Hey Angel3, looks like we don't get to eat lunch at the cool kid's table. I for one am very hurt.
august!
na na na na boo boo!
i love you to pieces! ;)
sammy
na na na na boo boo!
i love you to pieces! ;)
sammy
Opinion,
That is cool. I respect your reply but that is me, you know. I am very grateful. I have great parents, a great life, it helps me to not dwell on the negative too much. I had a sister and cousin who died of the same disease....Gauche's a neurological thing, I have had 2 other personal heartbreaks lately so maybe that is why I am so CHEESY. But, sigh, it the way I am. Maybe I could change it, I have been told I am walked on too easily and too trusting of people. But I will tell you this, everything I have said complimentary to anyone on this board, is sincere and from my heart. I think I am just grateful and excited I found such a neat place. I am not meaning to be cheesy or fakey or anything like that. I am also a very feeling person and just come off with all my feelings I guess. :) I do not want the ones who have spoken closely to me to think I am cheesy or insincere. I am just too emotional. Maybe from being a woman?? Haha But, no I am no Eddie Haskell, if any of you are old enough to remember him. He was cheesy and full of compliments to the max,...too much so it was obvious. But I thank you for taking time to even post to me.
Jennifer
That is cool. I respect your reply but that is me, you know. I am very grateful. I have great parents, a great life, it helps me to not dwell on the negative too much. I had a sister and cousin who died of the same disease....Gauche's a neurological thing, I have had 2 other personal heartbreaks lately so maybe that is why I am so CHEESY. But, sigh, it the way I am. Maybe I could change it, I have been told I am walked on too easily and too trusting of people. But I will tell you this, everything I have said complimentary to anyone on this board, is sincere and from my heart. I think I am just grateful and excited I found such a neat place. I am not meaning to be cheesy or fakey or anything like that. I am also a very feeling person and just come off with all my feelings I guess. :) I do not want the ones who have spoken closely to me to think I am cheesy or insincere. I am just too emotional. Maybe from being a woman?? Haha But, no I am no Eddie Haskell, if any of you are old enough to remember him. He was cheesy and full of compliments to the max,...too much so it was obvious. But I thank you for taking time to even post to me.
Jennifer
August, dsam :)
Opinion, one more thing, I am not here to argue with you. But I am sorry you think I am coming off like that. I meant every word I said to everyone when I was being supportive of them. It helps me when people are supportive of me, so I though I could just make someone smile or help their day go easier. So be it if I remind people of Mitzy, I am tired of fighting that. I and my friends know who I am. What does it hurt to tell the people I admire I respect and look up to them so much? Is that bad? I just don't get it. A catch 22. Maybe I am too feeling, oh well. I love to feel, to feel life, to feel love, to feel emotions, to feel my kids hugs, to feel the rain/sun, To feel the breeze. Overdramatic? No one ever called me that. Hmmm could be the writer in me that is making you think I am overdramatic. LOL anyway, hope we can be friends, and I am not even trying , just being myself. If I was still trying, like yesterday, I would still be trying to prove I am not Mitzy. I wish she were here.
Friends?
Jen
Opinion, one more thing, I am not here to argue with you. But I am sorry you think I am coming off like that. I meant every word I said to everyone when I was being supportive of them. It helps me when people are supportive of me, so I though I could just make someone smile or help their day go easier. So be it if I remind people of Mitzy, I am tired of fighting that. I and my friends know who I am. What does it hurt to tell the people I admire I respect and look up to them so much? Is that bad? I just don't get it. A catch 22. Maybe I am too feeling, oh well. I love to feel, to feel life, to feel love, to feel emotions, to feel my kids hugs, to feel the rain/sun, To feel the breeze. Overdramatic? No one ever called me that. Hmmm could be the writer in me that is making you think I am overdramatic. LOL anyway, hope we can be friends, and I am not even trying , just being myself. If I was still trying, like yesterday, I would still be trying to prove I am not Mitzy. I wish she were here.
Friends?
Jen
Jen, that settles it. You are officially my hero.
Goodness knows how far I might have gone in life had I been able to roll with the punches like you do. Would that I could try the last 25 years over again with that kind of attitude!
August
Goodness knows how far I might have gone in life had I been able to roll with the punches like you do. Would that I could try the last 25 years over again with that kind of attitude!
August
Wow,
August, THANK YOU. You are so sweet
Well, I used to let everything get to me and I mean everything...I still do a little but am doing better. I think the more challenges I go through the more I roll with it. But sometimes I do not feel like rolling, I can be stubborn.
Good night and I for one look up to you. You seem to face things head on and not hide....wow. Keep it up I wanna be like that too LOL :)
Love,
Jen
August, THANK YOU. You are so sweet
Well, I used to let everything get to me and I mean everything...I still do a little but am doing better. I think the more challenges I go through the more I roll with it. But sometimes I do not feel like rolling, I can be stubborn.
