Just a booh hooh poor me me me me!
I'm sick of my daughter ignoring me............sick we made an agreement when I'd call she'd get back to me within the day............sick she has strangers answer her cell phone..............sick I get my dear friend to look at a Myspace to see if she logged in to know she is alive.
Sick my family is sick that she treates me this way..........sick that they don't want her named mentioned............sick sick sick sick sick.
Just sick of it.
Oh agreement if I call.......and oh yeah sick of cell phones..........how do I know that the dude answered isn't somebody stole your phone.........sick the creep treated me like a piece of s*it...........whoever he is...........the agreement.......all made and all.............I call three days later............you don't call me back......I wait until the next day to call.............you don't call me back.
Over two weeks later you haven't called me back..........haven't texted.......that's ignorant.
Over two weeks later you haven't called me back..........haven't texted.......that's ignorant.
Oh Bryn, Im so sorry...here I am rambling on and on about me and your hurting..hugs my fellow catholic school girl ( i KNEW you had to be)...hugs and I'm sending you strength...go do somethng good and special for YOU today on this Friday ! you deserve it !!
Hey Bryn. I'm sorry you feel this way (or are made to). My mum passed away 10 years ago now and I'd do anything and I mean anything to just be able to give her a hug. Here's a hug from me to you **hugs Bryn**
It makes me mad when people take their mum's for granted, they really don't know how lucky they are. And you are fab on top of all that, they must be crazy!
Chin up babes,
Linz xx
It makes me mad when people take their mum's for granted, they really don't know how lucky they are. And you are fab on top of all that, they must be crazy!
Chin up babes,
Linz xx
Sending hugs as well
You know, do you love herwhich I know you do, so keep it simple you love her, you know it, she will feel it
And guess what, no matter what she loves youyes she does, dont be arguingshe does
She doesnt want to talk, she knows you care cause you call, let that be enough for now. You know she is alive, she is alivethat means a lot ( it holds the promise ) , and you have to find a way for it to be enough for you as well
From here the path will wind and bend, and hit highs and lowsyou will either ride it into insanity or be patient and waitcause it will change, it always does, with time, just giving things time.
Remember there is no control
She needs time to grow up, she needs to learn something I am so sure through her choices or she wouldnt have made themallow her this time to grow...
It will be ok, believe!
Be good to you
Love Yah
You know, do you love herwhich I know you do, so keep it simple you love her, you know it, she will feel it
And guess what, no matter what she loves youyes she does, dont be arguingshe does
She doesnt want to talk, she knows you care cause you call, let that be enough for now. You know she is alive, she is alivethat means a lot ( it holds the promise ) , and you have to find a way for it to be enough for you as well
From here the path will wind and bend, and hit highs and lowsyou will either ride it into insanity or be patient and waitcause it will change, it always does, with time, just giving things time.
Remember there is no control
She needs time to grow up, she needs to learn something I am so sure through her choices or she wouldnt have made themallow her this time to grow...
It will be ok, believe!
Be good to you
Love Yah
What Tina said...
Yes, it's hurtful, deliberately so, no doubt. But my daughter always says her poor choices were almost like something she HAD to do to get where she is today. Some kids have to learn everything the hard way - twice. I am so sorry you have to be the target of her anger, but she knows you'll always love her and that makes you a safe target, as painful as that is. She'll get there, Bryn, I really believe that.
Comfort~MomNMore
Yes, it's hurtful, deliberately so, no doubt. But my daughter always says her poor choices were almost like something she HAD to do to get where she is today. Some kids have to learn everything the hard way - twice. I am so sorry you have to be the target of her anger, but she knows you'll always love her and that makes you a safe target, as painful as that is. She'll get there, Bryn, I really believe that.
Comfort~MomNMore
Bryn, don't really know what to say... Sending some P vibes your way.
Aw hunny, I know it's hard. Ya wanna just grab em up and slap em right side of the head. How can the fruit of your loins mistreat you like this when ya wiped their butts and cleaned up their puke? Trying for a hahaha here honey.
You know I don't get to talk to my middle son that much either, he's off living his life and can't call his mom or his bro on his bro's BD. Then I call him the next day and he talks to him and promises him a subscription to some online game. That was the 15th...have seen hide nor hair of him.
Yup, they are self centered, gotta hang out with friends, play online, eat and sleep. Weren't we too though? Gotta remember back in the day, course I was a good girl, even living with my bf I found time to come down for dinner and visit. Guess it's a new age...
Hang in there and keep venting girl!
