I have a son that is 20 that has been using for about 5 years. He has never been able to hold down a job or excelled in anything that took effort. He has been in and out of jail multiple times. When he his high he becomes violent and wants to fight. He has wrecked all of our cars. We have kicked him out but always let him back in. He went to rehab 6 weeks ago and now is on 1 on his drug binges and starting disrespecting me and his mom in our house which he lives. I'm tired wore out so I kicked him out with the only clothes he is wearing. His addiction is killing me and causing major tension between me and my wife. I have drugs
I'm so sorry Jonmichael. I know what you are going through, and it sucks. One bit of advice I will give is that it is OKAY to set boundaries for yourself (and your wife) and take care of yourselves. Read more posts and you will see that you are not alone, and you are not going crazy. It is so terribly hard to make them leave your house, but you aren't doing the addict, or yourself, any favors by enabling them.
I've been there too and share how hard it is, especially when it is your child and you have to kick him out. Remember, he has been to rehab, if he wants help he knows who to call (the rehab place for advice). If he calls you, you can tell him just what you said--you care about him AND you can not live with what his addiction is doing to you and your wife. Your home has to be safe and comfortable for you. Remember if you give him a place to live and food on the table--he has no reason to change. You have helped him get the knowledge of who to call for getting help if he chooses he wants it.
Dear Jonmichael,
You are not alone. We are in the midst of an epidemic of drug use with our children.
Recovery is 100% up to your son. Kicking him out is the right thing to do.
Please do not try to handle this on your own. Find people who have been in your shoes via an Al Anon or NAR Anon meeting. Sometimes local churches offer similar programs. You will be amazed at the life lessons you will learn as a result.
Relying on your own experience and discipline is often a trap that results in more anxiety and fear.
Good luck
You are not alone. We are in the midst of an epidemic of drug use with our children.
Recovery is 100% up to your son. Kicking him out is the right thing to do.
Please do not try to handle this on your own. Find people who have been in your shoes via an Al Anon or NAR Anon meeting. Sometimes local churches offer similar programs. You will be amazed at the life lessons you will learn as a result.
Relying on your own experience and discipline is often a trap that results in more anxiety and fear.
Good luck
