I'm very worried about my friend S. She has 5 months clean. We have become quite close. I was at her place the this week and found a small empty bottle of vodka in her bathroom by the garbage. I haven't said anything. She has a 15 yr old daughter that uses and I hate to say this but hoping the bottle was hers.
S has been wanting a drink basically since day 1. She is dealing with a lot of things and I'm just scared she will act on it. She usually lets me know when she wants a drink and we are able to get her out of that mind set for that moment. If she is like me, she won't call and will act on it and drink on impulse.
Do I mention what I found or keep my mouth shut? Im still new to recovery and don't feel I can offer what she needs. I've watched her get stronger and stronger every day in the way she handles things but Ive also watched this obsession about drinking get bigger and bigger. Lets face it...patios are a curse to an addict!!! We have them on every corner here in my city
Any advice would be muchly appreciated.
H
What would it accomplish Hillary? If she is going to drink,she's going to drink.If she is not talking about it,then that is when I would start worrying.Is she going to meetings with you?
My suggestion is for you to keep up the good work on you.It's a very dangerous playground when we are new in recovery to start monitoring other's actions.If she is drinking you will need to express your love and friendship and then get "the hell out of Dodge".It will be a good lesson for you on setting boundries but I will tell you from first hand experience,when friends start using or drinking they don't give a flying f*** about your sobriety.
My suggestion is for you to keep up the good work on you.It's a very dangerous playground when we are new in recovery to start monitoring other's actions.If she is drinking you will need to express your love and friendship and then get "the hell out of Dodge".It will be a good lesson for you on setting boundries but I will tell you from first hand experience,when friends start using or drinking they don't give a flying f*** about your sobriety.
What Tim said....
And like you said Hilary, you are so new to recovery, you still need to focus 100% on you. You can suggest to her what works for you, you can offer to take her to a meeting..beyond that, she's gonna do what she's gonna do. You have such a big heart honey and I see where you want her to have what you have but you can't make her not drink. But you know that.
I'm really so proud of you.
And like you said Hilary, you are so new to recovery, you still need to focus 100% on you. You can suggest to her what works for you, you can offer to take her to a meeting..beyond that, she's gonna do what she's gonna do. You have such a big heart honey and I see where you want her to have what you have but you can't make her not drink. But you know that.
I'm really so proud of you.
thanks Tim and Lisa
I know there is nothing I can really do if she wants a drink. I'll be there for her no matter what. I can always count on u 2 to ground me.
love you 2
Hilary
I know there is nothing I can really do if she wants a drink. I'll be there for her no matter what. I can always count on u 2 to ground me.
love you 2
Hilary