I am new to this discussion board and I am hoping I can get some input on how to deal with my spouses addiction to pain pills. She has stopped taking vicodin and is now using suboxodone (perscribed by a detox doctor) but it seems to me she is giving up one drug by starting another. She is doing well but I am afraid that if she stops taking the subox that she will start using vicodin again. We seem to argue and fight more now that she takes the sub than before, is this me or her? help!
You should be proud that she has gotten off the pain meds. Thats a tuff thing to do!!
And alittle bit of caring is all someone needs when they do something like that.
If i had gotten off the pills, and my fiancee started fighting with me all the time, i would problobly be right back on them!!!!
I needed to feel loved and told that i was doing a good job at what i did.
POSITIVE REENFORCEMENT, thats what i need on a daily basis.
Maybe she wants that too!!
Remember, she took a big step in saying she had a problom and tryed to get help.
About the SUB, im not realy sure what it does to the body, i dont take it. But alot of others on here do and im sure they will help you with what you need to hear about that.
As for as the fights.....Just give her a hug and tell her you love her for trying.
Your Friend, Christina
And alittle bit of caring is all someone needs when they do something like that.
If i had gotten off the pills, and my fiancee started fighting with me all the time, i would problobly be right back on them!!!!
I needed to feel loved and told that i was doing a good job at what i did.
POSITIVE REENFORCEMENT, thats what i need on a daily basis.
Maybe she wants that too!!
Remember, she took a big step in saying she had a problom and tryed to get help.
About the SUB, im not realy sure what it does to the body, i dont take it. But alot of others on here do and im sure they will help you with what you need to hear about that.
As for as the fights.....Just give her a hug and tell her you love her for trying.
Your Friend, Christina
Well I saw your post and wanted toreply. I don't know much about suboxone so I won't give you much advice. I do know that if she is taking it as prescribed by her doctor that she should not be on it long term. Also that the doctor has got to wean her off of it safely and then she is to stop all meds altogether! I do know you can have withdrawl symptoms coming off sub if you are on it for a long period of time. Hopefully she is taking it like she should and is getting good medical care while taking it. Hang in there with her it will all work out. Also there is a message board on this site for family member's with addiction that you should check out. It may benefit you better! You are welcome to stay here as well just wanted you to know that the other board will have people that can relate to you better since you are not an addict and need help with one!! Have a great day! Rae
I just wanted to let you know my husband was also on suboxone , to me i thought it was a miracle drug it saved our marriage, our house,etc. but the thing i found out about my husband and suboxone was he only used the suboxone when he didnt have the money to get high if she is serious about quiting i really think suboxone is the answer if my husband would have takin it correctly instead of using it we would have a happy marriage instead of the one we have now. So yes stand by her if she is serious and it will work i hope.
TAKE CARE AND GOOOOOOD LUCK
TAKE CARE AND GOOOOOOD LUCK
hello idontunderstand
i am glad you posted. i agree with friend it is great that your wife wants to get off meds. i would just ask 2 things, was she on meds for a legit reason and if so what will she do for the pain afterwards. i only ask this because that is what predicament i am in now. i am trying to wean myself down from methadone and the weining is going o.k. but i don't know how the quitting will be. i quit cold turkey at the end of oct. and went for 14 days and the pain was so bad i had to go back on, however i don't know if the pain was because of withdrawels or what so i'll try it again when i wean down this time to see. well i know you didn't come on to hear my story so:
i think, as i said, that it is great your wife wants off the meds, and i pray you will be there for support. this thing is hard enough without trying to do it on you own, and i know you will be her stability. be there for her, love her unconditionally. as they said it shouldn't be to much longer for the sub is a short term deal. i pray for your family
johnny
i am glad you posted. i agree with friend it is great that your wife wants to get off meds. i would just ask 2 things, was she on meds for a legit reason and if so what will she do for the pain afterwards. i only ask this because that is what predicament i am in now. i am trying to wean myself down from methadone and the weining is going o.k. but i don't know how the quitting will be. i quit cold turkey at the end of oct. and went for 14 days and the pain was so bad i had to go back on, however i don't know if the pain was because of withdrawels or what so i'll try it again when i wean down this time to see. well i know you didn't come on to hear my story so:
i think, as i said, that it is great your wife wants off the meds, and i pray you will be there for support. this thing is hard enough without trying to do it on you own, and i know you will be her stability. be there for her, love her unconditionally. as they said it shouldn't be to much longer for the sub is a short term deal. i pray for your family
johnny
Hi Idontunderstand,
Actually I think it might be both, you each are going to have to try to understand the others point of view on this.....Are either of you getting out side help, attending NA/AA for her or Alanon for you....It might really help you both. My husband is taking the sub and it has been a godsend....And yes I was worried about substituting one drug for another, but he tried ct and that didn't work.....he relapsed 3 weeks in.......It is still hard at times for him, especially the cravings, but he learning to deal with it all alittle at a time......And I have learned to let him recover his way not how I think he should....
Good Luck to both of you, I hope that you can work out everything together, she really will need your love and support to get through it all.......
Tina
Actually I think it might be both, you each are going to have to try to understand the others point of view on this.....Are either of you getting out side help, attending NA/AA for her or Alanon for you....It might really help you both. My husband is taking the sub and it has been a godsend....And yes I was worried about substituting one drug for another, but he tried ct and that didn't work.....he relapsed 3 weeks in.......It is still hard at times for him, especially the cravings, but he learning to deal with it all alittle at a time......And I have learned to let him recover his way not how I think he should....
Good Luck to both of you, I hope that you can work out everything together, she really will need your love and support to get through it all.......
Tina
