Mrs Self Destruct,
I nominate you as Co-Chief of Addiction Information & Experince
Charmed_1,
I also nominate myself as Co-chief of Addiction Information & Experience
Reasons for nominations:
**Both have a desire to help other addicts
**Both have knowledge and experince to be shared
Job requirements
*Keep doing what you are doing
*Keep a look out for any addicts asking for information or experience and help if pos.
*Welcome all new addicts who post to the forum
Other Job Titles you can nominate yourself or someone new for are:
Cheif of Welcomes - Welcomes everyone to the board
Co Chief of Lonely Posts X 2 - Make sure that if somone starts a post they get their first reply asap, so if you see a post that is getting no replies you give what you can.
Chief of Encouragement - monitors posts and gives encouragemnt to those in need.
Chief of Siblings of Addicts
Cheif of Children of Addicts
Chief of Friends of Addicts
Chief of Words of Inspiration
Any others you can think of feel free to Chief of whatever!!
Cheif of Welcomes - Welcomes everyone to the board
Co Chief of Lonely Posts X 2 - Make sure that if somone starts a post they get their first reply asap, so if you see a post that is getting no replies you give what you can.
Chief of Encouragement - monitors posts and gives encouragemnt to those in need.
Chief of Siblings of Addicts
Cheif of Children of Addicts
Chief of Friends of Addicts
Chief of Words of Inspiration
Any others you can think of feel free to Chief of whatever!!
Does anyone think this is a good idea?
I think for 1 it will keep our existing posters here (cause they have jobs to do), as many move on and I don't want see this forum die again when it finally seems to be working. The jobs are kinda just back ups, everyone keep doing what you are doing but maybe something like this will help us to stay strong as a forum, help newbies to feel immediatly welcome and not so alone in the battle they are fighting. You can all laugh at it too if you like, I'm just fried and turned what was gonna be a one liner joke into a structured plan..... as ya do..... and once I started I couldn't stop......as ya do... so all laughs are welcomed too.
Hugs to all
Charmed
I think for 1 it will keep our existing posters here (cause they have jobs to do), as many move on and I don't want see this forum die again when it finally seems to be working. The jobs are kinda just back ups, everyone keep doing what you are doing but maybe something like this will help us to stay strong as a forum, help newbies to feel immediatly welcome and not so alone in the battle they are fighting. You can all laugh at it too if you like, I'm just fried and turned what was gonna be a one liner joke into a structured plan..... as ya do..... and once I started I couldn't stop......as ya do... so all laughs are welcomed too.
Hugs to all
Charmed
Geeeeeeeezussss!!!!!!! charmed, shoulda made this one of my top 10............start out a one liner, and end up what is it? 7? 8, or more posts? with titles and positions for everybody!!!!! rofflmfao!!!!! ya know ,.....ya would be get the evil eye of disapproval anywhere else.Hopefully NOT HERE. gotta love ya . You are right about it , someone or several people do need to stand up and reach out , to help . What kind of help do we get otherwise?? thrown in jail where we lose all self respect , self worth?.Labeled a loser cause they dont understand the power of addiction ?? Or feel the kind of loss smitty's wife is going thru now because there are not enough people that REALLY understand how a substance can control our souls. I am all for it !! anything to keep people posting and talking. You all have no idea how many times I come here and just read thru these. but dont write , but I also dont get a drink, find some pills to take....ok ok ok, I'll admit there have been many times over past few days where the cravings were so bad, the depression so overwhelming I could not stand it , Ive sat here and cried , feeling useless, Denise , you inspire me , My lady tells me "you havnt always done drugs , you have functioned normally before!! you can do it now!!" anyways.........bottom line is no one wants to post and then be ignored . I made my promise, I am commited to coming here, I need to as part of my process.
