ok--so most of you know my situation here in transitional living and things are getting way worse im not sure what ive been posting and what i havent--the 3 main staff have quit and now the people i charge are just the resident assistance and the place is going haywire--thigs were already messed up-- iwas having to give up all my $ at my old job--whatever i barely made enough to pay rent butnow i make 1400 dollars a month and since i owe for 2 months they are still taking it all away-the $ lady agreed to let me have 200 for the month and that was cool i agreed---well they didnt have it on hand and the next day i got a call at work(not appropriate) from her saying the C.E.O had decided i couldnt have it and i wouldnt be getting it--all she could say for herself was--dont shoot the messenger--wel then dont BECOME the messenger--mind you this C.E.O. is only gonna be there till the end of this week--she has never took time to tlak with us or be a part of the house and for me this just might be the final straw--i only have a month till I graduate the program and they are messing with me more and more--i know its because i questioned the fact that we have to give up our food stamps and they go towards the whole house--i investigated that and now they are being investigated because that is illegal and come to find out thye were recieving benefits for people who no longer live here--i just told my caseworker that and now they came down--so anyway im sure you all can read between the lines--these peole are messed up and running scared--and us girls have to deal with it and try to stay clean at the same time--so i really might be leaving-- im so scared about every move i moke i feel like ive been stolen from and will continue to be stolen from--y'know--so i know ive written alot but what would y'all do ive really gotten alot out of this place and i love the other women and the good is great but the bad is becoming unbearable--what to do im so very stresssed and i just dont feel that theres gonna be any relief from it this time--the counselor who kept this place safe in my eyes is now gone--help me im losing sleep im scared im in a pitifull stae of affairs for real
Amity - Sounds like things are going from bad to worse. Giving up your money on the say-so of a person who we know will be gone in a week seems very risky, and it doesn't sound like the place is on the up-and-up. I'm so sorry - you must be very confused and anxious right now. I would hate to give you the wrong advice, but maybe it's time to move on. What happens next week when this CEO is gone? Who takes over? How did you find this place and come to be here? Could you ask at an NA meeting if there's somewhere else you might go to? I know you are so close to graduation and it would be hard to leave, but they should be required to give you an accounting of where your money is going. I have never heard of a place that just keeps upping the ante like that. My daughter's rehab accounted to us for every penny they took from her accounts or her paychecks.
Hopefully there is someone out there in the ARG community who has some experience with this and can lend a hand and offer some sound advice.
Thinking of you~MomNMore
Hopefully there is someone out there in the ARG community who has some experience with this and can lend a hand and offer some sound advice.
Thinking of you~MomNMore
Oh, Amity.
Uggghhhhhhh!
I don't know........it's frightening stuff.
M&M had a good idea about an NA meeting, but sometimes we know how word spreads........if they caught wind.........I don't know.
I'm sorry Amity........all I can hope for is today being a new day....something pops up or happens positive.........that just s*cks.
Uggghhhhhhh!
I don't know........it's frightening stuff.
M&M had a good idea about an NA meeting, but sometimes we know how word spreads........if they caught wind.........I don't know.
I'm sorry Amity........all I can hope for is today being a new day....something pops up or happens positive.........that just s*cks.
yeah--im sad--ive been trying tojust hold on and be quiet but quiet has never come easy for me--if isee a problem i want to fix it and if i cant i worry to no end--i get paid again next thursday and ive looked into a couple other places and so im gonna be going wneseday to check them out--ill be praying for guidance and strenght--im o sad i have some real friends here but they are all making other plans too i wish icoupld buy a big house and everyone could come live with me!! well i have a good foundation and i guess going back to my moms for a little while wouldnt be so bad but moving is just so hard i hat not knowing what tomorrow is gonna be like or if im safe --y'know im gonna write a long gratitude list tonight--thanks for being there for me if i couldnt vent here i dont know what id do--if i move i wont be able to post till i get my computer going which might take awhile so if i suddenly dispear thats why--wait no i can still posr from work--yeah--luv u all
You're the person wants to fix everything Amity.......I kind of think part of it being so hard is you're worrying about some of your girls from the house too.
Man, of course that has to be wicked frightening........it's a huge step.....a big change..........you're stepping out there........the real deal.........and like they say Amity...........anything that's IMPORTANT is going to make ya nervous and afraid, BUT you have the skills.....you've learned how to cope and what triggers are and all.
Personally, I'd say go back with your mom.........but then again HUGE change.
Someone elses house and all no matter if it is mom........and family stuff can get trickier I think than the house maybe.
The big deal is, Amity........you're embracing it and verbalizing your fears and I'd put my money on you making it more than anyone else........cause you're strong and you've been through it all..........you ain't gone back out.
Change is very, very scarey, babes.
Oh yeah post..........I'll have ya in the library.........you can post in a library.
Serenity prayer..........right? You can do this thing.
Man, of course that has to be wicked frightening........it's a huge step.....a big change..........you're stepping out there........the real deal.........and like they say Amity...........anything that's IMPORTANT is going to make ya nervous and afraid, BUT you have the skills.....you've learned how to cope and what triggers are and all.
Personally, I'd say go back with your mom.........but then again HUGE change.
Someone elses house and all no matter if it is mom........and family stuff can get trickier I think than the house maybe.
The big deal is, Amity........you're embracing it and verbalizing your fears and I'd put my money on you making it more than anyone else........cause you're strong and you've been through it all..........you ain't gone back out.
Change is very, very scarey, babes.
Oh yeah post..........I'll have ya in the library.........you can post in a library.
Serenity prayer..........right? You can do this thing.
