Hey folks, to start with I am not a heroin addict, but a recovering vicodin addict. So many people have helped me here and I posted a message with my email to help in return, someone contacted me and we have conversed through IM. I will send the person an email to this link, so she can post if she feels to. All I know is she is in the UK, says she is not on drugs but has a boyfriend who is. This guy has stole from her, and comes and goes, and is now homeless. She last saw him on Monday and is heartbroken, she still loves him as they have had an 8 year relationship(if you can call it that.)
1 . My main concern is her. He is homeless in a town called York while she lives in a town called Oldham. She says she can write him letters.
Back to her, first and formost I think she needs to go to a meeting similar to Al-anon but for loved ones of drugs, not liquor. I've been googling but yet to find anything. As I said she will be seeing this link as I will send it to her, so respond in any way you can if you have appropriate information. I think she needs to help herself before she can even attempt to help him. She says his parents want nothing to do with him. She works Weds and thurs nights and says this interferes with the one support group she does know. If anyone can guide her to any meetings in her area that would be great, remember though she (at least claims) is not an addict, so finding the right type of meeting is key.
2. Her Boyfriend. He is homeless now in york and has the means to write to him. She says in the UK doctor's dont take addicts, and cant find any recovery centers, I dont accept that..there has to be a place he can go. If anyone knows of anything to help her please do so. Her being in the UK may make this difficult though. I will continue to search for help for her, I figured I'd throw the board into the mix too.
Lets all pray for her and her boyfriend, for both a healthy and mental recovery from the 2 different hells they are now in. Thank you in advance. - Chris
thankyou for that chris im just glad i can talk to somebody bout this your a godsend, there are few doctors that will take on new patients that are addicts its difficult to find one in the area near to where one lives here they make excuses up when they find out your a user thats what i came to know from my partner when he tried to register soon as they found out he was a user they made up an excuse or something similar .There are just 3 places in town i know of that offer supprt and help i dont know how it is anywhere else i look forward to any offers of advice and chris thankyou once again for taking the time to chat with me
Your welcome Unicorn, I will do what I can. I am a novice at this, and honestly right now do not trust my own judgement with giving advice, considering I'm only 12 days clean. But I'm sure more experienced people will jump in and guide you, as they have guided me in the right direction. - Chris
..Doctors dont actually take on addicts as patients here in the uk as far as i know ?..but they do refer you on to drug treatment centres or can give you advice on where to go for help .. im in london so i dont know of anywhere you can go to in the areas you typed..but maybe if you google -- N/A meetings in Lancashire or Greater Manchester (whatever your county comes under unicorn)..hope you find what your looking for..take care..And good luck to you chris in getting free from addiction..Robbie..
thanks for that robbie you said it exactly how it is i was finding it hard to explain it glad you read this to say it how it is
The important thing is not to give up. And rememeber Unicorn, although you have a loved one who is an addict, you have to think of yourself. He made his choices, there is no reason for you to pay for them. Take care of yourself first, you have extended your hand to him many a time, and he has not taken it, only taken you, and stolen from you. You do not deserve this. I know you love him, but tough love is in need here. If he brings himself down, do you want him to bring you down with you? What if he hurt a relative of yours? a pet? Someone you really cared about, how much are you going to take..and how much is it going to take for you to be mad at him for thinking about his next high, and not you. Harsh words spoken with care, You will be in my prayer's. - Chris
Being in the Us I am sorry i cannot offer any help, but you have gotten some great advice here........I will keep you in my prayers
I just wanted to bump this message up. I feel so horrible for this situation I just want more people to see it. - Chris
Hi Chris, I am in ireland and this is my first time to write to a chat room of any kind but am so worried about my 21year old son who is addicted to herion. he wants to get clean and is going next week for an assesment to get into a drug treatment center but he may be put on a waiting list and i dont know how long it will take him to get in and if he will even survive till then because i cant believe how much he has gone downhill in the last few weeks. he's not really eating or washing too often which is a total turn around for him as he used to love his food and always showered every day.
there's probably not much you can say but even writing to someone who understands will be a help.
there's probably not much you can say but even writing to someone who understands will be a help.
..Hi Joanna and welcome to the board..
..When a person trys heroin for the first time..they think that they can control it as they begin to use a bit more after..but after a while it takes over your life and begins to control you..it takes your dignity and self respect away..your sons probably only interested in one thing ? heroin..hes probably lost that feeling of not caring no more about his self and not wanting to wash etc etc and just sits around not doing much with his life ?..even eating properly goes out the window..he might of fallen into some kind of depression ?.getting into treatment centres and getting scripted does take time..but if your sons really wanting to stop..maybe he can try cut down his usage while he waiting to be seen at the treatment centre..that way he won't need to go onto a high dosage of methadone/subutex..also you should post on the familys and partners side of the board..as there are real good people over that side going through the same as you are regarding their sons/daughters and will offer you the support/advice you need..good luck to you both..Robbie..
..When a person trys heroin for the first time..they think that they can control it as they begin to use a bit more after..but after a while it takes over your life and begins to control you..it takes your dignity and self respect away..your sons probably only interested in one thing ? heroin..hes probably lost that feeling of not caring no more about his self and not wanting to wash etc etc and just sits around not doing much with his life ?..even eating properly goes out the window..he might of fallen into some kind of depression ?.getting into treatment centres and getting scripted does take time..but if your sons really wanting to stop..maybe he can try cut down his usage while he waiting to be seen at the treatment centre..that way he won't need to go onto a high dosage of methadone/subutex..also you should post on the familys and partners side of the board..as there are real good people over that side going through the same as you are regarding their sons/daughters and will offer you the support/advice you need..good luck to you both..Robbie..
hi robbie, thank you for answering me so promptly. you described my son exactly. he does seem to be very depressed. he broke up with his girlfriend of 2 years over all this, but it was only after the family found out about his herion addiction that she told me that was the reason, he had begged her not to tell us and threatened suicide if she did. thank you for your good wishes and will try the family side as you suggested. joanna
