Hi.
I am new to this site and was just looking for advice. I have a new boyfriend, he is a recovering heroin addict. I've never seen him do it as this was before I came along. We are a very new thing. He's been clean a year at this point and doing well.
I have been reading abut addiction, I have never been an addict myself and I am learning about it. Am I making a dumb decision for being with him?
He's wonderful to me. Will I know if he starts doing it again? I like him a lot, he has been pretty much doing his recovery by himself and doing great. He's been to rehabs in the past and doing it himself is more his style.
Is a year clean a long time? He seems like he's doing great, but I can't stop thinking about what if he does it again. I have kids that I can't have exposed to that, and He's great to us, and him and I really like each other a lot and we are happy. I just am afraid he's gonna go back to that and I have to walk away. It's a different area of trust I have never had to deal with.
I'm sure there are plenty of people who walked away from heroin and stayed away and lived a perfectly normal life after that, what are the chances he will do that?
Is he attending NA (recovery meetings)?
No he's not. I've read a ton and feel as though anyone with this type of addiction should be going to meetings etc. He has done this in the past and doesn't like it, says he does better without it. He was clean 3 years at one point with no meetings, then relapsed and has been clean a year at this point.
Can people be successful this way?
He says he knows he can be, and never wants to go back to that life.
Can people be successful this way?
He says he knows he can be, and never wants to go back to that life.
Hi Marie, Look on the web and read up on the drugs your boyfriend takes. It will help you answer your own question. There would be no AA/NA if people didn't need them. In all the posts I have read on here the people who have managed to stay clean are the ones that have went to AA/NA and also incorporated religion into their lives too. This is what I have read over and over again. Plus getting over addiction takes a long time. How can you tell he isn't using just now? Even if he says he's not. Be careful what choice you make here before you get in too deep.Because when he is on drugs and wants more nothing will be more important to him than drugs, not even you!! Good Luck, Mary.
Marie:
I'm sure that there are Nar-Anon and Al-Anon meetings in your area.
I strongly suggest you look them up and attend their meetings.
They are for friends & family of addicts & alcoholics.
You will learn a lot - they will help you.
http://www.nar-anon.org/ http://www.al-anon.org/
Click on "find a meeting"
All the best.
Bob R
I'm sure that there are Nar-Anon and Al-Anon meetings in your area.
I strongly suggest you look them up and attend their meetings.
They are for friends & family of addicts & alcoholics.
You will learn a lot - they will help you.
http://www.nar-anon.org/ http://www.al-anon.org/
Click on "find a meeting"
All the best.
Bob R
