Hi my nane is debbie i have been sober since feb i have never been to a meeting or detox quit on my own
how inportant is it to go to meetings or groups
Debbie
Hi Debbie,
Welcome to ARG,
I think going to meetings is as important as you feel it is for you. I go when I feel I need that support. I am lucky because I have a lot of other sorts of support. I do know one thing for sure - it's never done me any harm to go to a meeting. The people I meet at AA meetings restore my faith in humanity and in myself. Their honesty and humility and their willingness to heal and grow and their desire to help others is an inspiration. The other thing is that many of them are shining examples of the fact that if you gather all the tools and resources and ideas that you can to get yourself well....then you WILL heal and grow. And they are living proof of the fact that you'll emerge a stronger, more loving, compassionate and wiser person for the whole experience.
I guess I'm saying there are lots of good reasons to go. And I guess I'm saying that if stopping drinking and - even more importantly - learning how to live a wonderful, peaceful and exciting life free of the tyranny of alcohol is important to you, then meetings might be important too. Only you know the answer to that. No harm in giving one or two a go.
Martin
Welcome to ARG,
I think going to meetings is as important as you feel it is for you. I go when I feel I need that support. I am lucky because I have a lot of other sorts of support. I do know one thing for sure - it's never done me any harm to go to a meeting. The people I meet at AA meetings restore my faith in humanity and in myself. Their honesty and humility and their willingness to heal and grow and their desire to help others is an inspiration. The other thing is that many of them are shining examples of the fact that if you gather all the tools and resources and ideas that you can to get yourself well....then you WILL heal and grow. And they are living proof of the fact that you'll emerge a stronger, more loving, compassionate and wiser person for the whole experience.
I guess I'm saying there are lots of good reasons to go. And I guess I'm saying that if stopping drinking and - even more importantly - learning how to live a wonderful, peaceful and exciting life free of the tyranny of alcohol is important to you, then meetings might be important too. Only you know the answer to that. No harm in giving one or two a go.
Martin
Hi Debbie. I gave up drinking in January. I use the AA program to stay sober but haven't been to many meetings because there isn't any where I live but I keep in contact with AA members through the internet and have sponsors. I can tell you that if I had access to meetings I WOULD certainly go. If you live where there are meetings I would advise you to take advantage of the opportunity. What have you got to lose?
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Very.By the time you figure out you need support it could be too late.
Quitting is the easy part.Changing your life and thinking is the hard part.Unless you address these issues,you simply become a dry drunk.
How you go about making the change is subjective.I go to NA and work on the 12 steps.Others do it through therapy or other groups.I had no choice.AA/NA are free and I didn't have the money in the beginning to do therapy or another group that required cash.
You're not responsible for the disease but you are for your recovery.
Good Luck
Thank you all for the strong advice
Ithink it would be a good idea to start going to meetings because i do get urges from time to time and i live like one minute from a party store
plus I a family history alcoholics from my mother on down to us four kids
some hve also used drugs but that was never my thing to scared
my husband doesnt think i sould go because he thinks make me want to drink more becuse i would be around people with same problem
But i think that would help in the long run
Ithink it would be a good idea to start going to meetings because i do get urges from time to time and i live like one minute from a party store
plus I a family history alcoholics from my mother on down to us four kids
some hve also used drugs but that was never my thing to scared
my husband doesnt think i sould go because he thinks make me want to drink more becuse i would be around people with same problem
But i think that would help in the long run
Gidday Debbie
At my first meeting i felt a sense of belonging that will keep me grateful as long as i work at it and share the gratitude and absorb the endless hope that meetings give me
light and love zac
At my first meeting i felt a sense of belonging that will keep me grateful as long as i work at it and share the gratitude and absorb the endless hope that meetings give me
light and love zac
Hi Debbie,
Maybe if your husband read some of the posts on the board here he might feel differently? I don't know you or him though, so who knows? There's also a board here for the families and friends of people struggling with drink or drugs....and he'll see a lot of good advice there.
AA provides me with an incredible amount of support whenever I want it. Not only does it reinforce my choice to avoid alcohol, some of the people there are living examples of how good and meaningful life can be. I believe you''ll find that too.
Take care,
Martin
Maybe if your husband read some of the posts on the board here he might feel differently? I don't know you or him though, so who knows? There's also a board here for the families and friends of people struggling with drink or drugs....and he'll see a lot of good advice there.
AA provides me with an incredible amount of support whenever I want it. Not only does it reinforce my choice to avoid alcohol, some of the people there are living examples of how good and meaningful life can be. I believe you''ll find that too.
Take care,
Martin
Welcome, Negro.
There's a saying in the meetings: "Meeting Makers Make It." There's lots of good recovery going on in Face 2 Face (F2F) meetings and it's an environment where, like here, you find people who will love you until you can love yourself, as well as provide suggestions in facing life on life's terms. I was horrified to walk into one of those stinky, derilict-filled rooms and tell complete strangers about myself. Until I went. I must have missed the derelicts, shopping carts and bridge people because it was filled with professionals, young addicts, single parents, retired teachers, doctors, and a really cool slice of Americana. Just working recovery.
Go with an open mind and listen for similarities, not differences. Take what you need and leave the rest--and keep going back. And come back here and tell us all what you felt.
There's a saying in the meetings: "Meeting Makers Make It." There's lots of good recovery going on in Face 2 Face (F2F) meetings and it's an environment where, like here, you find people who will love you until you can love yourself, as well as provide suggestions in facing life on life's terms. I was horrified to walk into one of those stinky, derilict-filled rooms and tell complete strangers about myself. Until I went. I must have missed the derelicts, shopping carts and bridge people because it was filled with professionals, young addicts, single parents, retired teachers, doctors, and a really cool slice of Americana. Just working recovery.
Go with an open mind and listen for similarities, not differences. Take what you need and leave the rest--and keep going back. And come back here and tell us all what you felt.
