hello im rebecca, i live happily with my 2 children, suzie whos 4 and calum whos 2, and only last year i split with there father (ryan) they have both been very understanding about the situation. But a few months ago i met dan who is a nice lovely man but when it comes to bed time and i want to go 2 sleep and he wants sex, he forces me to have it, he holds me down no matter what i say and forces me, i am pregnant with his child but he still continues to rape me! i dont want to go to the police because i love dan very dearly and i dont want the kids to loose another father, and my kids come before me, do i leave him and let the kids loose another father or stay with raping dan? please write back to me as i am in a un pleasant situation and need to escape quickly. Thank you
Rebecca - I'm Claire. Sorry that you are in this situation. It must be so scarey. I think that you should go speak to someone who is knowledgeable and experienced in dealing with rape. Unfortunately I am not, but there will be support from some specialist organisation available. Rather than deal with this alone, I think it would be helpful for you if you have the support you need before tackling this. Look in the phone book, do a google search...just take some action. He doesn't need to be confronted or dealt with until you feel ready to do so, and are sure of what to do. Good luck and keep posting.
PS Is he an addict - just wondering why you are on this site. Do you think he is addicted to sex? Because that is not the same thing as being a rapist. x
PS Is he an addict - just wondering why you are on this site. Do you think he is addicted to sex? Because that is not the same thing as being a rapist. x
hey rebecca, i think you know what you need to do already. you do not deserve to be treated like that by anyone, EVER. you need to get youself and your kids out of that situation right now. especially as you're carrying his child, if he's too brutal, plus all the stress you are under may mean complications. please please dont let him do this to you any more, its disrespect and cruelty. you siad is it worth your kids losing anoother father- and i think that as long as theyve got a mother who looks after them well, and loves them and gives them all the attention they need, then they dont need another father. what if he decides to do it to them when they're older? i dont know which country you're in, but find the equivalent of a womens shelter or hostel for abuse victims, they will look after you and your kids, and get you all the police support, legal support, and emotional support that you need. report him to the police before he does it to someone else aswell. but please be strong, i know that you olove him ,but i dont think its being returned, if he can treat you like that and disrespect your wwishes, then that is definately not love. please take care, keep you, your kisds and your unborn baby safe by getting out now. stay with friends or family, go to the nearest cop shop, but please dont stay there anymore. be safe, thinking of you. never underestimate the power of your soul. and GOOD LUCK!!! fluffy xx
hello, claire i am on this site as i think my husband is a sex addict, and now thanks to your 2 very helpfull replys from you claire and fluffy! i am planning on taking action i have spoken to a friend who has directed me to a company which can help me to get out of the situation quickly without him getting angry and turning to abuse as i think that is the next step! First i plan on getting my children to safety and they are staying with my dead husbands realtives, as i trust them with my kids, then i will get myself to safety as my unborn child will be at risk if i dont! thanks for all your help and support as now i can finally smile! rebecca xxx
hey rebecca i understand the situation u are in as i have been in a similar one in the past and with the right advice and support you will be out of the situation with your children and somewere safe and your husband will b dealt with, altho i am slightly baffeled, did ur husband ryan die? as i was convinced that in your first entry you sed u left him?? i am interested on knowing ur full story because i am writing a book about how my husband treated me until i was under so much pressure that i ended up having to take drastic action and was sent to prision, altho i dont think that is entially fair, was i not defending myself from the monster? anyway, i am here to help you and if you feel you need 2 spkeak please ring 01494 786258 and ask 4 betty hamond
rebecca my name is josh and i am 19 years old. i wanted to let you know you are making the right decision by getting out of there. And also as long as you stay strong your children will be fine. I say this because i was in this type of situation as a child. My bialogical father raped and abused my mother. he even broke her arm and nose once.He even told her that if she ever left him that he would hunt us down and kill all of us.And when i was 3 my bro was 5 and my sis was 2 she left him. I'll tell you it's not easy but it is definitly worth it. and her second third and forth husbands were abusive to, what i am triyng to get at right now is you dont need a husband/father for your kids to grow up proper, Just stay strong and raise them with all your love. I know it is possible because i am 19 and i have graduated high school and never tried any kind of drug/drinking/smoking in my life and i ow it all to my mom. So just stay strong and always be there for your kids.
sincerly,
josh
sincerly,
josh
Rebecca
you have received some great advice, all I want to say, is this the type of man you want your children to have as their father? Do you want a rapist being a role model for your children?
I think once you have answered those questions, your decision is obvious.
best wishes and good luck .
Sean
you have received some great advice, all I want to say, is this the type of man you want your children to have as their father? Do you want a rapist being a role model for your children?
I think once you have answered those questions, your decision is obvious.
best wishes and good luck .
Sean
