My sister's addiction began while I was 12. She was 14 and it took every bit of my parent's attention and a lot of their money trying to break her from her addiction. This was the breaking point in my family unit. I always hated her for her addiction and what she/it did to our family. She hated me for being clean. I learned in my late thirties that an addict never asks for that life, it just becomes. I still have a hard time being around her even though she has supposedly been clean for the past few years.
Recently, I met someone and began a relationship with them. It has been a roller-coaster ride from the beginning as he is in a toxic relationship with a married woman. I guess this is his first addiction. After a few weeks, he told me he was a meth user and was trying to stay clean. It was hard to hear and even harder to learn that he used needles. I thought I had been given a death sentence. The only thing I could think of was dirty needles and HIV or hepatitis. In the 8 weeks that we have known each other, he has used 7 times (that I know of). Most recently, on July 4th, he used twice. He left my house at 11 pm and returned at 1 am. He was very paranoid and kept looking out the windows. Early in the morning, before daylight, he said he could see federal agents in the trees, hiding and watching him. I eventually took him to his house so that I could go to work. He continually harassed me via phone calls and texts saying that I had told the federal agents to come spy on him and that he knew it was me since he saw them at my house and his on the same day. I was adamant in telling him that it was the meth he had taken which was making him paranoid and that I didn't do anything.
I contacted his housemate and asked for him to check on him to make sure he was safe. His roommate knew he was spun out. I texted his brother to ask what I should do and he said to call his PO and have him admitted in to a program. None of this he would do.
He called again, today, to tell me that he knew I had called federal agents on him. I told him to quit contacting me or I would call his probation officer and he eventually stopped harassing me. He has called me several times for a ride or to tell me that he is tired of everyone yelling at him. I offered him a ride to the hospital for the detox unit and told him to stop yelling at me and I would stop yelling at him. He hung up.
I feel like I need to help him as I don't think he has many people close by who actually care about his well being. The other part of me wants to run away and never speak to him again.
still new in the relationship. you cant help him. no one else seems to care bc they have tried and cant help him. run! tell him you cant be on this roller coaster with him. and then, dont take his calls. lock your doors. maybe invest in an inexpensive alarm/camera system. be careful. meth users can be dangerous.
Get out of that relationship as quick as you can. It will only bring you grief and be worse for you the longer you stay. My son is a meth user as are many of his friends. One that shoots meth tested positive for HIV. My son smokes and snorts it. Too risky for you ... No telling what that guy has or will catch. You don't want it!
Nyros,
This is a very dangerous situation that will get worse the longer you interact with him. Please, for your safety, get distance. Cut ties.
You cannot save him. And, paranoia like that can be dangerous. I was alarmed reading your post.
This is a very dangerous situation that will get worse the longer you interact with him. Please, for your safety, get distance. Cut ties.
You cannot save him. And, paranoia like that can be dangerous. I was alarmed reading your post.
Good advice from all! Our 46 y/o son is a meth user and he became extremely paranoid when he was living with his GF. Said that cops were looking in windows at night and taking pictures. Was so convinced he made her post a picture of the door he took and swore there was a cop outside looking in. No one else could see anyone there and the pic certainly didn't show anyone there!
Earlier in his addiction, he was living at a drug house and nailed all the windows shut because he thought someone was trying to get in. With one GF in the past he even put up cameras all around and microphones.
This past fall he went to another drug house and started acting crazy and told everyone he knew that they were all cops out to get him. Even the guy that owns the house and is a drug user called my son's then GF and told her that he was really crazy and they all were afraid of him!
Meth users are dangerous and last month my son showed up at our house begging for money for gas and food and we refused. We have stopped enabling him after doing it for many years and he was really agitated. He called us every filthy name you can imagine and drove away across our yard tearing it all up!
Please for your safety and well being get away from this man and stop this relationship! You said you hated the fact that your sister was an addict-- then you get into a relationship with an addict. This is a disaster waiting to happen! Move on --disconnect from him in every way NOW!!
(((HUGS))) Lori
Earlier in his addiction, he was living at a drug house and nailed all the windows shut because he thought someone was trying to get in. With one GF in the past he even put up cameras all around and microphones.
This past fall he went to another drug house and started acting crazy and told everyone he knew that they were all cops out to get him. Even the guy that owns the house and is a drug user called my son's then GF and told her that he was really crazy and they all were afraid of him!
Meth users are dangerous and last month my son showed up at our house begging for money for gas and food and we refused. We have stopped enabling him after doing it for many years and he was really agitated. He called us every filthy name you can imagine and drove away across our yard tearing it all up!
Please for your safety and well being get away from this man and stop this relationship! You said you hated the fact that your sister was an addict-- then you get into a relationship with an addict. This is a disaster waiting to happen! Move on --disconnect from him in every way NOW!!
(((HUGS))) Lori
RUN RUN RUN change phone number if possible, and locks on your door. Please don't risk your life for this man and his addiction.
