Hi, not sure where to begin.. Tring to find help for the man i love of 10 yrs. This has destroyed our relationship and we have been apart for a yr now but still in each others lives.. Just found out withen last few months it was Herion he has been on for 2 years. See we both were on pills together, it got so bad between us, the lying, who had more. Well it killed us.. Now i have been clean for 6 mth and he is a total mess, has od 2x's in 3 months,by grace of god he was brought back and saved.. Lost job,our home, totalled 3 cars in as many months.. He needs help, but doesnt see it himself.. I dont know how to help.. I know i am gonna lose him..
I am sorry for what you are going through. It is heart wrenching to watch someone destroy their life, but he has to want help. You can't get it for him. My daughter is an addict. I had to tell her to leave my home if she won't get help. She did leave and she did some horrible things to feed her addiction. She is now in rehab & is having to face all those things and somehow make peace & move on. I am very glad you are clean for 6 months. That is great & you should be proud of yourself. Don't forget about your recovery while you are trying to help your man. I know it's hard, but when he is ready to get help he will ask or find it. I will say a prayer for you both.
You know the score...know what it takes to get and stay clean...you can't do this for him no matter how much you want to help. He needs to find his own way, and your own recovery is too tender and early to be tested...let him find his way...or not...hang in there.
Peace ~ MomNMore
Peace ~ MomNMore
First, good for you for taking clean!! You know what it takes and what needs to happen to get clean. That said, you know sadly that unless he wants to get clean, he will not. It is unfortunate but true. You can't make him get clean. Please don't risk your sobriety to help him when he wants no help.
Walking away, moving forward with your life doesn't mean you don't care but I think at this point you have to put yourself first.
Walking away, moving forward with your life doesn't mean you don't care but I think at this point you have to put yourself first.