Good night and I for one look up to you. You seem to face things head on and not hide....wow. Keep it up I wanna be like that too LOL :)
Love,
Jen
j
what are you doing up, could ask myself the same question. Hope you had a good day.
SHaron
what are you doing up, could ask myself the same question. Hope you had a good day.
SHaron
Opinon, must you always be so negative? Why do you come to these message boards? Just to make people feel bad? Do you think that you are perfect and can speak for other people, I think not.
It seems to me that you are very unhappy with your self, so maybe you should turn all that negative energy around and look at your self.
This board is to help people and Jen needs help. Are you happy that you ran Mitzty off? Is that what you want to do to Jen?
Get a life.
Mary
PS Hi August my friend, sounds like you are doing much better. I am glad
It seems to me that you are very unhappy with your self, so maybe you should turn all that negative energy around and look at your self.
This board is to help people and Jen needs help. Are you happy that you ran Mitzty off? Is that what you want to do to Jen?
Get a life.
Mary
PS Hi August my friend, sounds like you are doing much better. I am glad
Thank you for your support and your advice. It is nice talking to someone that understands what I am going through
ladyluck
ladyluck
Jen and August, just wanted to check in and say Hello to my two good friends.
What is up with opinion? I just don't understand why people feel the need to put others down.
Am I wrong? I have always, my entire life, defended the downtroden, I guess it's just part of who I am.
Hope you all are doing well, August you sounded so good on another board I read. I really hope that you are feeling better.
Love to all,
Mary
What is up with opinion? I just don't understand why people feel the need to put others down.
Am I wrong? I have always, my entire life, defended the downtroden, I guess it's just part of who I am.
Hope you all are doing well, August you sounded so good on another board I read. I really hope that you are feeling better.
Love to all,
Mary
Hey Mary, I posted something here a minute ago, and realized that I had totally misread your post. I am such a cadet these days!
What took me about the episode you mentioned was how beautifully Jen took it. This is a person with many serious health issues--I would say that mine are minor by comparison. I seem to recall folding like a house of cards when somebody said something to me that was well intended and not nearly as unkind.
As to the motives of people who post with a certain meaness in mind, what I wrote in this space previously about transference still applies. Folks come onto this board with their lives totally out of control, and often it is easier for them to look to the words or behavior of another and focus on that as a means of avoiding looking at their own internal chaos. I have seen it happen so many times on this board that it is now easily predicted. Sobriety time, education, maturity, etc. seem to mean nothing as defenses against the general preference of an addict to point a finger at others to avoid looking at our own stuff. I use the inclusive "we" because you, me, everybody who has an addiction issue appears to be vulnerable.
For Jen to handle it as gracefully as she didparticularly in the face of repeated unfounded accusations was nothing short of amazing. If this had happened to me in early recovery I would have relapsed in a heart beat. I wish I had a fraction of that kind of grace under pressure. No doubt I would have gone much further in my career.
I am taking down the other post I wrote in this space since it was totally off topic.
August
What took me about the episode you mentioned was how beautifully Jen took it. This is a person with many serious health issues--I would say that mine are minor by comparison. I seem to recall folding like a house of cards when somebody said something to me that was well intended and not nearly as unkind.
As to the motives of people who post with a certain meaness in mind, what I wrote in this space previously about transference still applies. Folks come onto this board with their lives totally out of control, and often it is easier for them to look to the words or behavior of another and focus on that as a means of avoiding looking at their own internal chaos. I have seen it happen so many times on this board that it is now easily predicted. Sobriety time, education, maturity, etc. seem to mean nothing as defenses against the general preference of an addict to point a finger at others to avoid looking at our own stuff. I use the inclusive "we" because you, me, everybody who has an addiction issue appears to be vulnerable.
For Jen to handle it as gracefully as she didparticularly in the face of repeated unfounded accusations was nothing short of amazing. If this had happened to me in early recovery I would have relapsed in a heart beat. I wish I had a fraction of that kind of grace under pressure. No doubt I would have gone much further in my career.
I am taking down the other post I wrote in this space since it was totally off topic.
