Hello, I am new to this site and message boards. I am a wife to an alcoholic. My husband has not drank in a year and has been doing well with that specific addiction. However, an addict will always find a way. I recently found out he has been stealing prescription meds from our family members for two years. The only reason I know that is because I caught him red handed. The focus of his stealing has been my mother's xanax. My mother is in the end stage of her colon cancer and uses xanax every night to manage her understandable anxiety. I would have anxiety too if I knew I was dying..
What hurts me the most about my husband's addiction is that he is so secretive. He tells me he's secretive because he's ashamed and embarrassed, yet still does it. He is stealing from my dying mother. It is a new low and I have never been so hurt. We have been through his relapses before, they are far and few between but regardless. It has never cut me this deep before. We have a 5 month old daughter and apparently she's not enough to make him want to be sober, as stupid as that sounds. I know he cannot get sober for anyone or anything other than himself. This is his demon and his journey. But I'm so upset and frustrated. I have no one I can talk to about this who would understand what I'm going through.
We are going to therapy together tomorrow and looking into treatment options for him. Can someone please lend me some type of support because I feel so alone right now. I love him with all my heart and I am going to see him through this. I just don't know how right now.
Hi there kends..the fact that you are going for help is a start. Addiction is a family disease and affects all who are involved in the lives of the addict.I am a recovering alcoholic with almost 7 years of sobriety.. lies, being secretive and manipulation are part of the addiction. I cannot speak for your husband as i do not know his thoughts but from my own experience living with an addiction is pure hell and the remorse and anxiety that comes with it is something non addicts find hard to understand because it is not as simple as just stopping. It takes courage for what you are doing and it also takes courage for your husband to admit and seek help.. In the meantime there is online help or you in the rooms of Alanon at stepchat.com or even better if you can attend face to face meetings. my suggestion for your husband is to also work a 12 step program. It works if we work it and are serious about our recovery.. I will pray for you and your husband and I hope you get the answers you are seeking.. hugs to you my dear...
Hi! Alcoholism and addiction drives people to do things they wouldn't ordinarily do. We are good people who are sick, not bad people. There's a website that explains the barriers to recovery that might help you understand your husband and how to move him towards accepting help. It's a website called alcoholism-addiction-psychology and it has an article on it called "barriers to recovery."
Hi, can,t find the article "barriers to recovery", can you post the web site address.
Thanks,
Mike
Thanks,
Mike
Addicts are sneaky, manipulative little things. They'll do and say anything to get what they want.
Barriers to recovery article: http://www.alcoholism-addiction-psy...riers-recovery/
