hi all
am new to this site, but not to battling to try and get sober......i can usually go 2 weeks, but then i play the mind game of , "well i quit and it wasnt that bad, so maybe i dont have a problem"
but truly i have crossed the line. used to be able to have a couple glasses of wine a night to unwind, but recently(last few months)am finishing a whole bottle....and drink to get drunk!...no control!
i am committed and know i feel so much better(in every way)when im living a sober life....my question is....my dh, he drinks his beer, but not alcoholically....and i swear, even though ive had many talks with him he sometimes undermines me.....i didnt drink sat, then last night he brings home margurita mix and says"come on , lets celebrate fathers day" so i caved and drank....and feel like crap today!!!
talked to him this morn and i told him hes not helping me, he says he'll try not to tempt me!!!, but sometimes in early sobriety it is hard when someone close to you still drinks!!!
does anyone have any suggestions!!
thanks
beach!!!
tremor....i read your journey....your doing so good, you're an inspiration!does your dh drink?
Thanks Beach,
My husband does drink but hasn't in quite some time. I was a closet drinker.
He didn't drink around me when he saw I was trying to recover.
He thought I had stopped but hadn't. I literally hid it in my closet and any bottle in the medicine cabinet I could find. Pretty sad but true. Ask him not to bring any into the house and you should empty your house of any you have. Ask him not to drink in front of you. If he is aware that you are having problems with this, maybe he will be supportive enough not to be a condoner or codependent.
Take it ONE DAY AT A TIME! I won't lie---IT"S HARD- BUT it IS DOABLE.
You might try eating a little bite of something sweet when you have a craving. Depending on how much you are used to drinking you might take a different approach. I was drinking quite heavily and knew the dangerous physical side effects of cold turkey so I weaned myself down over a few days before I put it down. Some don't believe in weaning but it worked for me alot better if I had just put it down from the beginning due to the volume my body was used to.
You have to find what works for YOU!. Keep posting. We're all here for you.
Best Wishes.
Tremor
My husband does drink but hasn't in quite some time. I was a closet drinker.
He didn't drink around me when he saw I was trying to recover.
He thought I had stopped but hadn't. I literally hid it in my closet and any bottle in the medicine cabinet I could find. Pretty sad but true. Ask him not to bring any into the house and you should empty your house of any you have. Ask him not to drink in front of you. If he is aware that you are having problems with this, maybe he will be supportive enough not to be a condoner or codependent.
Take it ONE DAY AT A TIME! I won't lie---IT"S HARD- BUT it IS DOABLE.
You might try eating a little bite of something sweet when you have a craving. Depending on how much you are used to drinking you might take a different approach. I was drinking quite heavily and knew the dangerous physical side effects of cold turkey so I weaned myself down over a few days before I put it down. Some don't believe in weaning but it worked for me alot better if I had just put it down from the beginning due to the volume my body was used to.
You have to find what works for YOU!. Keep posting. We're all here for you.
Best Wishes.
Tremor
Beach, Tremor's post is right on...Here is a suggestion: ask your Husband to get rid of all the alcohol and inform him that you are going to live a sober lifestyle and until you get a solid foundation in recovery you would appreciate it if he would not bring any alcohol into the house and not drink in your presence. Best of luck to you on your journey.
beach good luck to you. Put it down it'll be the best decision of your life. My H is an alcoholic too but he didn't bring any alcohol into the house the first couple of weeks I was trying to get sober in order to help me out. I have slipped since then, but even now he's been real good about not drinking around me anywhere near as much as he used to. Now he tends to go out with his mates if he wants to drink.
If your H cares for you at all he should be able to do this - it doesn't have to be forever, ask him to do it for a few weeks or a month and then re-evaluate the situation.
cheers
Idgie
If your H cares for you at all he should be able to do this - it doesn't have to be forever, ask him to do it for a few weeks or a month and then re-evaluate the situation.
cheers
Idgie
