Hello everyone, I am a 37 yr old female who is trying to stop drinking. I have been drinking since i was 15 yrs old, seen my parents do it and hung out with older friends who did it and so yep you guessed it I picked up the habit too! It started happening more frequently the drinking after my husband died. I felt the only way to deal with pain and depression was turning to beer for help and relief. I decided on Jan. 21, 2007 now just six days without a beer to stop and take real control of my life. My friends had a party for me for my bday and i was having a really good time of course i was i got hammered.... not like me because when i drink i'm usually home around food so i usually just get a good buzz and i liked that feeling of being happy. well the party ended and i woke up the next morning with my fiance at my friends house and really felt like crap ya know the hangover feeling, went home took shower and found a huge bruise on my lower leg, didnt know where it came from. I talked to my friend the next day and she said dont you remember you fell on my porch? No I didnt remeber and I dont even remember going to bed or what the heck I did half of the night... what a fool i probably made out of myself, needless to say i could have broken my leg/ankle.So if anyone reads this please respond and give me support/advice I really need a friend that doesnt know me and wont say oh you dont have a drinking problem, you'll be alright. Well I know think I do/maybe have a problem when I buy a six pack and cant stop until it is gone...
Thanks For Any Friendship/Support
Hi,
Like you, I am trying to determine whether I have a drink problem. Thing is, it is plain obvious but I am still trying to deny it!! I used to try and say to my best friend and cousin that I think I have a problem but they both said I hadn't. Funny, I still really resent them for not believing me, but nowadays I don't believe it!! My friend thought I was an alcoholic when I was a teenager but not when I was nearly 30, like it just magically went away. I have a real grudge about her not understanding alcoholism. Weird isn't it. I don't have friends now because of self imposed isolation so I won't drink.
Anyway, I guess you have to determine whether you have a problem, and no you won't be ok if you carry on. It will get worse. I fell over a lot when I was drunk and remember nothing of it until I felt the lump on my head or whatever. The worst was when I apparently ran head first into a brick wall, bounced off it and fell head first on the kerb. Fortunatley the guy I was with made me go to hospital as the top part of my nose was hanging off, and had to be stuck back with butterfly stitches. Two black eyes and a horribly bruised face developed, I looked awful. Don't remember a thing though, and carried on drinking huge amounts of alcohol for several years.
Another parallel here is the death of your husband. My boyfriend died when I was 22, and that is really when I think the alcohol and drug abuse really took hold dangerously. It just seems to be the answer doesn't it? Blot it all out because it is just too too much to deal with. Dan, my fella was just amazing, I loved him so much, he was just incredible; everyone loved him, he was fab. His death just rocked my world so badly, I went downhill fast into a pit of alcoholic despair. How did your husband die? Do you feel you have really dealt with it? It is almost impossible to 'get over it'. Ten years after Dan died I realised I still hadn't really dealt with it. I was depressed, crying, suicidal, drunk, stoned and starting to dabble with methadone. He died in a motorbike accident by the way.
I think you need to dig deep and consider where you are going. Get help if you need it to deal with your sobriety. From my small experience, it is hard and I am not sure if doing it alone is the best thing.
Love lacey.
Like you, I am trying to determine whether I have a drink problem. Thing is, it is plain obvious but I am still trying to deny it!! I used to try and say to my best friend and cousin that I think I have a problem but they both said I hadn't. Funny, I still really resent them for not believing me, but nowadays I don't believe it!! My friend thought I was an alcoholic when I was a teenager but not when I was nearly 30, like it just magically went away. I have a real grudge about her not understanding alcoholism. Weird isn't it. I don't have friends now because of self imposed isolation so I won't drink.
Anyway, I guess you have to determine whether you have a problem, and no you won't be ok if you carry on. It will get worse. I fell over a lot when I was drunk and remember nothing of it until I felt the lump on my head or whatever. The worst was when I apparently ran head first into a brick wall, bounced off it and fell head first on the kerb. Fortunatley the guy I was with made me go to hospital as the top part of my nose was hanging off, and had to be stuck back with butterfly stitches. Two black eyes and a horribly bruised face developed, I looked awful. Don't remember a thing though, and carried on drinking huge amounts of alcohol for several years.
Another parallel here is the death of your husband. My boyfriend died when I was 22, and that is really when I think the alcohol and drug abuse really took hold dangerously. It just seems to be the answer doesn't it? Blot it all out because it is just too too much to deal with. Dan, my fella was just amazing, I loved him so much, he was just incredible; everyone loved him, he was fab. His death just rocked my world so badly, I went downhill fast into a pit of alcoholic despair. How did your husband die? Do you feel you have really dealt with it? It is almost impossible to 'get over it'. Ten years after Dan died I realised I still hadn't really dealt with it. I was depressed, crying, suicidal, drunk, stoned and starting to dabble with methadone. He died in a motorbike accident by the way.
I think you need to dig deep and consider where you are going. Get help if you need it to deal with your sobriety. From my small experience, it is hard and I am not sure if doing it alone is the best thing.
Love lacey.
