Dear all,
My brother J, has been two years free from alcohol and prescription drugs addiction. He works in a rehab and has shown tremendous improvement and everyone at his office is very happy with him. However, he has few issues like he has the habit of overreacting to things, and not able to maintain his cool and at times it becomes difficult to convince him. Recently, since the last two months, he has been in company of wrong people who are drinking and using. I tried to convince him a lot to stop a lot, i tried talking to him with love, but now he is hell bent that he will not leave his friends as he is still clean and thinks that he can control himself. And I have been adamant that I will not listen to this. So, now he is threatening me that if I dont stop telling him to leave his friends, he ll again start doing alcolhol and drugs. Please help and advice. I want to save my brother.
Regard
SK
you cannot save your brother-i am sorry- only he can decide to stay clean- but i would be worried that he is using his recovery to blackmail you- it sounds like he is trying to rationalise in his own head an exscuse to use again- if he does this- it IS NOT YOUR FAULT-and do not fall into the trap of FEELING GUILTY-YOU ARE NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR HIS ACTIONS-if he is going to stay clean he needs to take responsibility for his own actions and HIS RECOVERY-any choice he makes IS HIS CHOICE-you have to let go and look after yourself do not let this affect your well being- i truly hope he makes the right choices- there is a poem on the bottom left of the page called let me fall all by myself- it is worth a read - it really says it all - i wish you and your brother the best of luck
