When I was very young I had a very close friend named Debbie who was a couple of years older than me. We went through school together and she was my Jr. counsolor at bible camp when I was growing up. Our mothers were friends and our grandmothers were friends. Well, over the years we went our separate ways because we both got married and had children and she moved away. A few years back she got divorced and moved back to our hometown with her children. When we first ran into each other nothing had changed she was still the beautiful person she always was. Our children bacame friends and attend the same schools. One of her daughters is in 7th grade and one is in 10th. Well, when I first ran into her when she moved back I learned she had cancer she is 44 and she was in remission. We always reminised about old times and would laugh because she would always threaten to tell my husband how wild I was in my younger years. I'm telling you she was an angel. Not a bad bone in her body. She cared about everyone. It seemed lately we were always running into each other at the town fair, at school, at the grocery store and now I know why. Last Thursday I got the news that hospice had been called. When hospice is called I know what that means being I do private duty as a cna but I had no idea it would happen this quick. She passed away this morning. I am kinda pissed thinking it should of been me. I am the one who has abused my body for years and all she did was be that kind and loving friend and mother and daughter that she was. Just can't figure this one out. Know her two young daughters are left without a mother. Rest in peace Deb and know you are in a better place. I am so sad. Shantel aka Lizzy to you.
I am sorry for your loss Shan
Shantel, I am so sorry that you are feeling this grief. I've been in your shoes and it does hurt.
Bless you honey and may God keep a watchful eye on your friends daughters.
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Bless you honey and may God keep a watchful eye on your friends daughters.
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What is so sad is her daughters were at school this morning when she passed. I pray to god they got a chance to say goodbye to their mother and thank God her mother is still around for the girls. I am a Christain and have accepted Christ into my heart but I have to wonder why he choses to take home one and not the other. When I ask that question I get well God is not finished with you yet on this earth and has other plans for your life. Shantel
I'm so sorry for your loss, Shantel.
Jodi, I am sitting here in tears. Tears for my friend, myself and for you and everyone else suffering. We take so much for granted in our lives. Life is to short. We always say tommorrow we are gonna do this or do that to be a better person or to make things right with whoever we might have offended but guess what today I had a wake up call and tommorrow is not always promised. Shantel
Shantel
Honey Im so sorry for your loss..
You stated that you had recently been running into her in the odd place, bumping into her so to speak...
i do believe that there are no accidents in life and that most things happen for a reason...
Running into her so often makes me think that it was a whisper from God..
Its natural honey to play that game in your head about fairness and death,.who knows why God calls some to be with him and yet leaves others here that may seem less deserving of this thing called life..
Maybe God had something very special for her to do; I do know that there are an awful lot of people that are glad that it wasnt you, and that you are here on this earth..
Sounds like it was a blessing to have known this lady when she was alive; and that she was a blessing again to have had such a profound effect upon your life when she passed on..
Not taking life for granted is a hard thing to do, and a real gift when we realize and appreciate that fact...
Again Shantel, I am so sorry for your loss...
Hugs
Ali
Honey Im so sorry for your loss..
You stated that you had recently been running into her in the odd place, bumping into her so to speak...
i do believe that there are no accidents in life and that most things happen for a reason...
Running into her so often makes me think that it was a whisper from God..
Its natural honey to play that game in your head about fairness and death,.who knows why God calls some to be with him and yet leaves others here that may seem less deserving of this thing called life..
Maybe God had something very special for her to do; I do know that there are an awful lot of people that are glad that it wasnt you, and that you are here on this earth..
Sounds like it was a blessing to have known this lady when she was alive; and that she was a blessing again to have had such a profound effect upon your life when she passed on..
Not taking life for granted is a hard thing to do, and a real gift when we realize and appreciate that fact...
Again Shantel, I am so sorry for your loss...
Hugs
Ali
shantel.........
i am so very sorry...............
bless your heart
i am so very sorry...............
bless your heart
I am so sorry about your friend. God bless you and take care. I will be sending prayers your way.
Hugs,
Stephanie
Hugs,
Stephanie
Ali, She was so special. My mind is going a thousand miles a minute right now. The last time I saw here her hair was gone from chemo and radiation but she still had a smile on her face. I can't even imagine being her and knowing it was the end. How can you face death knowing you are leaving your loved ones. I have 9 brothers and sisters and my parents are still alive and have been lucky not to lose one of them. The last time I saw her daughters she was in remission and they were laughing and having fun with my children on the football field. This is to much for me to handle. And to think I was gonna go to bed tonight being pissed at my husband for something stupid and mad at my kids for not doing their chores. That's not gonna happen. Shantel
Shantel, I know we all (I) take so much for granted. Kinda knocks you back into place, doesn't it?
