i dont think i ever realized how much troubled drinking could get me into, but i think i finally get the message. please keep in mind i am sharing this so others who may not be quite where i am at now may realize just how bad it can get. i went out monday night to the bar and after sharing three pitchers and a shooter i was pretty drunk and decided to go to the bathroom, when i got out this guy was waiting for me, and just pushed me out the doors took me to some near by bushes and forced me to give him a blow job, and i was to drunk to do anything, i was literaly helpless in a place i had felt so safe. now that the shock is gone i am left numb and sick, and i just want a drink to make it all go away.
Wow Troubled Cow! I'm so sorry you're going through this!
First of all, i would turn that dirty bast@#rd in! Did you ever see the guy before? There had to have been somebody in the bar that saw him or knew him, isn't there? That's terrible and i think he should be arrested!
On your side, (only trying to be helpful) i would seriously think about this incident! Let this be a wake up call. Just think if he would've thrown you into a vehicle and took you out and raped and murdered you! It would be too late!
I know you probably felt safe, and that was probably the last thing you thought would happen, but now you know how fast it CAN happen!
Please take care of you!
((((TROUBLEDCOW)))) p.s. drinking will not help anything!!!!!!!!
First of all, i would turn that dirty bast@#rd in! Did you ever see the guy before? There had to have been somebody in the bar that saw him or knew him, isn't there? That's terrible and i think he should be arrested!
On your side, (only trying to be helpful) i would seriously think about this incident! Let this be a wake up call. Just think if he would've thrown you into a vehicle and took you out and raped and murdered you! It would be too late!
I know you probably felt safe, and that was probably the last thing you thought would happen, but now you know how fast it CAN happen!
Please take care of you!
((((TROUBLEDCOW)))) p.s. drinking will not help anything!!!!!!!!
Really sorry to hear what happened . Drink will only make you feel worse.
Please go to a meeting or speak to anothe AA member.
I wish you well a big hug for you to xx
Please go to a meeting or speak to anothe AA member.
I wish you well a big hug for you to xx
Dear Troubled Cow, I am so sorry to hear that you went through that experience, that is just horrible. There are people out there who love nothing more than to take advantage of drunk people, I have been in some pretty bad situations myself, that wouldn't have happened had I not been drunk, don't pick up another drink to forget or to push it away, IT WILL ONLY PROLONG THE PAIN...trust me on that one, I used alcohol to numb anything that hurt me, and it caused me more years of hell, I strongly recommend you get some help, I know you think it is the easy way out to get drunk again, but it's not that was a very sad thing that happened to you,the answer is to help YOU, to take care of yourself right now, to love yourself, not to punish yourself. We are here to listen!! Big hugs to you..
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Troubled Cow, how awful to hear what happened... but everyone else is right on, please DO NOT pick up a drink, it will only make things worse. If you know who the son of a bleep was you should turn him in! I came very close to a similar situation years ago, it was only a quick-thinking friend who helped me avoid disaster. Please, please, find someone you can talk to, and again, if you drink it will only make things worse! Hugs at this tough time...
It's just amazing the kind of trouble and bad energy comes from drinking for those of us who are alcoholics. TC-Sorry to hear what happened to you; it makes me grateful that I no longer get drunk and put myself in precarious situations.
I found myself in bad situations when I was drinking, things that still make chills go up my spine...I am amazed I did not get into a situation which could of become serious.
Thank God you did not get hurt..Please consider this a wakeup call.
Treat yourself good for the next few days(long baths, wholesome foods,favorite ice cream)
Allow yourself to feel the emotions that go along with something like this.
Drinking will numb only for a very short time... then you will feel even worse...b/c you are repeating behavior that got you in that situation in the first place ...or thats how I always felt when I found myself in those scary situations...I ALWAYS drank to numb the pain, the reliving of the event.. like a bad dream that haunts you.
It never did any good, just one more piece of baggage to carry around..one more to put in between myself and someone who may have been good to me and for me.
Take Care ,
Carolyn
Thank God you did not get hurt..Please consider this a wakeup call.
Treat yourself good for the next few days(long baths, wholesome foods,favorite ice cream)
Allow yourself to feel the emotions that go along with something like this.
Drinking will numb only for a very short time... then you will feel even worse...b/c you are repeating behavior that got you in that situation in the first place ...or thats how I always felt when I found myself in those scary situations...I ALWAYS drank to numb the pain, the reliving of the event.. like a bad dream that haunts you.
It never did any good, just one more piece of baggage to carry around..one more to put in between myself and someone who may have been good to me and for me.
Take Care ,
Carolyn
Hey Troubled cow light and love to you.
Don't drink because of this because things have a habit when alcohol is involved of becoming normal. I can only speak for myself on that because each time bad things happened when i drank i covered the pain by normalising what happened please don't go there.
Talk to whoever you need to because you are wort it.
Light and love Zac
Don't drink because of this because things have a habit when alcohol is involved of becoming normal. I can only speak for myself on that because each time bad things happened when i drank i covered the pain by normalising what happened please don't go there.
Talk to whoever you need to because you are wort it.
Light and love Zac
thankyou all for your strong enpowering words of support. i first went through this with my dad when i was 4 and finally had some charges laid when i was 16, i then started drinking and smoking weed and during that time i was beaten by my boyfriend for 2 years and just kept drinking and smoking the pain away, then i was sexually assulted by a co worker when i was 19 and i charged him, and he got off, so i turned to crack and drinking, when i was sold to a drug deal for a night for a ride home by my room mate (i best no get into details), and now this one. i want to turn him in, and i know him and some of my best friends have done work for the guy. plus the intimadation he used, plus knowing that it is a small town and i dont want everyone to know including my mom, plus it his hard to admit that you have a big enough problem for this to happen. i have been going to addac and seeking cousiling since january and with the support of them and even my best drinking buddy i have decided to try to go a week without drinking starting tuesday. please continue with the words of support and encouragement has i can use them all. wish me luck on the no drinking to please. thankyou all more then words can say.
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