hi everybody, iv been "clean" with the aid of methadone for 23mths now and i am facing some problems with regard to my long term partner C. We were together through thick and thin while we were using and she (im gay) was my rock even when no one inc my family wanted me around, when i got clean 23mths ago i moved home and had to leabe her behind, in the past few mths we met up and she looked gr8, told me she'd left all that crap behind and could we try again, me the FOOL believed her, for the last 3/4 mths we got on gr8, i think i had my suspicions but i kept on ignoring my gut feeling, until now that is..... i phnd her today and she was stoned, i know what i need to do but just cannot seem to do it, guilt and other feelings are stopping me. i dont only have to do this for me but for my daughter too(long story).....
any advise from anyone would be hugely appreciated...
Hi Edelle,
As someone who's just got clean and is trying to find his way through the fog of guilt,hopelessness,desperation that is the common bond amongst all us adicts, I would say this to you: put yourself and your daughter first.
You are going to be of no good to either yourself or her if you stick by your ex out of feelings of guilt or obligation. It is a well documented fact that in a partnership of addicts,if one is using, the other will either follow likewise or will have to leave.I'm sorry if this isn't what you wanted to hear but it's the hard truth. I've had to learn this painful lesson myself(albeit in a different way).
If you're interested follow my story on 'am in hell' and pay particular attention to the replies I got from people as I came up with one excuse after another why I could weather the storm of watching my best mate smoke his gear in front of me and had no choice but to sit there.
Wishing you the best,
Reshie
As someone who's just got clean and is trying to find his way through the fog of guilt,hopelessness,desperation that is the common bond amongst all us adicts, I would say this to you: put yourself and your daughter first.
You are going to be of no good to either yourself or her if you stick by your ex out of feelings of guilt or obligation. It is a well documented fact that in a partnership of addicts,if one is using, the other will either follow likewise or will have to leave.I'm sorry if this isn't what you wanted to hear but it's the hard truth. I've had to learn this painful lesson myself(albeit in a different way).
If you're interested follow my story on 'am in hell' and pay particular attention to the replies I got from people as I came up with one excuse after another why I could weather the storm of watching my best mate smoke his gear in front of me and had no choice but to sit there.
Wishing you the best,
Reshie
Run, run, run. And when you're 100 miles down the road, run some more.
I know it sucks to see someone you love in that situation, but you've got to take care yourself first. Its easier said than done, I know, but its important. You are no good to her, yourself, or your child if you start getting high again.
I know it sucks to see someone you love in that situation, but you've got to take care yourself first. Its easier said than done, I know, but its important. You are no good to her, yourself, or your child if you start getting high again.