Again, I am so sorry. It sucks that someone who deserves to have a life, to live to see her kids grow up and grandkids, can be gone too young. I've experienced it...yet I'll never understand it.
I don't know what else to say except that I am sorry. I know it hurts.
And it's okay to be sad and to grieve.
I'll be thinking of you Shantel.
Take care, okay?
Love,
Jodi
Again, I am so sorry. It sucks that someone who deserves to have a life, to live to see her kids grow up and grandkids, can be gone too young. I've experienced it...yet I'll never understand it.
I don't know what else to say except that I am sorry. I know it hurts.
And it's okay to be sad and to grieve.
I'll be thinking of you Shantel.
Take care, okay?
Love,
Jodi
And, Shantel, I am going to start again tomorrow, and not take it all for granted...
In honor of you and your friend.
Life is a gift. If we could only see it that way.
In honor of you and your friend.
Life is a gift. If we could only see it that way.
Go hug them all, Shantel
Thank you guys, I have never lost anyone close to me and I am just at a loss as to why the Lord decided to take her home and not me. If I was him I would have chosen to take me. Shantel
Shantel
Death is such a hard thing to talk about, to deal with...we are all..from the day we are born, destined to die one day....its a given...yet we try not to think about it, let alone talk about it..
You say that she was in hospice care at the end? My Mother did that for years, and im sure you know that they work with the patient to actually deal with the ending of this life, to try to come to terms with it...
theres no doubt that those that believe in an after life hold up better...and hopefully she was able to come to terms with it, the best she could...
having had cancer, and even remission, i sure honey that she was really working at finding some peace as to what could or would happen to her if the cancer came back.....
As you say, it really puts things into place, and you realize how silly it is to sweat the small stuff....
if only we can remember forever...its almost impossible to do so...to live every day as if you were dying and not take a minute for granted...
But for now..for right now, hug your kids extra tight, go to sleep with hubby and fall to sleep holding hands...Appreciate the right now...thats a gift shes still giving you...
Hugs
Ali
Death is such a hard thing to talk about, to deal with...we are all..from the day we are born, destined to die one day....its a given...yet we try not to think about it, let alone talk about it..
You say that she was in hospice care at the end? My Mother did that for years, and im sure you know that they work with the patient to actually deal with the ending of this life, to try to come to terms with it...
theres no doubt that those that believe in an after life hold up better...and hopefully she was able to come to terms with it, the best she could...
having had cancer, and even remission, i sure honey that she was really working at finding some peace as to what could or would happen to her if the cancer came back.....
As you say, it really puts things into place, and you realize how silly it is to sweat the small stuff....
if only we can remember forever...its almost impossible to do so...to live every day as if you were dying and not take a minute for granted...
But for now..for right now, hug your kids extra tight, go to sleep with hubby and fall to sleep holding hands...Appreciate the right now...thats a gift shes still giving you...
Hugs
Ali
Shantel, I am so sorry. Please don't say it should have been you. God knows what he is doing. Think about your young son, and your grandchildren. They are all going to need you in the coming years just as they do now.
You are a blessing to many around you, and I know they sure don't think it should have been you.
Been there, I know how hard it is. You have my sympathy.
Hey honey
Just wanted to say to keep on talking about this..Survivors remorse is real and its something that people go to therapists for...i know cus i was one of those people...
i was forced into it so didnt get the benefit I should have...point is everything you are feeling is normal, even wondering why it wasnt you...keep talking about it.....
Hugs
Ali
Just wanted to say to keep on talking about this..Survivors remorse is real and its something that people go to therapists for...i know cus i was one of those people...
i was forced into it so didnt get the benefit I should have...point is everything you are feeling is normal, even wondering why it wasnt you...keep talking about it.....
Hugs
Ali
you all are so special and beautiful................
praying for u shantel...............
thinking of u........
thumper
praying for u shantel...............
thinking of u........
thumper
Dear Shantel,
So very sorry for the loss of your dear friend
Hugs
Wendy
So very sorry for the loss of your dear friend
Hugs
Wendy
Shantell, I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I wish I knew what to say to make it go away....
Some believe that our death is written at our conception...that it is part of us. I know it hurts to lose a friend like that, and I never will understand God's timing.
Sending out good vibes...
Some believe that our death is written at our conception...that it is part of us. I know it hurts to lose a friend like that, and I never will understand God's timing.
Sending out good vibes...
