I would like advice on dealing with someone addicted to pain pills prescribed by a doctor for back pain who is also an alcoholic. I would like my husband to get help and have asked him to leave the house until he starts to improve. We have two kids who see us fight all the time and we have had several bad incidents over the years. He wants to be home and work on it but I do not feel comfortable with this option as I know we will fight and he is still on the pills and probably still drinking. He feels sorry for himself and says things like "what am I supposed to do?" Like where I am supposed to live. Please tell me your opinion of what the "right" thing to do is!
I have a HUGE opinion about this as I too have an addict husband that I want OUT of our house until he can get clean.
Of course the addict doesn't want to be thrown out of his comfortable home where he can continue to use as he pleases!
My husband whines about no place to go and REFUSES to leave. He knows that I can't physically kick him out unless a JUDGE finalizes a divorce and forces him out because the wife is awarded the home. OR..... you could get a restraining order against him and the police won't let him within a certain amount of feet of you or your kids.
You could try adult protective services... as he may be a danger to you, your kids and himself. Not sure what they can or will do.... I tried that and they took him to the hospital for a few hours then released him because he wasn't threatening to kill himself. Hospitals won't keep a drug addict to detox.. It is a horrible situation to be in for sure. I feel your pain. Your only hope is to ask him to leave and he respects your wishes.
For your sake, I hope he will as he most likely will NEVER stop using while he is comfortable in his home. Some addicts have to lose everything before they CHOOSE to stop. And remember... it is a CHOICE he is making.
Good Luck!
Of course the addict doesn't want to be thrown out of his comfortable home where he can continue to use as he pleases!
My husband whines about no place to go and REFUSES to leave. He knows that I can't physically kick him out unless a JUDGE finalizes a divorce and forces him out because the wife is awarded the home. OR..... you could get a restraining order against him and the police won't let him within a certain amount of feet of you or your kids.
You could try adult protective services... as he may be a danger to you, your kids and himself. Not sure what they can or will do.... I tried that and they took him to the hospital for a few hours then released him because he wasn't threatening to kill himself. Hospitals won't keep a drug addict to detox.. It is a horrible situation to be in for sure. I feel your pain. Your only hope is to ask him to leave and he respects your wishes.
For your sake, I hope he will as he most likely will NEVER stop using while he is comfortable in his home. Some addicts have to lose everything before they CHOOSE to stop. And remember... it is a CHOICE he is making.
Good Luck!
Thanks for your support. He is not in the house now but wants to come back but I would like him to be off everything first
Its not healthy for the kids witnessing you and your husband fight. Regarding his drinking, you can ask him to attend some of AA meetings. They surely can help him manage the withdrawal and personal issues.
