Brand spanking new carpet.......haven't heard from her yet how they look.
She got a lawn mower too.....now to some people that's just a given, but seeing I was with her when we'd have to bum money so she could get kittie litter...I'm so proud of her........and all her accomplishments.....she's a good person, always was, she's an excellent mommy and a hard worker......and she's a nut-nut that has me laughing cause she laughs at herself.
Just wanted to share that and for anyone comes to this Board who loves someone who happens to be an addict.......please know there's hope and this lady Ms. Tres she's proof......we can get better.
THAT'S GREAT!!!!!!!!!!Tres ..I remember when newly clean getting paid and wondering the heck to do with the money. Best thing i like about not using is I do really value the things i have now.
Yeah she's like the mad decorator now........she always loved that stuff....not me.......she used to say my mom inspired her to have a nice decor......let me tell ya.......I had some loot I wouldn't be buying no rugs........I'd buy fierce shoes.
Indeed Miss Shabby Chic is into her curtains and all........I love hearing her happy........although she came home to a busted pipe.....barely mentioned it.
She never freaks out........laughs at me when I do.
How the heck did we spend allllllll them dinaro's though back then? Yikes.
Indeed Miss Shabby Chic is into her curtains and all........I love hearing her happy........although she came home to a busted pipe.....barely mentioned it.
She never freaks out........laughs at me when I do.
How the heck did we spend allllllll them dinaro's though back then? Yikes.
mad decorator you say ?? WELL YA GOT THE MAD PART RIGHT !!! Actually quite looking forward to having my little room in the back fo the house, and much closer to check on the son throughout the night <sigh>.......thanks for all the kind words my bryn.........but I'm just plain nuts and stressed and trying to get through another day. My daughter is so nuts and has me worried sick.......due to deliver in two months and not sure what to expect, no doubt she will be a great mom, but her mood shifts and anger.........scare me for sure......do we ever stop worrying ?
Dear Ms Tres,
I'm so PROUD of you for all you've accomplished! You've come so far! As for your last question.....NOPE!
I will tell you this. My daughter had just turned 20 two months before having her baby and she's been a WONDERFUL mom. Yes, we do help out a lot but we're just playing the "father" part of the responsibility until she finds someone to fill it. She still plays the mommy part most of the time.
Love,
Susan
I'm so PROUD of you for all you've accomplished! You've come so far! As for your last question.....NOPE!
I will tell you this. My daughter had just turned 20 two months before having her baby and she's been a WONDERFUL mom. Yes, we do help out a lot but we're just playing the "father" part of the responsibility until she finds someone to fill it. She still plays the mommy part most of the time.
Love,
Susan
Right, Susan? Didn't this chickie come so far.....I'm so proud of her.
Although the use of the words "nuts" is not PC, Tres........and I'm needing all that yelling to stop over there.........how ya gonna have a romantic boudoir with yelling..........LOL........it's gonna be fine........just fine.
Susan, your daughter is fortunate to have you all to help.........she knows it too, and shows it........extended family anymore is hard to find........and of course she's an excellent mom, she learned from the best.
Oh and as for your daughter and meeting a man up the road.......my dad I always talk about.........no blood relation.......but I was treated equally at all times.....in fact sometimes even better because I was the only girl.....I got the most as in clothes and all..........yep Tres will tell ya my dad raised me up.....same as my bruh's and he did a great job.......and alas though with my daughter........well I literally got pushed to the back........he'd carry her and I'd have all the bags and all........and he'd go out the door and forget to hold it for me........they were inseperable...........blood that got nothing to do with nothing.
Your daughter will know when it's right. Absolutely.
Although the use of the words "nuts" is not PC, Tres........and I'm needing all that yelling to stop over there.........how ya gonna have a romantic boudoir with yelling..........LOL........it's gonna be fine........just fine.
Susan, your daughter is fortunate to have you all to help.........she knows it too, and shows it........extended family anymore is hard to find........and of course she's an excellent mom, she learned from the best.
Oh and as for your daughter and meeting a man up the road.......my dad I always talk about.........no blood relation.......but I was treated equally at all times.....in fact sometimes even better because I was the only girl.....I got the most as in clothes and all..........yep Tres will tell ya my dad raised me up.....same as my bruh's and he did a great job.......and alas though with my daughter........well I literally got pushed to the back........he'd carry her and I'd have all the bags and all........and he'd go out the door and forget to hold it for me........they were inseperable...........blood that got nothing to do with nothing.
Your daughter will know when it's right. Absolutely.
sure wish she'd come and re-decorate my pad!
Dear Bryn,
The best boyfriend she ever had was the one before the father of her child. He did have his flaws, but he treated her like a princess and would do anything for her. I'll call him Tom. She was starting to lose feelings for Tom and was going to break up with him but then his grandfather died suddenly and she couldn't. Then this guy from the internet (I'll call him Ken) kept PESTERING her. He would NOT take no for an answer. Ken was VERY persistent and she finally broke up with Tom. It was very hard on us all because he was like a member of the family and he was closer to us than his own family.
