I donot know what to do anymore. I love him so much. He just got out of detox 3 days ago and has already fell 2 twice. He was supposed to start other treatments. Tomorrow and now he can not because of tbr dope. Please help. Any advice.
I'm sorry but there is nothing you really can do. Three day detox is a joke. He has to want this and have help and a support system other than you. Inpatient may be another suggestion but still he has to want it. I know it is difficult and hurts incredibly bad. We are both on the addicts rollercoaster. Try to take care of you first. Maybe try nar-anon meeting for support and education. Addicts first love is their drug. We can't compete. Stay Strong.
He was in detox for 7 days and got clean and as soon as he got out he used 2 times . He was suppose to go to another program for 2 months that is inhouse support and counseling for his addition.
Now he is not able too because of his habit. I have tried everything to help him stop. He has drained me . He has totalled all the cars we have because of his problem. I have separated from him hopeing he would want to get clean and be with me. I do love him so.but. i guess he loves the herion more
. I feel alone and do not know what to do. I
Now he is not able too because of his habit. I have tried everything to help him stop. He has drained me . He has totalled all the cars we have because of his problem. I have separated from him hopeing he would want to get clean and be with me. I do love him so.but. i guess he loves the herion more
. I feel alone and do not know what to do. I
Unfortunately the health care system and insurance companies don't understand what addiction is and how much is required to help someone who wants help. We are on the addicts rollercoaster of life. I finally realized I was not living my life I was/am living hers. I love her very much. She is almost as amazing as our 5 month old daughter. She has been taking her scripts as prescribed and maybe even less. She abused and lost custody of our newborn to her mother. Lost all my trust and has not really tried to get it back. So many lies. Hard to believe anything. She lost EVERYTHING in her life and is very close to losing me too. I'm too old to live my life like this. Trying to get my self-esteem and insecurities under control. Lost all motivation in life. I don't have anyone to do simple things like cook, shop or goto or watch a movie with. All alone with my dog in a big house with a nursery that hasn't been used. The pity party is coming to the end. I'm responsible for my happiness. Trying nar-anon, therapy, even court ordered aoda (18 year old dui ticket). All helps but not what I wanted. Life sucks sometimes but goes on. I will keep trying. I have to be the best me and the parent my daughter deserves.
A week of detox will do NOTHING! two weeks will do NOTHING, even a month will do NOTHING if he doesnt want it. It's all on him honestly. As long as he doesn't hit rock bottom he won't want to get clean. As long as your there for him like he never did anything wrong, he's going to think exactly that, that he hasn't done anything wrong.
It's so hard honestly, I'm currently dating a recovering addict, he's currently in rehab i don't know for how long, it's been 3weeks so far and as much as I hate it, I want the old him back, so if that means distancing myself for him to realize when he gets back everything will not be the same again, he has to prove hes working on him. As I tell him, he has no future, if he continues to feed the demon.
Demon=heroin.
It's so hard honestly, I'm currently dating a recovering addict, he's currently in rehab i don't know for how long, it's been 3weeks so far and as much as I hate it, I want the old him back, so if that means distancing myself for him to realize when he gets back everything will not be the same again, he has to prove hes working on him. As I tell him, he has no future, if he continues to feed the demon.
Demon=heroin.
detox 3 days will never work I have been detoxing every weekend for 2 years and nothing works untill i found naltrexone inplant but go for the 12 month inplant but do yourself a favour detox for 4 days before inplant do not use a day before for you will withdrael like never before but if clean no withdrael when insirted . i was using herion for 18 yeaers and tried everything out there ibogain,methadone,suboxone,subetex nothing worked for me BUT the inplant changed it all have not hade one craving to use herion its like its just wiped from your mind !! i am on my 3 one and rarher use naltraxone for 10 years than go back to hell !! all the best hope you come wight can give you contact nr if intristed
Dear K and Being Me, Ok Not that anyone asked my opinion but as my son has been infected with drugs for the last ten years I Will share what I have been forced to face ...I truly believe that our health care system is about managing money....You have pencil pushers deciding that a diease such as addiction can be addressed in 3 days....fools....we want to classify it as a diease but fail short of addressing it as such. ..I have lived the roller coaster ride of addiction 10 years...I have done it all even gone so far as speaking to state senators...it all falls upon deaf ears...it's about money period...I challange anyone to prove me wrong...I spent alot of money amazing how fast the rehabs will swing the door open and toss the welcome mat out when you are willing to pay...10 years numerous rehabs...My son finally looked me in the eye and said he wasn't ready..it didn't matter it had to come from within he said....to which I responded I love you always have always will....but I'm tired now...I'm done..as much as I love you I want to love myself and live...live without stress live without fear...live without drugs..he promised ( only time will tell my trust doesn't allow me to believe) this time will be different...what I have learned is this...You can't hang your life on the addicts...they can't think of anyone but themselves and their love of the drugs....so what do we do we go on....Being me...You be the best father you can be your child deserves one healthy parent...work hard on yourself build yourself up..stop the pity party it won't benefit you.....why can't you work hard devolop a relationship with your daughter and have her for a sleep over in that nursery...Father's have rights to...It's ok to love it's ok to care for the addict...but you cannot allow their destructive life to destroy and Rob you of your own life....it's like you and the addict are in a pool your both going under the water ...your trying so hard to keep you both above water ...yet your both going under...so you have a choice go under with them...or swim to the side and encourage them to swim....in the end the choice if theirs ...but you to have a choice ...and that is for you to start living.....your daughter needs you focus on her
