Hi, everyone
Unfortunately, I need to ask for your prayers that my son stays safe and doesn't get into more trouble. He left with his girlfriend today and no one has heard from him. The bad thing is that his computer history shows he was looking to see how long opiates can be detected in urine and was looking at the website for the place he got caught for retail theft. I feel like all the life has been kicked out of me. I had such high hopes. Please, please pray for him to be safe!
Love,
Susan
Susan,
I know what you are feeling. It is in God's hands. One of the characteristics of heroin addicts is that they are very smart and clever. You can't trust them. You never know what the truth really is. He may come back. You will need to question what he is doing with the urine test data. But don't make the mistake I did and tell him how you found out. My son would delete the history after his computer use so I could not track his sites. He had his own favorites folders and masked some of his druggie website names with names such as paintball reports and other bogus favorite names. My son left for long periods of time in hours, not days though. I found out he was playing poker with his buddies or he was with his sponsor. There has to be some trust but trust with both eyes open.
The problem you have and I had was that they are adults. You can't put them in a cage for all their life. They have to go through the hard school of knocks. Hopefully, your son will get other chances to recover. Did you tell your son about my son and the websites I have him on. Does he want to be on those sites also?
There is no cure for addiction and nobody really knows how to effectively treat it.
God Bless,
Phil
I know what you are feeling. It is in God's hands. One of the characteristics of heroin addicts is that they are very smart and clever. You can't trust them. You never know what the truth really is. He may come back. You will need to question what he is doing with the urine test data. But don't make the mistake I did and tell him how you found out. My son would delete the history after his computer use so I could not track his sites. He had his own favorites folders and masked some of his druggie website names with names such as paintball reports and other bogus favorite names. My son left for long periods of time in hours, not days though. I found out he was playing poker with his buddies or he was with his sponsor. There has to be some trust but trust with both eyes open.
The problem you have and I had was that they are adults. You can't put them in a cage for all their life. They have to go through the hard school of knocks. Hopefully, your son will get other chances to recover. Did you tell your son about my son and the websites I have him on. Does he want to be on those sites also?
There is no cure for addiction and nobody really knows how to effectively treat it.
God Bless,
Phil
I'm sorry to hear that your son is still struggling. Addiction is a long and hard battle. I will be praying for you and your son.
Thanks so much. I found he and his girlfriend at his old apartment. They couldn't rent it, so it is still in our hands until the end of February. They seemed ok. He seemed tired, but he hasn't been able to sleep very well. They said they went there to drain the waterbed, which needs to be done. Also, they went to lunch, which explains some of the time.
Our little Angelina had me up until about 7:00 this morning...my son was up wandering and told me that when he finally dozed off he had a nightmare that he flunked his urine test because of the herbs and natural stuff I have him on. He said that's why he got on to check about the tests.
I don't know what to believe but I know I won't do any good questioning all the time. I have to trust and let him suffer the consequences for his actions. In the meantime I'll get ulcers and gray hair!
Love,
Susan
Our little Angelina had me up until about 7:00 this morning...my son was up wandering and told me that when he finally dozed off he had a nightmare that he flunked his urine test because of the herbs and natural stuff I have him on. He said that's why he got on to check about the tests.
I don't know what to believe but I know I won't do any good questioning all the time. I have to trust and let him suffer the consequences for his actions. In the meantime I'll get ulcers and gray hair!
Love,
Susan
Susan,
Join the club. It looks like everything is ok. You are already going through what I went through earlier this year. Everytime he is gone you think he is doing. You always wonder. Only time will tell.
Phil
Join the club. It looks like everything is ok. You are already going through what I went through earlier this year. Everytime he is gone you think he is doing. You always wonder. Only time will tell.
Phil