My daughter is , or was 40 days clean, got her Md to prescribe some benzo's and had them for 2 days. she took more than was prescribed- is this a relapse ?
Ohhhh, poor mom......you must be worried sick.
Her drug of choice is heroin I guess.......now this is only me.....my opinion.
I say it's a "lapse" and not a relapse, but it's typical addict behavior....we don't want to feel.......we'll take anything to change our brain chemistry.
The thing is those benzo's could lead her right back to heroin.......I don't like benzo's, but when I first got clean I would take them if someone had them around.......and OF COURSE she should have had like a month supply probably, but that's what we do....never can just be one or two......have to go wild, and do em all up at once.
Not sure if the Doctor knows about your daughters addiction......if she's serious about staying clean this time.......she should have handed them over to you.
Maybe even told the Doctor.......OR just refused them.
Easier said than done, AND AND this is not written in stone......I'd get scripts from my Doctor, even for drugs I didn't like, and sell them for dope money.
Not saying she is doing that, but it does happen.
40 days is great...fantastic......but it's so green........still got bad cravings.....so she may have been having anxiety.....that happens, and asked for them or for sleep or something.
She needs to talk.......it won't be pretty.....maybe not even to you but someone at NA.......they know how this works.......most important is if she took that many God forbid she could have OD'd.
Also is she on methadone.......people on methadone clamor for benzo's.
That could be it too.
Best, best of luck getting her to talk.......I would just listen.....policing and sounding preachy sets us off.........just saying "Look I know you took all them, and YOU know that alot of benzo's. What's going on, and how can I help you?
I want to help you and not be your babysitter".
Hope this helped just a bit.
Her drug of choice is heroin I guess.......now this is only me.....my opinion.
I say it's a "lapse" and not a relapse, but it's typical addict behavior....we don't want to feel.......we'll take anything to change our brain chemistry.
The thing is those benzo's could lead her right back to heroin.......I don't like benzo's, but when I first got clean I would take them if someone had them around.......and OF COURSE she should have had like a month supply probably, but that's what we do....never can just be one or two......have to go wild, and do em all up at once.
Not sure if the Doctor knows about your daughters addiction......if she's serious about staying clean this time.......she should have handed them over to you.
Maybe even told the Doctor.......OR just refused them.
Easier said than done, AND AND this is not written in stone......I'd get scripts from my Doctor, even for drugs I didn't like, and sell them for dope money.
Not saying she is doing that, but it does happen.
40 days is great...fantastic......but it's so green........still got bad cravings.....so she may have been having anxiety.....that happens, and asked for them or for sleep or something.
She needs to talk.......it won't be pretty.....maybe not even to you but someone at NA.......they know how this works.......most important is if she took that many God forbid she could have OD'd.
Also is she on methadone.......people on methadone clamor for benzo's.
That could be it too.
Best, best of luck getting her to talk.......I would just listen.....policing and sounding preachy sets us off.........just saying "Look I know you took all them, and YOU know that alot of benzo's. What's going on, and how can I help you?
I want to help you and not be your babysitter".
Hope this helped just a bit.
I've had over 120 days clean. and I just had a lapse with vics, but I'm alright now, don't worry mom, well you can worry, but it does happen listen tp bryn there she is one smart woman
Thank for for your replies. she's not really talking, just feeling awful about relapsing. went to Na and started over, so that's good- this is such a struggle ! In my worst nightmares, I would have never imagined going down this road with her-
A wish I could tell my mum, you could be my online mum :)
Sorry for joking around, but you have to reminber, this sort of thing happens alot, my girlfriend told her mum, and I know she is trying to help her, she always throws it back in her face, that put me of even thinking about telling my family.
What I have found in my experience, the doctors normally don't give a high enough dosage to help ease the pain, or make you feel some what better, plus benzo's arn't opiate base so there is no need to worry.
You should go on web sites, and go to meeting for family's and learn as much as you can, but go easy on her, remenber it is an illness.
I never took drugs, and then a met a person thake toke heroin, I never new at the start, but then I tried to get her help, then I got sucked into it, sometimes a still consider myself to be the victim in all this.
That was 5 years ago and am still fighting a battle to get of opiates.
Stay strong she will win the battle, but will prob take a few attempts.
Don't know how you must be feeling, must be ready hard for you, but people don't understand what it is like to try and stay clean.
If you need any questions answered, just post it on here, every1 is really nice in here, and will help you as much as we can.
XXX
Sorry for joking around, but you have to reminber, this sort of thing happens alot, my girlfriend told her mum, and I know she is trying to help her, she always throws it back in her face, that put me of even thinking about telling my family.
What I have found in my experience, the doctors normally don't give a high enough dosage to help ease the pain, or make you feel some what better, plus benzo's arn't opiate base so there is no need to worry.
You should go on web sites, and go to meeting for family's and learn as much as you can, but go easy on her, remenber it is an illness.
I never took drugs, and then a met a person thake toke heroin, I never new at the start, but then I tried to get her help, then I got sucked into it, sometimes a still consider myself to be the victim in all this.
That was 5 years ago and am still fighting a battle to get of opiates.
Stay strong she will win the battle, but will prob take a few attempts.
Don't know how you must be feeling, must be ready hard for you, but people don't understand what it is like to try and stay clean.
If you need any questions answered, just post it on here, every1 is really nice in here, and will help you as much as we can.
XXX
all bryn said was spot on,but i wouldnt worry about the benzo relapse if u even want to call it that.sounds like shes determined but tell her not to give herself a hard time.bryn u were just talking about me with the whole benzo&meth thing i was a pig for them all&about getting scripts for drug currency.druglife lived as our rob would say...take care all ....davey