Hi Justonemore,
I think educating kids is the best way to fight drug addiction. Letting them know what the risks are by trying Drugs. It usally starts out with a fascination, appeal,attraction to feel something different. Kids experiment not thinking they may become addicts. What turns into something fun becomes an infatuation and they become fixated on getting high, which as we both know all to well becomes addiction. Which leads to self destruction. I know for my kids they had 99% chance of becoming drug addicts with both parents being one. I told my kids about the chance they were taking and 3 of them went for it thinking it's not to happen to me and the other 2 learned not to do drugs THANK GOD. I am open to anything that works. I somethimes wonder if I was shown something different maybe it wouldn't turned out the way it did, but then again maybe it was suppose to be that way for me so I could help others.
I think educating kids is the best way to fight drug addiction. Letting them know what the risks are by trying Drugs. It usally starts out with a fascination, appeal,attraction to feel something different. Kids experiment not thinking they may become addicts. What turns into something fun becomes an infatuation and they become fixated on getting high, which as we both know all to well becomes addiction. Which leads to self destruction. I know for my kids they had 99% chance of becoming drug addicts with both parents being one. I told my kids about the chance they were taking and 3 of them went for it thinking it's not to happen to me and the other 2 learned not to do drugs THANK GOD. I am open to anything that works. I somethimes wonder if I was shown something different maybe it wouldn't turned out the way it did, but then again maybe it was suppose to be that way for me so I could help others.
Hi Charmed,
I think you have a wonderful idea and I am right here with you. I actually read your post last night and I thought it was great I would have wrote you but I was at work. So you can count on me for all the support and love I can give. It's all about helping each. We can get high all by ourself, but we need each other to do RECOVERY. Keep up the great work.
Denise
I think you have a wonderful idea and I am right here with you. I actually read your post last night and I thought it was great I would have wrote you but I was at work. So you can count on me for all the support and love I can give. It's all about helping each. We can get high all by ourself, but we need each other to do RECOVERY. Keep up the great work.
Denise
Hi Charmed,
You have that name for a reason eh! You are so full of life girl. Just think what you can be doing once you get off of the P. I love to read your messages. I do have hope that you will begin writing when you are in need of help yourself.
I have to tell you that I spoke to my son today. For the first time in months he talked to me instead of yelling and cursing at me. He broke down and cried and said he is sorry for what he has been doing and for the things he said to me. He says he wants to stop using crystal. He said he just wants to be normal again and he is tired of being depressed. He sees that he noticed that he cannot do things himself.
Well it's a start right. I do hope it is not smoke up my culo. ya know! I will grab this chance and take him to a counselor tomorrow for an assessment. I will stick by him the whole way. Just as I have been.
Thanks for writing Charmed. As always you have put a smile on my face.
Sincerely,
Cathy
(happy mom for now)
You have that name for a reason eh! You are so full of life girl. Just think what you can be doing once you get off of the P. I love to read your messages. I do have hope that you will begin writing when you are in need of help yourself.
I have to tell you that I spoke to my son today. For the first time in months he talked to me instead of yelling and cursing at me. He broke down and cried and said he is sorry for what he has been doing and for the things he said to me. He says he wants to stop using crystal. He said he just wants to be normal again and he is tired of being depressed. He sees that he noticed that he cannot do things himself.
Well it's a start right. I do hope it is not smoke up my culo. ya know! I will grab this chance and take him to a counselor tomorrow for an assessment. I will stick by him the whole way. Just as I have been.
Thanks for writing Charmed. As always you have put a smile on my face.
Sincerely,
Cathy
(happy mom for now)
Hi Recovery Happens,
Thank you for responding. My son does know about my history with drugs. I have talked to all of my kids about it. I've known about his smoking pot for over a year now and a big mistake I made was to more or less allow it. I spoke to all of my kids and gave them the "lecture". I didn't make a big stink about it when they came home high. I believe he has used crystal in the past year and it wasn't until the past four months that I noticed him wired. I can't tell you how hard I hit the floor when I actually seen him lit up. It hurt so bad. He is open about his smoking pot however it wasn't until last night that he actually broke down during a phone conversation and said that he was sorry for the bad things he said to his father and I and that he knows it isn't helping him. He said that doing crystal made the stress and pain seem less and less because he was so high. I do believe he was high when he was telling me that. He also said he was ready to go to a drug class and go to an NA meeting. I live in San Diego and I know of McAllister Insitute which is the place that helped me learn how to stay clean. What bothers me is that I have called them three times and no one has called me back. It won't hinder me to go there to get him treatment. If you could ask around it would help me alot. Right now I am looking into a volunteer thing where they will assess him however I believe he needs surroundings of Recovery. I have stopped yelling at him and arguing with him. I can now only tell him that I love him and that I will be here when he is ready. The thing that eats at me is that I only have five months until he is 18. Then I really have no control ever over what he will decide. I am just waiting for a chance to snatch him up and take him to a meeting. He hasn't spoken to me since last night.