Ken was a real manipulator. He ACTED like a good boyfriend but he was TERRIBLE. He lied, cheated, verbally abused, and had a violent temper. He was also addicted to pornography we found out when my brother put a keylogger on our computer. One of the biggest lies he told her was that he had to go to Iraq on a dangerous mission. NOT He said he was in the Special Forces. NOT He told her he loved her and asked him to marry her giving her a fake engagement ring (we found out it was fake when it chipped....dead giveaway!). She was heartbroken! By the time she found out was he was, she was pregnant.
Anyway, we found out much later that Tom backed out of the picture because Ken threatened to slit his throat if he ever talked to my daughter again. We found out he threatened any guy that talked to her when one of her ex-classmates confided that he found him in the yearbook and called him to threaten him after he had run into my daughter and Ken at the grocery store. He was SICK!
When my daughter broke it off with Ken just before the baby was born, Tom came back to help her and give her support. He told my daughter that all she needed to do was say the word and they would be back together but he wanted an answer before my daughter was able to give it. She was so broken after all of this. Tom loved my daughter and granddaughter very much but he was anxious to get married and have a family. When she couldn't give him an answer or much hope for the future with him, he said that he had to move on.
My daughter was surprised to learn that Tom had started to date and girl and in a very short period of time they were living together. Tom doesn't seem to be "in love" with her and doesn't even talk very highly of her but they are planning to get married this September. He still calls here and stops by to visit us occasionally. He still tells my daughter he loves her and gives her a kiss on the top of her head when he leaves. He doesn't make any inappropriate advances or my daughter wouldn't let him come. My daughter still can't say that they would have a future but she would now be more in a frame of mind to give it a try IF he wasn't engaged. She, however, can't possibly tell him that because she promise him anything so she doesn't want to do anything to break this up BUT we're not seeing that he is very happy about his upcoming wedding like he should be.
A different guy that my daughter had dated has moved on and is engaged to be married and she's fine with that one because she loves him as a friend and can see that this he and this girl make each other happy. It is going to be very hard for my daughter to see September coming because she's unsure if she did the right thing and it's past the point of finding out (or at least she feels it is). Because of all she's been through she says it will be quite a while before she's ready to get married.
Please pray for whatever is best for these two dear people will happen. I have no idea what that is and I don't think they do either. Life sure can be hard at times, can't it?
Love,
Susan
The best boyfriend she ever had was the one before the father of her child. He did have his flaws, but he treated her like a princess and would do anything for her. I'll call him Tom. She was starting to lose feelings for Tom and was going to break up with him but then his grandfather died suddenly and she couldn't. Then this guy from the internet (I'll call him Ken) kept PESTERING her. He would NOT take no for an answer. Ken was VERY persistent and she finally broke up with Tom. It was very hard on us all because he was like a member of the family and he was closer to us than his own family.
Ken was a real manipulator. He ACTED like a good boyfriend but he was TERRIBLE. He lied, cheated, verbally abused, and had a violent temper. He was also addicted to pornography we found out when my brother put a keylogger on our computer. One of the biggest lies he told her was that he had to go to Iraq on a dangerous mission. NOT He said he was in the Special Forces. NOT He told her he loved her and asked him to marry her giving her a fake engagement ring (we found out it was fake when it chipped....dead giveaway!). She was heartbroken! By the time she found out was he was, she was pregnant.
Anyway, we found out much later that Tom backed out of the picture because Ken threatened to slit his throat if he ever talked to my daughter again. We found out he threatened any guy that talked to her when one of her ex-classmates confided that he found him in the yearbook and called him to threaten him after he had run into my daughter and Ken at the grocery store. He was SICK!
When my daughter broke it off with Ken just before the baby was born, Tom came back to help her and give her support. He told my daughter that all she needed to do was say the word and they would be back together but he wanted an answer before my daughter was able to give it. She was so broken after all of this. Tom loved my daughter and granddaughter very much but he was anxious to get married and have a family. When she couldn't give him an answer or much hope for the future with him, he said that he had to move on.
My daughter was surprised to learn that Tom had started to date and girl and in a very short period of time they were living together. Tom doesn't seem to be "in love" with her and doesn't even talk very highly of her but they are planning to get married this September. He still calls here and stops by to visit us occasionally. He still tells my daughter he loves her and gives her a kiss on the top of her head when he leaves. He doesn't make any inappropriate advances or my daughter wouldn't let him come. My daughter still can't say that they would have a future but she would now be more in a frame of mind to give it a try IF he wasn't engaged. She, however, can't possibly tell him that because she promise him anything so she doesn't want to do anything to break this up BUT we're not seeing that he is very happy about his upcoming wedding like he should be.
A different guy that my daughter had dated has moved on and is engaged to be married and she's fine with that one because she loves him as a friend and can see that this he and this girl make each other happy. It is going to be very hard for my daughter to see September coming because she's unsure if she did the right thing and it's past the point of finding out (or at least she feels it is). Because of all she's been through she says it will be quite a while before she's ready to get married.
Please pray for whatever is best for these two dear people will happen. I have no idea what that is and I don't think they do either. Life sure can be hard at times, can't it?
Love,
Susan
Susan, anything can happen between now and September.........ya never know.
Definately I'll say a prayer that your daughter and Tom proceed on with whatever is best for all involved.
Thank heaven that Ken ain't around.........frightening.
Definately I'll say a prayer that your daughter and Tom proceed on with whatever is best for all involved.
Thank heaven that Ken ain't around.........frightening.
