help our loved ones get better'. My son was part of this group. He bypassed their security measures and created a loop hole that none of us want to acknowledge. I picked him up from the 'safe house' and I was asked never to return until I could get him under control. I had paid thousands of dollars for THEIR experts to help me get my son back and here I was faced with the most unforgiving situation in my life - pick my son up from THE most WANTED rehab in the US!!! I was to take him home and make it all "work" without the PROFESSIONAL HELP, promised over and over again. HELLO WORLD> It just does not happen that easily. He was kicked out after ONE breach and while my money was reimbursed, was faced with the reality that I was ON MY OWN -- No one was forthcoming...Gone - bye- bye-----
In my opinion, Hazelden, expects their patients and their lives to be PERFECT or close to text book perfect. It is not going to happen that way, baby! I have been what I call "Hazelden Free', for a year and 2 months now. I get their lovely monthly letters to join their perfect world of 'events' I've asked to be removed from their mailing list yet I continue to receive, therefore I am freely giving my live with their support documented here.... I have never received a call to see how 'I or my son' are doing. Just come visit if you are able to. Well, it is obvious it is not going to happen now or any time in my immediate future. Where is the 'give and you shall receive....without condtions? Not happening in this situation. Struggle, give and don't expect a thing from therm.....
I am upset, angry disappointed, heart-broken and at my wits end.
My son is now 23 years old. Obama care is taking care of him. I've given him over to YOU, the US of A and our lovely tax payers are paying for his medical care. He's lost all his friends. He is working but every day is a struggle. Why oh why are we as a nation not making it a crime to anyone that has the ability to make these drugs readily available? They should have their own lives taken from them and be forced to live a week in their shoes. Obama is killing our nation. Who is going to work to pay the taxes to pay for the medial to pay for all that don't work.....NOT HAPPENING EVER or EVER!!!
God speed and I pray I am the only Mom out there surviving this hell on a daily basis....
YOU NEED TO LOVE YOURSELF...NOW and FOREVER
Unconditionally...
Patience, love, GOD, prayers, and repeat.......
Signed ----
Yeah - It's signed as "Ian's MOM"
Peace and Prayers --- forever peace!
Millions of dollars are being spent to 'help our loved ones get better'. My son was part of this group. He bypassed their security measures and created a loop hole that none of us want to acknowledge. I picked him up from the 'safe house' and I was asked never to return until I could get him under control. I had paid thousands of dollars for THEIR experts to help me get my son back and here I was faced with the most unforgiving situation in my life - pick my son up from THE most WANTED rehab in the US!!! I was to take him home and make it all "work" without the PROFESSIONAL HELP, promised over and over again. HELLO WORLD> It just does not happen that easily. He was kicked out after ONE breach and while my money was reimbursed, was faced with the reality that I was ON MY OWN -- No one was forthcoming...Gone - bye- bye-----
In my opinion, Hazelden, expects their patients and their lives to be PERFECT or close to text book perfect. It is not going to happen that way, baby! I have been what I call "Hazelden Free', for a year and 2 months now. I get their lovely monthly letters to join their perfect world of 'events' I've asked to be removed from their mailing list yet I continue to receive, therefore I am freely giving my live with their support documented here.... I have never received a call to see how 'I or my son' are doing. Just come visit if you are able to. Well, it is obvious it is not going to happen now or any time in my immediate future. Where is the 'give and you shall receive....without condtions? Not happening in this situation. Struggle, give and don't expect a thing from therm.....
I am upset, angry disappointed, heart-broken and at my wits end.
My son is now 23 years old. Obama care is taking care of him. I've given him over to YOU, the US of A and our lovely tax payers are paying for his medical care. He's lost all his friends. He is working but every day is a struggle. Why oh why are we as a nation not making it a crime to anyone that has the ability to make these drugs readily available? They should have their own lives taken from them and be forced to live a week in their shoes. Obama is killing our nation. Who is going to work to pay the taxes to pay for the medial to pay for all that don't work.....NOT HAPPENING EVER or EVER!!!
God speed and I pray I am the only Mom out there surviving this hell on a daily basis....
YOU NEED TO LOVE YOURSELF...NOW and FOREVER
Unconditionally...
Patience, love, GOD, prayers, and repeat.......
