Hi. Mt husband has been off of Oxycotines for 8 days. He was doing 3-80's a day. Our marriage was falling apart and the bills were piling up so his mother and I stepped in and confonted him. he has been taking some kind of pills for 13 years. He is having a really hard time. I don't know what to do. Getting high is all he talks about. He says he's bored. I don't know what to do. I know at this rate he is going to get high if I can't think of something to distract, or keep his mind off of pills. I can't keep living like this. does anyone have any suggestions? I'm new at this and want to be there for him, but I just am at a loss of what to do.
Hi Tara;
Short-term, I would get him to an NA or AA meeting asap (he probably knows the drill). Visit www.na.org and www.aa.org for a list of meetings in your area.
Longer-term, if he's been on drugs for thirteen years there may be an underlying medical condition that either a doctor or counselor can assist with.
Good luck to you. He has eight days clean, good for him. But I know from my expereince that just stopping the pills does not solve the problem.
Jim
Short-term, I would get him to an NA or AA meeting asap (he probably knows the drill). Visit www.na.org and www.aa.org for a list of meetings in your area.
Longer-term, if he's been on drugs for thirteen years there may be an underlying medical condition that either a doctor or counselor can assist with.
Good luck to you. He has eight days clean, good for him. But I know from my expereince that just stopping the pills does not solve the problem.
Jim
Tara, I feel for you. I too was so hooked on the oxy.... it's not only a pain killer, feeling number, but when I took it, I dwelled on it. It was on my mind constantly, when can I take my next dose... is it time yet? When I was switched to morphine, I stopped thinking about that next dose all the time (a lesser of the evils I suppose). OXY is a med that has such CONTROL. However, I myself want to be rid of the addiction monster altogether... after trying cold turkey for nine days as your husband did, I ended up failing. Couldn't handle the pain and just lying there waiting to feel better. I was lucky enough to be referred to a doctor who prescribes suboxone. I can't say it's a perfect solution, it also has opiate in it, but also an atagonist which keeps a person from doing any other opiates. It's a way for a person to slowly taper off, while giving life back. A way to get up and about. He must want this though. He must want to get off. He needs to know what he's missing in life. I was on them for 8 years, what a reality check to realize wasting all that time. I hope he wants to find a path away from the meds, perhaps suboxone/buprenex might help. I wish you, his mother and he all the best. Search the internet to find out about this alternative, perhaps it might be something you may want to consider.
Life after oxycontin can be very flat and boring for a long time. He needs excercise to help stimulate endorphins. Buy him the new Carmen Electra video.
Tara, he's lucky to have a wife who cares for him and loves him, even when he's down. But you can't keep him off the pills, and it's not your responsibility. You could think of the best distractions in the world, but it comes down to his willingness and desire. There are a lot of resources available to him in recovery, NA is one of the best. If he didn't detox alone, he's probably aware of it already. God Bless You, M.
Hi, my son is home detoxing with medication prescribed by a doctoe and daily doctor visits as well as therapy, it is the hardest thing i have ever seen, he too is bored wants to go out and be with his freinds and i am scared to death for him
it is so hard to know what to do...are we being supportive or enabling and aexactly how much control over it do we actually have--can we keep our loved ones clean? i wish you well and your husband more drug free days
it is so hard to know what to do...are we being supportive or enabling and aexactly how much control over it do we actually have--can we keep our loved ones clean? i wish you well and your husband more drug free days
Tara, Gina's "Hi All!" post from today might be of some interest to you and carolyn as you struggle to find the right way to support your loved ones. I hope you both find the right balance. Peace, M.