You know I don't get to talk to my middle son that much either, he's off living his life and can't call his mom or his bro on his bro's BD. Then I call him the next day and he talks to him and promises him a subscription to some online game. That was the 15th...have seen hide nor hair of him.
Yup, they are self centered, gotta hang out with friends, play online, eat and sleep. Weren't we too though? Gotta remember back in the day, course I was a good girl, even living with my bf I found time to come down for dinner and visit. Guess it's a new age...
Hang in there and keep venting girl!
oh bryn--nothin to say that will make it better--i want to say --time will heal it all, but that wont stop the pain now--im here for you and keep venting, you are doing good--i see progress--honest
Oh Bryn
I think they do this sometimes just to show us they are in control, or so they think!
I have two kids; my daughter who's just turned 18 and caught up in the Heroin addiction disease and my son who'll be 20 in March who's the "model son" yeh right. He maybe in as much as he did well at school, works and has never been lured into any kind of trouble or bad living. However, he's the one who's less likely to bother calling me back or checking to see if I'm ok. He's no idea what I've been through over the past 18 months with his (addict) sister as it just doesn't fit his "perfect world". Yeh he knows about her but finds it really difficult to deal with.
When I do get to speak to him its all about him. I guess its the young generation of selfishness. I love him but I didn't bring him up to be so self centred........ It doesn't seem to matter what we've done or how we've been there for them Bryn... they just don't seem to have the capacity to show how much they love or care about us. I'm sure your daughter and all our kids do love and care for us, its just that they're too caught up in their own "self important" worlds to fit us into their busy schedules. I sit and cry buckets some days and can't believe my kids treat me this way but it seems the more I talk to other mums with "grown up kids" most of them appear the same.
Long story to simply say.... try not to let it get you down too much girl. Your daughter does love you, she just doesn't have room for you in her life just now.
She'll mature and grow as they all will and we'll get them back as decent adults I'm sure.
It makes me realise what a nightmare I must of been to my mum & dad oooops!
sorry guys lol xxx
I'm sending you a warm hug of sunshine to cheer up your day.
Luv Christina xxx
ps: you are such an inspiration and a wonderful person so how could your daughter possibly not love you!!!!
I think they do this sometimes just to show us they are in control, or so they think!
I have two kids; my daughter who's just turned 18 and caught up in the Heroin addiction disease and my son who'll be 20 in March who's the "model son" yeh right. He maybe in as much as he did well at school, works and has never been lured into any kind of trouble or bad living. However, he's the one who's less likely to bother calling me back or checking to see if I'm ok. He's no idea what I've been through over the past 18 months with his (addict) sister as it just doesn't fit his "perfect world". Yeh he knows about her but finds it really difficult to deal with.
When I do get to speak to him its all about him. I guess its the young generation of selfishness. I love him but I didn't bring him up to be so self centred........ It doesn't seem to matter what we've done or how we've been there for them Bryn... they just don't seem to have the capacity to show how much they love or care about us. I'm sure your daughter and all our kids do love and care for us, its just that they're too caught up in their own "self important" worlds to fit us into their busy schedules. I sit and cry buckets some days and can't believe my kids treat me this way but it seems the more I talk to other mums with "grown up kids" most of them appear the same.
Long story to simply say.... try not to let it get you down too much girl. Your daughter does love you, she just doesn't have room for you in her life just now.
She'll mature and grow as they all will and we'll get them back as decent adults I'm sure.
It makes me realise what a nightmare I must of been to my mum & dad oooops!
sorry guys lol xxx
I'm sending you a warm hug of sunshine to cheer up your day.
Luv Christina xxx
ps: you are such an inspiration and a wonderful person so how could your daughter possibly not love you!!!!
Bryn, honey. She loves you, how could she not?
I'm sorry she makes you so crazed. she probably has no idea how hurtful she is. Please just hang on. She has enough of you in her makeup to eventually turn around and see all the love she is passing up.
I'll send an extra prayer out for both of you.
rita
I'm sorry she makes you so crazed. she probably has no idea how hurtful she is. Please just hang on. She has enough of you in her makeup to eventually turn around and see all the love she is passing up.
I'll send an extra prayer out for both of you.
rita
Dear Bryn,
Some kids need that independence. My son was like that. It seemed like his friends were more important than us....that's for sure. He always talked about going to college in California. When the time came, however, he went to a college 2 hours away and came home almost every weekend. It was so nice to have him come home but I honestly think he did it to get some sleep! At his college, many of the kids went home on the weekends, so they had a different party night during the week.
