Well I've been offered a nice little house, three beds, dining room, lounge, big garden. All that I need. But the boyfriend hasn't stopped kicking off ever since he found out. I'm too tired of his s*** to care about him anymore. He's just hammering the nails in his own coffin...
love
Diff and Rowanne xxxx
I hope it works out for the best for ya and your little one. Do what needs done to bring she and you peace. BTW i've really been wondering how things are going with your mom and dad?.
Good on you hunny. Wish I was offered a house. Am still waiting, hopefully I will be moving into mine just me and my daughter cos am sick of heroin now. I cant take his problems anymore. xx
Ouch...a little wave of "I don't know if I'm the person I thought I was, don't know if I can take this forever" just washed over me too.
Ain't easy is it?
Ain't easy is it?
Dear Diff,
How soon can you move there? Seems like the sooner the better. He's not going to get happier about it.
Love,
Susan
How soon can you move there? Seems like the sooner the better. He's not going to get happier about it.
Love,
Susan
Hey Diff, please make sure you take this one. You can still have a relationship with him, just make sure you have all your ducks lined up.
Karen
Karen
I am accepting this house. I won't get a better offer. The boyfriend is trying a different tack now. He's trying to be obliging, trying to make living with him seem not so bad. But it's all a bit too late now. I'm going, and I'm taking my baby girl with me. When I told him I was going to see this house, he snatched the baby out of her car seat, and said he'd never let me take her. But I went anyway, and by the time I'd returned he'd come to his senses a bit and realised that he's completely ill equipped to look after her without me.
Anyway, he's trying to deal with it, and he's not sulking quite so much. He's doing his best to salvage what he can, so that when I go, we can still have some sort of a relationship, and he can still be a dad to our little girl. I know he's a twat, but for some reason I do love this guy (neither of us can figure out why!). But whilst I'm living in his house I'm more of a possession than anything else, and we have no equality. By getting my own place, hopefully we'll get some parity back. It would be nice if our relationship could go back to the way it was before we lived together. It was kind of exciting then. He'd have to work a lot harder to keep me, coz he'll have no leverage regarding the roof over my head. I'm glad that I held out for this house, coz I can afford this without any financial input from him, so he can't have any say over it. And the biggest plus, when he kicks off at me, I don't have to stick around to put up with it. I'm sooooo looking forward to having my own place. Living with him has made me feel like half a person in many ways. I have to keep my gob shut about so much, coz it's his house, and he uses that against me. I'll have something, bricks and mortar that he can't take away from me... I can't wait to move in, close the door behind me, and breathe a big sigh of relief.
To be fair, he hasn't lost the plot with me, big time, like he used to for a while now. But I need my own space. His family have all told me that they think I should take this house and move out, coz it might be the shock he needs to sort his head out. He's asked me whether I think anti-depressants might help him with his temper. But he won't take them, coz if he goes to his Dr and says he's losing the plot, they'll take his shot gun license off him! Ha! He sounds totally postal, don't he?
love
Diff xxx
Anyway, he's trying to deal with it, and he's not sulking quite so much. He's doing his best to salvage what he can, so that when I go, we can still have some sort of a relationship, and he can still be a dad to our little girl. I know he's a twat, but for some reason I do love this guy (neither of us can figure out why!). But whilst I'm living in his house I'm more of a possession than anything else, and we have no equality. By getting my own place, hopefully we'll get some parity back. It would be nice if our relationship could go back to the way it was before we lived together. It was kind of exciting then. He'd have to work a lot harder to keep me, coz he'll have no leverage regarding the roof over my head. I'm glad that I held out for this house, coz I can afford this without any financial input from him, so he can't have any say over it. And the biggest plus, when he kicks off at me, I don't have to stick around to put up with it. I'm sooooo looking forward to having my own place. Living with him has made me feel like half a person in many ways. I have to keep my gob shut about so much, coz it's his house, and he uses that against me. I'll have something, bricks and mortar that he can't take away from me... I can't wait to move in, close the door behind me, and breathe a big sigh of relief.
To be fair, he hasn't lost the plot with me, big time, like he used to for a while now. But I need my own space. His family have all told me that they think I should take this house and move out, coz it might be the shock he needs to sort his head out. He's asked me whether I think anti-depressants might help him with his temper. But he won't take them, coz if he goes to his Dr and says he's losing the plot, they'll take his shot gun license off him! Ha! He sounds totally postal, don't he?
love
Diff xxx
Sounds great Diff, good luck! The equality thing is really important, that's what I realised I was lacking. And yes not living with him should help you regain control of your life and your happiness...let's hope there's much of that coming your way, you deserve it.
Maddy x
Maddy x
Sounds perfect Diif, my man still has his flat and that suits us fine.
It's so great to do exactly what you want when you want and you and your little girl will have so much fun - don't let Daddy muscle into your bricks and mortar because the men I've known before somehow always have and then they stop being so nice it's back to trying to make them leave or finding somewhere else. This time I made sure he kept his flat see him when I want and not when I need some space.
Good luck
karen.
It's so great to do exactly what you want when you want and you and your little girl will have so much fun - don't let Daddy muscle into your bricks and mortar because the men I've known before somehow always have and then they stop being so nice it's back to trying to make them leave or finding somewhere else. This time I made sure he kept his flat see him when I want and not when I need some space.
Good luck
karen.
good for you--im so for you----and alittle jealouse to be perfectly honest i wish i had aplace of my own--i have to make some time to put in some apps for low income housing--anyway--thats awesomw\e and its probably just what you need to get you head together-throw yourself into decorating and making it a nice home for your family--maybe itll help him --maybe not but it will certainly help your self esteem and your kids'll be alot more safe and comfy--all my lover and respect for making oyur life better--you go girlie!!!!!!!!!!!!!1
This sounds great, Diff! I'm so proud of you for taking this step for you and your precious daughter. You both deserve it!
Love,
Susan
Love,
Susan