The fight continues. Thank you again for your postings. Please continue to write. You are so enlightening and your words are precious.
Hope to hear from you soon,
Cathy
Thank you for responding. My son does know about my history with drugs. I have talked to all of my kids about it. I've known about his smoking pot for over a year now and a big mistake I made was to more or less allow it. I spoke to all of my kids and gave them the "lecture". I didn't make a big stink about it when they came home high. I believe he has used crystal in the past year and it wasn't until the past four months that I noticed him wired. I can't tell you how hard I hit the floor when I actually seen him lit up. It hurt so bad. He is open about his smoking pot however it wasn't until last night that he actually broke down during a phone conversation and said that he was sorry for the bad things he said to his father and I and that he knows it isn't helping him. He said that doing crystal made the stress and pain seem less and less because he was so high. I do believe he was high when he was telling me that. He also said he was ready to go to a drug class and go to an NA meeting. I live in San Diego and I know of McAllister Insitute which is the place that helped me learn how to stay clean. What bothers me is that I have called them three times and no one has called me back. It won't hinder me to go there to get him treatment. If you could ask around it would help me alot. Right now I am looking into a volunteer thing where they will assess him however I believe he needs surroundings of Recovery. I have stopped yelling at him and arguing with him. I can now only tell him that I love him and that I will be here when he is ready. The thing that eats at me is that I only have five months until he is 18. Then I really have no control ever over what he will decide. I am just waiting for a chance to snatch him up and take him to a meeting. He hasn't spoken to me since last night.
The fight continues. Thank you again for your postings. Please continue to write. You are so enlightening and your words are precious.
Hope to hear from you soon,
Cathy
Hi cathy,
I am glad to hear you have a open and honest relationship with your son. Hang in there. That's great he is talking about it and it sounds like he is reaching out for help. All you can do is be there for him. I'm not sure what programs are in San Diego, but I will check into it tomorrow. Stay hopeful, don't give up. And most important let him know you love him no matter what. I know it's hard. Don't let the guilt eat you up. Take care and stay close to all of us here.
Love and support,
Denise
I am glad to hear you have a open and honest relationship with your son. Hang in there. That's great he is talking about it and it sounds like he is reaching out for help. All you can do is be there for him. I'm not sure what programs are in San Diego, but I will check into it tomorrow. Stay hopeful, don't give up. And most important let him know you love him no matter what. I know it's hard. Don't let the guilt eat you up. Take care and stay close to all of us here.
Love and support,
Denise
Dearest Cathy, San Diego ha. My home town. I love it there. Well anyways, through my research I have in place in San Diego called crystalmethanonymous.com There phone # is 619*298*8008. I am hoping my husband will go to the one in San Francisco. Okay, I must go --it is 1:30am & I have to go to sleep. I will post tomorrow.
Justonemore & Charmed, I went to a support group today (well yesterday) I will write you all about it later. goodnite & sleep with the angels, tsr
Justonemore & Charmed, I went to a support group today (well yesterday) I will write you all about it later. goodnite & sleep with the angels, tsr
Hey justonemore,
Sorry for my absence, have been a bit out of sorts, good to read you are staying strong in your recovery, I know you are having a hard time, but at least you are not too scared to admit that and fight it. Thanks for going with my idea, I thought you might all laugh and felt kinda stink after I wrote it, even thought I do think it is a good idea! So thank you justonemore, you, as always, inspire me.
