Ok, may I propose something? I would like to propose that everyone recognize that everyone has opinions, that we may or may not agree with those opinions, if someone is not telling the truth, or their posts contradict themselves, can we please just stick to whatever topic we are posting on,and not start an argument. Things are going on that are getting really immature. I love you all very much, and this board IS the first thing I think of in the AM, and how so and so is doing and whatever. Today it happened again, the mudslinging. Can the people involved (you know who you are ;-) ) shake hands and let it go? Please don't get mad at me for this post, I am just tired of the bickering, if you need to do that, exchange emails? Big hugs to all, Kim
kim
first of all... let me say I am not mad.. but I am quite confused... What took place just a few minutes ago was not mudslinging not on my part... the only thing that in my opinion that could be called mudslinging was when I said something about her knowledge of the law... that might have been over the line... but the fact remains... no body will get any further in there recovery or in there maturity if no one calls them on things... I know.. I went to the same meeting for years in fact I still go .. there was this one guy there .. we all called him keytag john.. cause he all his keytags on his belt on display.. all you could get even the black one for multiple years... anyway.. he was arrognant and often like sandpaper..but he always said what he thought and often he was right... he would tell me to 'get real'... or stop putting on an act... and he was right.. it took me months to just stop with the facade and get it... and until then i hated him for it... when he looked at me and took a deep breath i thought oh just shut up... but after a while... i got it and it was a turning point in many parts of my life... i never told him how he helped me... or how i felt about him... prolly never will cause he is still an arrognant sob... but... he still said what he said and didnt shy away.....
that is what i do and intent to do it still... i try to curb it more often and maybe be a bit more considerate of others but i will not do a disservice to the other person or myself by just being silent and only 'loving' and helping the ones that like me or show me respect... i will 'help' all ... if I see something that i feel needs brought to there attention then i will ...i would hope others can do that for me... respectfully of course... that is what it is often about.. once i have done that how they act or if they act on it is on them... if they post nasty or childish back then i cant control that.... but I try very hard not to say mean things or call names...
I am sorry you got upset earlier and remain that way now.... I appologized in my last post apparently that may not have been enough... I dont know what else to do... but I will not appologize for what I said for the most part as I stand by it...
as you plead in your post not to be mad I do the same with you... dont be mad at me.. i am only doing what I feel is best.... I know you dont agree but we all dont.. the difference is how it is done... maybe I should have started a new thread.. i will maybe do better next time....
Teresa
first of all... let me say I am not mad.. but I am quite confused... What took place just a few minutes ago was not mudslinging not on my part... the only thing that in my opinion that could be called mudslinging was when I said something about her knowledge of the law... that might have been over the line... but the fact remains... no body will get any further in there recovery or in there maturity if no one calls them on things... I know.. I went to the same meeting for years in fact I still go .. there was this one guy there .. we all called him keytag john.. cause he all his keytags on his belt on display.. all you could get even the black one for multiple years... anyway.. he was arrognant and often like sandpaper..but he always said what he thought and often he was right... he would tell me to 'get real'... or stop putting on an act... and he was right.. it took me months to just stop with the facade and get it... and until then i hated him for it... when he looked at me and took a deep breath i thought oh just shut up... but after a while... i got it and it was a turning point in many parts of my life... i never told him how he helped me... or how i felt about him... prolly never will cause he is still an arrognant sob... but... he still said what he said and didnt shy away.....
that is what i do and intent to do it still... i try to curb it more often and maybe be a bit more considerate of others but i will not do a disservice to the other person or myself by just being silent and only 'loving' and helping the ones that like me or show me respect... i will 'help' all ... if I see something that i feel needs brought to there attention then i will ...i would hope others can do that for me... respectfully of course... that is what it is often about.. once i have done that how they act or if they act on it is on them... if they post nasty or childish back then i cant control that.... but I try very hard not to say mean things or call names...
I am sorry you got upset earlier and remain that way now.... I appologized in my last post apparently that may not have been enough... I dont know what else to do... but I will not appologize for what I said for the most part as I stand by it...
as you plead in your post not to be mad I do the same with you... dont be mad at me.. i am only doing what I feel is best.... I know you dont agree but we all dont.. the difference is how it is done... maybe I should have started a new thread.. i will maybe do better next time....
Teresa
Kim, If you think I was slinging mud.........I will explain.
You've got mail, we'll talk about it offline.
You guys please don't get mad, I know who is the problem and I was just trying to get it to end, that is all. Please understand, Kim
