Hello, I'm new to this board and I need some advice. I have been married to my alcoholic husband for over 16 years now. This past summer I basically had a nervous breakdown trying to cope with him and other issues in my life. I am a christian and God put a AA christian based organization that is through my church, and my husband recieved help through them and stayed sober for a couple of months. I know he is drinking again, but hiding it from me. He is out of town working but will be home tomorrow or friday. I am confident now.....at this moment that I can have a calm and to the point conversation with him. Set my boundaries and ask him what are his plans now that he is drinking again. I love him with all my heart and I think that he will go back to his meetings, but there is no guarantee of this. He may lie and deny. Does anyone have another idea about confronting him with this? He isn't abusive, and I don't want to press him into a corner with an intervention. He has to want to get better, I know I cannot do it for him. Please keep me in your prayers.
This is really tough.
The addiction of another person is something that is absolutely out of our control.
It is good to hear that he is not the aggressive type because this is usually a very major issue.
Unfortunately no matter how you address the issue or talk to them, they will not change until they make that decision themselves.
And of course even if they try to give up the addiction it is a lifetime battle.
At this point seems like you have to really worry about your own well being and not sink into a deeper depression.
The entourage is very directly affected by the addiction.
It is really good that you take shelter of your faith.
I have heard really good things about this faith based association that helps with addiction.
You might want to check it out and speak to them too.
http://teenchallengeusa.com/about
The addiction of another person is something that is absolutely out of our control.
It is good to hear that he is not the aggressive type because this is usually a very major issue.
Unfortunately no matter how you address the issue or talk to them, they will not change until they make that decision themselves.
And of course even if they try to give up the addiction it is a lifetime battle.
At this point seems like you have to really worry about your own well being and not sink into a deeper depression.
The entourage is very directly affected by the addiction.
It is really good that you take shelter of your faith.
I have heard really good things about this faith based association that helps with addiction.
You might want to check it out and speak to them too.
http://teenchallengeusa.com/about
Thanks for your input, I will check out the teen challenge website.
Hi I'm new to the sight. My boyfriend of one year is
A recovering addict. Clean for years. When we started
Dating things were great we got along like we were
Together our whole lives. About four months in he said he didn't
Love me anymore and needed time to figure out his life
We got back together within a few weeks then four months later
He did it again. I'm confused and don't understand
Could it be because of his past? Do recovering addicts
Not. Know how to commit??? Please help
A recovering addict. Clean for years. When we started
Dating things were great we got along like we were
Together our whole lives. About four months in he said he didn't
Love me anymore and needed time to figure out his life
We got back together within a few weeks then four months later
He did it again. I'm confused and don't understand
Could it be because of his past? Do recovering addicts
Not. Know how to commit??? Please help