Hey Denise,
Thanks for your support with this idea, we really need your knowledge on here and you have been a real blessing, I have so much admiration for you, you turned your whole life around and turned what you were doing into knowledge for helping others. That is what I hope to be doing one day, justonemore and Mrs self destruct feel the same. Working together just improves our chances aye,
Hey Cathy
What wonderful news about your son! I am so happy for you! I know from my own personal experience that somedays I am determined to never use again and search out help, then when I relapse again many people judge that I never really meant it (like my mum) but I meant it with all of my heart at the time, but I just couldnt do it.
I think your son is telling the truth but you have to get in and do whatever you can now before he relapses and changes his mind. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Hey tsr,
You are sounding well, good for you going to a support group, let us know how it was and how things are going with you
Hugs to all,
Charmed
Sorry for my absence, have been a bit out of sorts, good to read you are staying strong in your recovery, I know you are having a hard time, but at least you are not too scared to admit that and fight it. Thanks for going with my idea, I thought you might all laugh and felt kinda stink after I wrote it, even thought I do think it is a good idea! So thank you justonemore, you, as always, inspire me.
Hey Denise,
Thanks for your support with this idea, we really need your knowledge on here and you have been a real blessing, I have so much admiration for you, you turned your whole life around and turned what you were doing into knowledge for helping others. That is what I hope to be doing one day, justonemore and Mrs self destruct feel the same. Working together just improves our chances aye,
Hey Cathy
What wonderful news about your son! I am so happy for you! I know from my own personal experience that somedays I am determined to never use again and search out help, then when I relapse again many people judge that I never really meant it (like my mum) but I meant it with all of my heart at the time, but I just couldnt do it.
I think your son is telling the truth but you have to get in and do whatever you can now before he relapses and changes his mind. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Hey tsr,
You are sounding well, good for you going to a support group, let us know how it was and how things are going with you
Hugs to all,
Charmed
I just want to thank everyone for wanting me on this site as much as I want to be here. Helping others is the biggest part of my recovery.
Love and Support,
RECOVERY HAPPENS
Love and Support,
RECOVERY HAPPENS
Hi Cathy,
Go to googles and put in the seach adolescent drug treatment san Diego Ca you will find all kind of resources. I'm not sure if you want to put your son in out patient or residential treatment call aspen 888-972-7736 and they will assess your son's needs. Also call College Hospital they have a great Adolescent substance program 949 642-2734. And then there is the Phoenix House 619-445-0405 this is a non profit substance abuse treatment program. It's a hard core program, however it saves people lives. They have a great adolescent program. I hope this helps let me know how it's going.
Love and support,
RECOVERY HAPPENS
Go to googles and put in the seach adolescent drug treatment san Diego Ca you will find all kind of resources. I'm not sure if you want to put your son in out patient or residential treatment call aspen 888-972-7736 and they will assess your son's needs. Also call College Hospital they have a great Adolescent substance program 949 642-2734. And then there is the Phoenix House 619-445-0405 this is a non profit substance abuse treatment program. It's a hard core program, however it saves people lives. They have a great adolescent program. I hope this helps let me know how it's going.
Love and support,
RECOVERY HAPPENS
Hello again Recovery Happens,
Thank you for the great information. I was sitting here thinking about all of this and how hard it is. You see my ex-husband has custody of my boys and they do not actually live with me however they are here most of the time and it is I who handles all of their well being. It's me who makes sure they are in school, making sure they are getting their education, making sure they are eating right, being the one who is called whenever there is trouble, problems, setting up meetings with schools, etc................I can go on and on and on. The thing is I can't get their dad to make him stay home at night or come in at a decent hour. He doesn't put his foot down about anything. What he does when the yelling starts or when his nerves are on end is give them whatever they want to make them disappear (spelling??). THis is how all of this starts. I on the other hand make them earn their money, make them go to school, make them iron their clothes,make them be respecful and show them love. Thinking this is hard because I can't get him to enforce anything. I cannot place my son anywhere due to his having custody. I come to conclude that deep down inside I hope and pray that the love I have shown them and continue to show and the morals and respect I teach them will come through in them when things get down and dirty. Right now I am relying much on that. My younger son is full of love and so is my oldest but he is much harder to maintain. Like you said, I can just be here for them and continue to love them and guide them. Coming on this message board has helped me tremendously. All of the postings from Justonemore, Charmed, TSR, Tracylee and you just helps me to know that there is hope and reading the postings helps me to cope. Strange huh? Since I found this site, I come home and the first thing I do is turn on my computer to read the new things you all have to say. I does help. I hope that you all continue to post here. Justonemore started me on my way here. The rest of you and JOM keep me coming back. It works if you work it!
