Elderly. Can't find my ;posting' of yesterday!
Thanks very much for 'confirmation' I'm on! I shall keep at it now.
Well, welcome. Tell us a bit of your story if you'd like? Most here don't bite.
Welcome parent .keep posting and tell us your story. Lots of support here.
Gidday Parent
Hello from New Zealand and welcome to the boards
light and love Zac
Hello from New Zealand and welcome to the boards
light and love Zac
Welcome, from the UK.
Mmm....beginning to sound like the Eurovision song contest now...lol
Martin
Mmm....beginning to sound like the Eurovision song contest now...lol
Martin
I can't stop being amazed at how supportive and weloming everyone is here! It's 11.30pm here in Scotland and I am at work, so the flow of my conversation might be stilted. I also realise that this may not be an appropriate board for me but you all seem so knowledgable and dare i say so blooming accepting of everything. I have lost so many loved ones through this pitiful disease of alcoholism I would not know where to begin. What consumes my life at present though is my son and the devastating effect drink has had and still has on his miserable life/existance. More injuries than can be imagined and currently, a dreadful state of health. Not every waking moment revolves round my son, but not many days are unaffected. I have tried everything and I still can't escape -- don't want to, I love him. You who are parents don't need me to say this. He is 40 years old and it sound ridiculous me 'worrying' about him but what I have said to any well meaning friends/family, is simply this: whether they are 4 or 40, you don't stop getting your heart ripped out every time they bleed. I 'm sounding a bit melodramatic now but actually, when I prepare myself to get to Accident and Emergency following another of these dreadful seizures and see his face, sometimes his jaw is again fractured, I struggle not to scream and scream (inside). My shift is nearly ending now and I feel kind of drained. I might come back if that's ok.
Gidday Parent
Have you heard of Alanon and also there is a friends and families board as well.
These places may help you to not loose your love but make it unconditional so that you are not getting hurt as much as you are and in a way you will be suffering more than your son because the days he is ok you are still worrying
I know the pain i caused my parents and my mother went to her grave still blaming herself for my life and problems even after i got sober she couldnt forget the past, i loved her yet i could never take the pain away because she was used to it and it fitted how she saw herself in the world, im not saying this is what you are doing just that i understand both sides.
Look after you and do not lose your love for him just dont let it hurt you anymore:)
light and love Zac
Have you heard of Alanon and also there is a friends and families board as well.
These places may help you to not loose your love but make it unconditional so that you are not getting hurt as much as you are and in a way you will be suffering more than your son because the days he is ok you are still worrying
I know the pain i caused my parents and my mother went to her grave still blaming herself for my life and problems even after i got sober she couldnt forget the past, i loved her yet i could never take the pain away because she was used to it and it fitted how she saw herself in the world, im not saying this is what you are doing just that i understand both sides.
Look after you and do not lose your love for him just dont let it hurt you anymore:)
light and love Zac
Hey there parent. Once a mother always a mother. The love and concern never fades no matter how old we get. I will soon be 51 and to my mom I am still the baby of the family.God bless her. I understand your pain of having a child with problems and addictions. My daughter was addicted to prescription meds and is in reab.Although I am sure her addiction was a lot shorter time than your sons' have been(she's only 21) it was long enough to know the worry and the anguish and helpness I know you must feel.I guess I did the same to my mom. Although I managed to keep my addiction from her for a long time until I went too far down to hide it. As for this board there are some wonderful people on here and some who can give you good advice. I have been only sober for 5 and half months so I am still in the puppy stage of recovery.I wish you good luck parent and God bless and take care.
Hi, Parent.
I have a long-time friend in Edinburgh, though never been. I understand it's beautiful--and chilly--in Scotland.
This link was recently changed, but you may find some UK Recovery Content that you can use. The last Parent we had come through we turned into an alcoholic, so we're effective. LOL Kidding. We're all here to help one another--just understand that being a recovering drunk has special significance to us so if you don't understand: Ask!
Welcome.
I have a long-time friend in Edinburgh, though never been. I understand it's beautiful--and chilly--in Scotland.
This link was recently changed, but you may find some UK Recovery Content that you can use. The last Parent we had come through we turned into an alcoholic, so we're effective. LOL Kidding. We're all here to help one another--just understand that being a recovering drunk has special significance to us so if you don't understand: Ask!
Welcome.
Hello Parent~
You will notice that my forum name is MomNMore - I too strongly identified myself as a parent, but more. You may find it helpful to post on the Family board. Welcome and sorry you are feeling the pain and stress of an addicted family member.
Peace~MomNMore
You will notice that my forum name is MomNMore - I too strongly identified myself as a parent, but more. You may find it helpful to post on the Family board. Welcome and sorry you are feeling the pain and stress of an addicted family member.
Peace~MomNMore
I am having trouble getting back in?
Now I've got it! I have to go off shift now and I am so grateful to be here in this support board. Thanks for all replies, back soon!