August
Why did you say I ran Mitzy off?? are you crazy, I believe the moderator banned her and I am not the moderator. This board is open to everyone and all of their emotions. I say what I want and I try to keep things in perspective and have not been nasty to anyone, just speaking my mind, thats all. If I had the power to run people off, the mood I am in, you would be gone now.
that was to Mary by the way
Opinion,
I guess there is a always a first time and this is it. I happen to disagree. I had already posted back to you that that is my personality and I cannot make or change anyone's mind if they think I am Mitzy. So be it. I am sincere in everything complimentary I have said to anyone on this board. Thanks for your observation, it helped a little, but it just the way I am. Just like I am sure you cannot change your personality. Now, that is not a cut down, I do not want to argue with anyone on here. I still think you are a cool person :)
Jen
I guess there is a always a first time and this is it. I happen to disagree. I had already posted back to you that that is my personality and I cannot make or change anyone's mind if they think I am Mitzy. So be it. I am sincere in everything complimentary I have said to anyone on this board. Thanks for your observation, it helped a little, but it just the way I am. Just like I am sure you cannot change your personality. Now, that is not a cut down, I do not want to argue with anyone on here. I still think you are a cool person :)
Jen
Thank you guys. And what you said means a lot to me.......
But I am so so tired. How come there is always fighting? Opinion, cannot we disagree but be respectful?? Opinion, I bet you a million dollars people would listen a lot more to you if you were just a little nicer. Not sugar coating anything, just a tiny bit not so intense, that is all.
And August, thank you so muc for your compliments......I am always not so gracious. I can be stubborn and post something not very cool but I am trying hard. And I admire you more. I think you have more strength...this is not a contest in any way but just know I think a LOT of these board people respect and look up to you.
Night all------will be back if can't sleep lol
Jen
But I am so so tired. How come there is always fighting? Opinion, cannot we disagree but be respectful?? Opinion, I bet you a million dollars people would listen a lot more to you if you were just a little nicer. Not sugar coating anything, just a tiny bit not so intense, that is all.
And August, thank you so muc for your compliments......I am always not so gracious. I can be stubborn and post something not very cool but I am trying hard. And I admire you more. I think you have more strength...this is not a contest in any way but just know I think a LOT of these board people respect and look up to you.
Night all------will be back if can't sleep lol
Jen
This Board has done so much to take me back to my early days. The way "it" works seems to be that on any given day, any given addict can be "bat s**t crazy," or can truly be touched by the grace of God. I think the key to understanding ""it" lies with the simple fact that we can never really be sure which ones fall into which category on any given day.
Just about the time I think I understand "it," something happens to let me know that more than likely I am full of "something," but not "'it." :-)
John Lennon said it best: "Look for the girl with the sun in her eye's and she's gone..." Paraphrased, we can only see "it" when our ego is so dissolved as to have lost our sense of self. Our sense of self is what blinds us to the true light that is all around us.
Well that concludes todays ramble in pop 60s psychedelia spiritual subcultural issues. I must get back to work tabbing out Garcia's leads to "Lied and Cheated." I feel that I lead a truly blessed life!
August
Just about the time I think I understand "it," something happens to let me know that more than likely I am full of "something," but not "'it." :-)
John Lennon said it best: "Look for the girl with the sun in her eye's and she's gone..." Paraphrased, we can only see "it" when our ego is so dissolved as to have lost our sense of self. Our sense of self is what blinds us to the true light that is all around us.
Well that concludes todays ramble in pop 60s psychedelia spiritual subcultural issues. I must get back to work tabbing out Garcia's leads to "Lied and Cheated." I feel that I lead a truly blessed life!
August
groovy, august - simply groovy!
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Hello August and Jen, how are you? August I guess I missed the post that you deleted. I am not trying to hurt anyone here, I just don't understand Opinions constant negativity.
Opinion, I have no reason to dislike you other than the fact that you tend to pick on people just for the fun of it.
Enough on that, I am not wasting time on something so stupid as that.
August and Jen, my friends I hope that you know that I am always here for both of you, regardless if I sometimes get a little mad at the stupidity of others posting. Hope both of you are doing well, I am hanging in, day by day, and it does seem to be getting a little better.
Take Care,
Mary
Opinion, I have no reason to dislike you other than the fact that you tend to pick on people just for the fun of it.
Enough on that, I am not wasting time on something so stupid as that.
August and Jen, my friends I hope that you know that I am always here for both of you, regardless if I sometimes get a little mad at the stupidity of others posting. Hope both of you are doing well, I am hanging in, day by day, and it does seem to be getting a little better.
Take Care,
Mary
Mary,
Who am I picking on? How can you say bad things about me and call me bad when you are doing to me exactly what you say I am doing. You are being very hypocritical, don't you think. I really think you just want feel better about yourself by putting someone else down. YOU are guilty of doing what you accuse me of. You should stop and take a serious look at yourself.
Who am I picking on? How can you say bad things about me and call me bad when you are doing to me exactly what you say I am doing. You are being very hypocritical, don't you think. I really think you just want feel better about yourself by putting someone else down. YOU are guilty of doing what you accuse me of. You should stop and take a serious look at yourself.
Shhhhhhhhhhh..................