Respectfully,
Cathy
Thank you for the great information. I was sitting here thinking about all of this and how hard it is. You see my ex-husband has custody of my boys and they do not actually live with me however they are here most of the time and it is I who handles all of their well being. It's me who makes sure they are in school, making sure they are getting their education, making sure they are eating right, being the one who is called whenever there is trouble, problems, setting up meetings with schools, etc................I can go on and on and on. The thing is I can't get their dad to make him stay home at night or come in at a decent hour. He doesn't put his foot down about anything. What he does when the yelling starts or when his nerves are on end is give them whatever they want to make them disappear (spelling??). THis is how all of this starts. I on the other hand make them earn their money, make them go to school, make them iron their clothes,make them be respecful and show them love. Thinking this is hard because I can't get him to enforce anything. I cannot place my son anywhere due to his having custody. I come to conclude that deep down inside I hope and pray that the love I have shown them and continue to show and the morals and respect I teach them will come through in them when things get down and dirty. Right now I am relying much on that. My younger son is full of love and so is my oldest but he is much harder to maintain. Like you said, I can just be here for them and continue to love them and guide them. Coming on this message board has helped me tremendously. All of the postings from Justonemore, Charmed, TSR, Tracylee and you just helps me to know that there is hope and reading the postings helps me to cope. Strange huh? Since I found this site, I come home and the first thing I do is turn on my computer to read the new things you all have to say. I does help. I hope that you all continue to post here. Justonemore started me on my way here. The rest of you and JOM keep me coming back. It works if you work it!
Respectfully,
Cathy
Hi tsr,
Thanks for the information. Hometown huh? San Fran now? I wish you well and hope to speak to you again soon. Thank you again. I will look up the site and call as well.
Sleep well,
Cathy
Thanks for the information. Hometown huh? San Fran now? I wish you well and hope to speak to you again soon. Thank you again. I will look up the site and call as well.
Sleep well,
Cathy
Cathy, it's great to hear of the progress in your life.Stick with what you are doing and have faith in yourself . The only real control we have in our lives is ourselves.We cant control others, but we can control what we do, or how we react to our surroundings.I'm a firm believer that most young people understand a parents role in their life.I have read too many reports , talked with my own kids friends to think otherwise. You can never go wrong if you raise your kids with open communication, understanding, complete truthfullness. Nothing else compares to a mothers love (since I am a dad , dad's love is almost equal) I wouldnt be surprised if deep inside your son wonders why dad doesnt seem to care, not that he doesnt, but his actions could be interpreted that way . Who knows? maybe that could be the void that meth is replacing ? just a thought. My point is when all is said and done , you have been doing the best you can (as best I can tell , the best anyone could) have faith, stay strong , and your son is very lucky to have a mother as caring as you .....best wishes
Hey Cathy,
I do the same thing when I wake up in the morning and before I go to sleep is check everyone's post. I'm right there with you.
Love and support,
Recovery Happens
I do the same thing when I wake up in the morning and before I go to sleep is check everyone's post. I'm right there with you.
Love and support,
Recovery Happens
Hey Cathy,
Here's some webs sites I found that may help you, I haven't looked too hard at them but they look kinda helpful.... just click on the links below
Hugs
Charmed
crystal recovery
sober recovery
Here's some webs sites I found that may help you, I haven't looked too hard at them but they look kinda helpful.... just click on the links below
Hugs
Charmed
crystal recovery
sober recovery
Doing my morning check in , really draggin today , so am just gonna say hi , since charmed brought up helpful sites, another I found is www.methmadness.com give me a second and I will post another one that has a good description of what happens to our brains by using
this article I found really interesting, it explains a lot about the why's and wonders....................http://www.kci.org/meth_info/sites/meth_psycho.htm
