Hi my dear friends,
Miss Tres is going through it. She posted over on families so I think it's alright to post what's going on.
Her son. Her beautiful son. He's been using and she had made him leave. She of course worried sick about him as did her daughter. That's the odd thing because them two fight, but in the end it is her brother and she worries sick about him. There's been episodes of missing money. So we all know that chaos.
Last night, Tres's daughter called her at work a mess. Here her sons friends called the ambulance. He was so high he was nodding standing up. Fell on his face. Falling all over the place and then he threw up. So, at least the friends called the ambulance.
He refuses and goes home. He was combative and yelling and her daughter wouldn't let him in the house. She's all upset and Tres had to leave work. They call the ambulance and he refuses again. They called the cops. Nada. He ran away. She's going everywhere up and down alleys trying to find him. Found him in some kids basement. He's cut up. Banged his head.
My poor girlfriend is beside herself. She sat on the edge of his bed all night making sure he kept breathing. He was all contorted in weird positions. Half in the bed and half out.
Can any of us give her advice? I love this chick and I hate to see her pulled apart. The people on families and friends board rock. I figured though over here we can add to helping her some way. Thank you.
Tres, I have no advice for you honey. Sorry that you are going through this stuff right now. I will say some prayers for you and your family.
I wish I had some advice or words of comfort. The situation just plain sucks butt for all involved. My best wishes are with Tres and her family.
I read the post yesterday, breaks my heart.
I sure wish he would see what he is doing to himself and surrender a bit to the fact that sh*t is bad, and getting worse...
How hard it is to watch, cause basically that is all you can do and pray lots...
Prayers going out to all of you Tres, hang on.
Love,
Tina
I sure wish he would see what he is doing to himself and surrender a bit to the fact that sh*t is bad, and getting worse...
How hard it is to watch, cause basically that is all you can do and pray lots...
Prayers going out to all of you Tres, hang on.
Love,
Tina
..Tres..
..That sucks bigtime..im in no way one to give ya advice on wot to do..just hope
he can see wot hes doing to you and himself and gets out before he gets in worse..you must be in bits mate dealing with everything thats going on..just wanna let ya know i hope ya'll can come out the other side without more harm being done..take good care tres..Robbie..
..That sucks bigtime..im in no way one to give ya advice on wot to do..just hope
he can see wot hes doing to you and himself and gets out before he gets in worse..you must be in bits mate dealing with everything thats going on..just wanna let ya know i hope ya'll can come out the other side without more harm being done..take good care tres..Robbie..
Thanks to all my great friends on here for your love and support.........yup, no answers........just prayers.I know the deal......today he is in bed, yesterday he made it to work, think he was still high......last night I let him home, didnt look too high, well not nodding out high.........so now he will crash for a day or two and then start the cycle all over again.........boy is in sooooo much denial, to me at least.......only took one xanax he said.......OHKAYYYYYYYYYY !!!.......I tell him, dont even bother teling me anything, you lie so much u beleive your own lies...........
Told him last night, go get help or get out......<of course he is stil here> and his opinion is that he doesnt need any help, wont happen again.......<sigh> been there, done that..........know i am not making it any easier by protecting him best i can, but he's my son dammit........a sweet, loving wonderful man who is lost and i cant help him find his way home and it makes me sick.......and if i dont enable him and kick him out then who will protect him? and protecting him makes it easier.........and there I go chasing my tail again..........like I said no answers...or at least none i want to deal with
Told him last night, go get help or get out......<of course he is stil here> and his opinion is that he doesnt need any help, wont happen again.......<sigh> been there, done that..........know i am not making it any easier by protecting him best i can, but he's my son dammit........a sweet, loving wonderful man who is lost and i cant help him find his way home and it makes me sick.......and if i dont enable him and kick him out then who will protect him? and protecting him makes it easier.........and there I go chasing my tail again..........like I said no answers...or at least none i want to deal with
Gutted that you are going through this Tres, just realised a lot of the posts on here are people with probs but it's OTHER people causing them..outside influences, people getting in our heads...but we love them don't we?
Not a lot of advice for you Tres but i'll throw some P vibes across the pond for you n your family. Wishing you all the best, Kev
Not a lot of advice for you Tres but i'll throw some P vibes across the pond for you n your family. Wishing you all the best, Kev
Prayers and love to you
Maddy x
Maddy x
Tres...cant say much more than anyone else...but will be thinking of you andd yer son...hope it works out and yer son can see this is no life for him or his family.Take care MsT..........Davey
dont beat yourself up--whatever you do is just that-what you do --not bad or good its just what you are going through--sure we all have opinions as to what may be the best path to take but no-one can decide for another cuz although we have all been in very similar positions as the enabled or the enabler we cannot tell you how far is far enough--am i making any sense? I really feel for you my heart aches for that lost little boy--thank god he does have people who care-unfortunately addiction does not discriminate or care what you are going through. I would just keep shoving recovery in his face---what doesnt kill you will only make you stronger--at least thats what they say but damnit--whys it gotta hurt and when it comes to our children thats a whole other ballpark--they are the untouchables in our minds--do whatever you want to me--i can handle it just leave the kids alone......not fair. We are here for you and keep faith in yourself that what decisions you make are right for that moment, youve always come across as such an insightfull fun caring person and again ill say it--dont beat on tres--the worlds doing enough of that--be nice to yourself--no guilt aloowed theres no time for that(i know easier said than done--i need to hed my own advice) i wish i had more solid advice but we aint bakin a cake here :) he is lucky to have you there-
Dear Tres,
You and I have never spoken but we have our hearts all curled up around a doll face woman who's name shall be Bryn. Any friend of hers is a friend of mine so I wanted to pop in and say hey and that my thoughts are with you today.