Also, they are buying a home about a block away from us. I couldn't believe it! I didn't even mention the house because it was so close...I thought he would have nothing to do with it. My son-in-law thinks they have a plan. They are planning to have a baby in about 2 years and she plans to continue working, so he thinks they're moving close so we can babysit. I was thinking about going back to work at the school when Angelina (my granddaughter) gets in kindergarten (2009-2010) but who knows what's going to happen now? One day at a time!
Another thing. We offered them our timeshare week for their honeymoon and they said they'd rather we keep it and plan a family vacation and they will join us.
They come around, Bryn, but many of them need to experience that freedom and independence. I'm so sorry that you are hurting.
Love,
Susan
Some kids need that independence. My son was like that. It seemed like his friends were more important than us....that's for sure. He always talked about going to college in California. When the time came, however, he went to a college 2 hours away and came home almost every weekend. It was so nice to have him come home but I honestly think he did it to get some sleep! At his college, many of the kids went home on the weekends, so they had a different party night during the week.
Also, they are buying a home about a block away from us. I couldn't believe it! I didn't even mention the house because it was so close...I thought he would have nothing to do with it. My son-in-law thinks they have a plan. They are planning to have a baby in about 2 years and she plans to continue working, so he thinks they're moving close so we can babysit. I was thinking about going back to work at the school when Angelina (my granddaughter) gets in kindergarten (2009-2010) but who knows what's going to happen now? One day at a time!
Another thing. We offered them our timeshare week for their honeymoon and they said they'd rather we keep it and plan a family vacation and they will join us.
They come around, Bryn, but many of them need to experience that freedom and independence. I'm so sorry that you are hurting.
Love,
Susan
Thanks everyone.
Yeah go live your life, but I'm telling ya I'd be the first person to have said.......where the heck are the parents............if something happened.......I don't care if she hates me, and NO she does NOT love me..........I can handle that no problem.............honestly...........but you should out of common courtesy let people know you are alright...............just yeah I am alive.
You know ya let enough people know you have no contact with your family......somebody takes advantage of that...........I don't care what nobody says...........oh well nothing I can do about it..............nothing.
Jan, don't feel like slapping her upside the head...........not at all...........I'm just disgusted, disheartened, dismayed, and plain sad, sad, sad, sad.
Yeah go live your life, but I'm telling ya I'd be the first person to have said.......where the heck are the parents............if something happened.......I don't care if she hates me, and NO she does NOT love me..........I can handle that no problem.............honestly...........but you should out of common courtesy let people know you are alright...............just yeah I am alive.
You know ya let enough people know you have no contact with your family......somebody takes advantage of that...........I don't care what nobody says...........oh well nothing I can do about it..............nothing.
Jan, don't feel like slapping her upside the head...........not at all...........I'm just disgusted, disheartened, dismayed, and plain sad, sad, sad, sad.
Ah Bryn...she loves you...you got to know that in your heart...im not a mom...but my mom and i barley speak...its kind of the other way around...she hates me...always has...something to do with my birth...and shes not talking even 47 years later..she just holds a grudge...but ya know what...i love her anyways...maybe not the big huge love thing that a lot of moms get...but its a kind of love...ya, it be damn nice if your kid would at least call ...courtesy 4 sure...but maybe shes just out looking for a way to be herself right now..and its not that you dont matter...its just that she needs this time to be HER...wish i could take the sadness from you...all i can say is...she loves you....she might not LIKE you at the moment...but she loves you...and maybe that love isnt living up to the expectations of how you think she should love you...give her some time...let her define her own way on how to love you....hang in there Bryn
Awww, well thank ya sweet Con...........and thank you all for your kind words.
I'm sick of me being sick of this.......LOL.........and I've bled everyone's ear enough about it............what can I do?
My mom jokes my brother's birth did her in...........but, Con I don't believe your mom hates ya either.............who the heck knows what goes on with mom's and kids and all that..........I do know my brother eating the collars of his shirts, and his consuming enormous amount of ceral worked a nerve on my mom......and ain't he by here every single day to see what she needs.......only chewing his collar ocasionally when nervous.
We should turn my "I'm sick of this" thread into a love fest, right?
I'm sick of me being sick of this.......LOL.........and I've bled everyone's ear enough about it............what can I do?
My mom jokes my brother's birth did her in...........but, Con I don't believe your mom hates ya either.............who the heck knows what goes on with mom's and kids and all that..........I do know my brother eating the collars of his shirts, and his consuming enormous amount of ceral worked a nerve on my mom......and ain't he by here every single day to see what she needs.......only chewing his collar ocasionally when nervous.
We should turn my "I'm sick of this" thread into a love fest, right?
Yes... cos all you need is love....