Signed ----
Yeah - It's signed as "Ian's MOM"
Peace and Prayers --- forever peace!
My anger got the best of me towards the end in my last post.
Forgive me. I pray none of you ever have to go through what I did; probably will but I pray you don't ....
Godspeed!
Forgive me. I pray none of you ever have to go through what I did; probably will but I pray you don't ....
Godspeed!
you arent the only mom..not every addict is going to get better, very few actually do imo. glossy rehabs promising success and happiness..as parents we want to have them magically fixed, somebody fix them come over to the family board momg
Ian's Mom, of course you are angry. I am sorry for your pain.
Please, take MomG's advice and go to the Family part of the board.
You are right that it works or it doesn't. Ultimately it is up to Ian. Not you and not Hazeldon. Hearing you I hear the pain my own mother sufferd and it's rare you'll get a voice that tells YOU what you need to do. See, us addicts get all the support, attention, advice, and so on while you're at work and home worrying.
Right now this may not help, but I am a recovering heroin addict and got years in clean now. I'm a weakling, blubbering fool so if I could do it so can Ian. He's on the right track by trying to get help. We need to want it.
Definately I get you about the treatment facility. Wasn't in that one, but a few others. However, the last one I was in was not rehab, but detox. No Hazeldon that is for sure. No Promises. No therapy, no nothing. Next step to jail and guess what? Been clean since. That did it. So there is hope. Please check in with all the Family members that have been through it over there. They know their stuff.
Sending Ian prayers as well.
Please, take MomG's advice and go to the Family part of the board.
You are right that it works or it doesn't. Ultimately it is up to Ian. Not you and not Hazeldon. Hearing you I hear the pain my own mother sufferd and it's rare you'll get a voice that tells YOU what you need to do. See, us addicts get all the support, attention, advice, and so on while you're at work and home worrying.
Right now this may not help, but I am a recovering heroin addict and got years in clean now. I'm a weakling, blubbering fool so if I could do it so can Ian. He's on the right track by trying to get help. We need to want it.
Definately I get you about the treatment facility. Wasn't in that one, but a few others. However, the last one I was in was not rehab, but detox. No Hazeldon that is for sure. No Promises. No therapy, no nothing. Next step to jail and guess what? Been clean since. That did it. So there is hope. Please check in with all the Family members that have been through it over there. They know their stuff.
Sending Ian prayers as well.
Ian will get clean when Ian wants to get clean...when the pain of using exceeds the pleasure he gets from it, and rehab of any kind will be fruitless as long as he is going for someone else's reasons instead of his own. Hazelden is no different than any other facility in that they have clear rules and expectations for acceptable behavior and if the patient cannot abide by those rules they are done, which is just as it should be. This outcome rests squarely on your son's shoulders...choose the behavior, choose the consequences.
Our daughter went to long term rehab (15+ month) and filled her recovery toolbox with tools she used later. While she was there she was most often engaged in her recovery and working towards goals, she knew she needed what they had to offer, but within ten days of leaving she relapsed badly and ended up in jail 2000 miles from home. We brought her home and she managed to stay clean for awhile, but then slid into heroin addiction and finally had to be asked to leave home because we had done all we could. It took her several more tries to get and stay clean and that time included job loss, friends distancing themselves, and an OD requiring hospitalization...all of these outcomes were a direct result of her actions.
I am sorry for your pain and understand your frustration...I have been where you are.
Peace ~ MomNMore
Our daughter went to long term rehab (15+ month) and filled her recovery toolbox with tools she used later. While she was there she was most often engaged in her recovery and working towards goals, she knew she needed what they had to offer, but within ten days of leaving she relapsed badly and ended up in jail 2000 miles from home. We brought her home and she managed to stay clean for awhile, but then slid into heroin addiction and finally had to be asked to leave home because we had done all we could. It took her several more tries to get and stay clean and that time included job loss, friends distancing themselves, and an OD requiring hospitalization...all of these outcomes were a direct result of her actions.
I am sorry for your pain and understand your frustration...I have been where you are.
Peace ~ MomNMore
i love and miss my son too, but he was lost to drugs a long time ago, clean on and off in jail but you cannot force them, you can talk and coerce till you are blue in the face, but it has to be them. i tried anger, material objects, guilt, love none of it worked so i love him and thats all i can do