You may have said somewhere but I don't see....is there any way you can commit your son to involuntary treatment at inpatient? He's clearly a danger to himself, especially after him coming home injured. I know it's a tough thing to do (legally and emotionally) but I thought I might at least suggest you look into it if you haven't already and if you think the situation warrants it. Other than that, I'm just as helpless for answers as everyone else. I really do hope your son finds a way to climb out of his addiction. Just know that you are doing everything you should be doing to help him. Remember though, protecting him from himself will only delay his process. I know....easier said than done. I know....
Take good care,
You and I have never spoken but we have our hearts all curled up around a doll face woman who's name shall be Bryn. Any friend of hers is a friend of mine so I wanted to pop in and say hey and that my thoughts are with you today.
You may have said somewhere but I don't see....is there any way you can commit your son to involuntary treatment at inpatient? He's clearly a danger to himself, especially after him coming home injured. I know it's a tough thing to do (legally and emotionally) but I thought I might at least suggest you look into it if you haven't already and if you think the situation warrants it. Other than that, I'm just as helpless for answers as everyone else. I really do hope your son finds a way to climb out of his addiction. Just know that you are doing everything you should be doing to help him. Remember though, protecting him from himself will only delay his process. I know....easier said than done. I know....
Take good care,
I've been there, too, Tres. It's so hard to just love'em so much that you can't let go or give up. You become so sure that this is the time you won't be there and they'll do something awful and irrevocable - something stupid and unnecessary because they can't get their heads on straight. You remember who they were - who they still are inside - and can't just let them fall apart, it's too painful. Like, looking at that picture of him with his little nephew - that's who he was meant to be, the sweet and loving uncle, son, brother...Keep the faith and do what you must, but you know the drills - we all know the drills - when you're ready, you'll know what to do. Maybe it can give you hope to know that my girl was once in that place, and tonight she called to ask for a ride to NA meeting - things can change...
Peace~MomNMore
Peace~MomNMore
M Tres
Nothing to say you know the score the denial - use - pain cycle.
You have to do what feels right for you but try not to let the madness take over.
Some madness here but it will get better as will yours.
prayers
k
x
Nothing to say you know the score the denial - use - pain cycle.
You have to do what feels right for you but try not to let the madness take over.
Some madness here but it will get better as will yours.
prayers
k
x
Tres
As everyone knows, I have a 21 year old son. Although I love him, and try to give him the right advise - -the path he chooses is ultimately on him. At this moment he is out for the week-end camping. I helped him pack- sleeping bag, food, paper products, and then to my surprise- he pulls out a big bag of weed.
I remember saying to him at one point (and he reminded me )"Id rather you smoke weed than drink alcohol">- Well now -don't I feel phucked up.<
Anyway - we do all we can - we try to help guide our kids so they wont make the same mistakes we did., but again these kids (who are now young men) need to learn for themselves. We try not to blame ourselves for being terrible examples and do the best we can & hope our good teachings stuck
It will be OK
love&respect
jack
As everyone knows, I have a 21 year old son. Although I love him, and try to give him the right advise - -the path he chooses is ultimately on him. At this moment he is out for the week-end camping. I helped him pack- sleeping bag, food, paper products, and then to my surprise- he pulls out a big bag of weed.
I remember saying to him at one point (and he reminded me )"Id rather you smoke weed than drink alcohol">- Well now -don't I feel phucked up.<
Anyway - we do all we can - we try to help guide our kids so they wont make the same mistakes we did., but again these kids (who are now young men) need to learn for themselves. We try not to blame ourselves for being terrible examples and do the best we can & hope our good teachings stuck
It will be OK
love&respect
jack
Tres, I just don't know what to say. Your son's in a bad place and so are you.All you can do is try to be there for him without losing yourself in the process. It feels like having a family member with a potentially deadly disease, which is exactly what it is. Hopefully, he'll see that and start turning things asround. I feel for you and your family!!!
Shirl, she's hanging in there the best she can.
Didn't hear from her today..........I hope everything is cool over her house.
Didn't hear from her today..........I hope everything is cool over her house.
