Hi,
This year 2015, it was not like the past year, my boyfriend confesed to me that he had tried shabu but the effects on him is very bad.. he is now paranoid person, keep on saying that someone is in the other bedroom looking inside our bedroom, then he is not afraid anymore and he will drive in his motorcycle while he was standing. Very weird, i told his relatives about what happened to him. They just suggested me to ask help with some medication. My boyfriend told me that he is no longer taking shabu but why is it , he is still paranoid. Getting worried right now,I told him if he will not recover , i will leave him.. but he is not afraid if I leave. He suspected that it was not shabu it was a different drugs.. he keep on suspecting anyone around him... without any proof... it was hassle.. and annoying. I'm getting tired of our situation, but i try my best to be with him because he is not like this before. i wanna say that taking drugs is not safe and it will ruined the life of every people not only the user but also the life of his family members.. good thing..life sentence for the drugs lords.
Dear concern,
First, I question the honesty in his answer that he is no longer using. If you are seeing symptoms, your suspicion is most likely accurate that he is using. The odds of this being only a side-effect of usage is remote.
This does not have to be a life sentence. There is hope. If the addict wants to find a better way to live, there are options available - professional treatment, AA, NA, etc..
However, there is nothing you can do to convince him to seek help and join a long-term recovery program. The only thing you can STOP doing is enabling. If you are not sure if you are doing so, you might try Al Anon or NAR Anon. The normal reaction is to "help" a loved one who is in need. However, the help we give is often an enabler to continued usage.
I hope this helps.
First, I question the honesty in his answer that he is no longer using. If you are seeing symptoms, your suspicion is most likely accurate that he is using. The odds of this being only a side-effect of usage is remote.
This does not have to be a life sentence. There is hope. If the addict wants to find a better way to live, there are options available - professional treatment, AA, NA, etc..
However, there is nothing you can do to convince him to seek help and join a long-term recovery program. The only thing you can STOP doing is enabling. If you are not sure if you are doing so, you might try Al Anon or NAR Anon. The normal reaction is to "help" a loved one who is in need. However, the help we give is often an enabler to continued usage.
I hope this helps.
