I am not sure where to begin. I recently found out my daughter is using cocaine and alcohol. I had problems with her in the past when she lived at home for weed.I suspect she still did. She moved out years ago living with her boyfriend mother, both her and her son.
However I notice she lost weight and I taught it was because she was just not eating well...she partied a lot....I did not think much of it...
Due to work we relocated to FL she stayed with her in laws....so we don't see each other any more. However she visited us some time back and I notice she was even smaller and what a horrible attitude... she came on Friday and was scheduled to go back on Monday......it was so bad she left Sunday morning instead by my request....I have 6 year old twins at home and they were very unhappy with the visit as well.
She has not visited since....a couple months ago she called and said that she broke up with her boyfriend and need help with a phone.....I got her one and we started communiacting again....some days things seem normal other times I could not even speak to her...
I started receiving suicidal text messages at early hours of the morning, which had my heart broken ....so of course I reach out trying to help.....I ask her to come home ....get away and let's talk ......she kept saying she would but never followed though....I continued getting these texts and it driving me crazy.
One day I ask are you using drugs....she ask why I ask ...I explain to her the reasons I taught so.....I told her she can get help.....she agreed to get help....but again did not follow though with coming to Fl. Then last week I got a message saying mom I am ready to come home and go to rehab. I said fine and we set another date.....
I have a good friend that is a nurse there who I reach out to for help .....she told me to have her call her when she is ready for help.....it took a days to do so but she did.....I don't know how that went, however i know that they had plan to meet again. My friend told me that she can't discuss there visit with me due to her privacy.....
I want to help my daughter and get her the treatment that she needs.I have been looking online and calling around....this is very expensive ...which I can't afford...I finally got a place that told me they will help after assessing her.
I am so scared and worried....I had to ask her what drug she was on to let them know...when she told me I puke right away. My stomach flip so many times.....I felt weak....I never smoke a cigarette much to know anything about cocaine...I am still in shock.....I seen these things on TV.
Should I bring her to FL? If the rehab don't take her as an intake, what do I do? Should she be home with us....what about when she wants to get high or a drink.....do I luck our stuff up? Should I put my twins though this.....my husband which is not her father.....really don't want her here around the twins.....but I want to help my daughter.....please help? Any advise will be appreciated....anything I need to know ....or where I can go for help.....
Hi
I'm sorry for what you are going through. I've been going through this with my son for 8 years and he is almost 21.
Do not bring her home. There is help out there if she is serious. Don't enable her. No money at all. I use to receive the late night text messages as well.
I pray that she accepts help but make sure you take care of you. Alanon is a good start,
I'll be praying for you
Paula
I'm sorry for what you are going through. I've been going through this with my son for 8 years and he is almost 21.
Do not bring her home. There is help out there if she is serious. Don't enable her. No money at all. I use to receive the late night text messages as well.
I pray that she accepts help but make sure you take care of you. Alanon is a good start,
I'll be praying for you
Paula
Thank you so much Paula .....this message means so much to me .....someone heard my cry for help ...thank you
I'm here for you. I'm sorry you are going through this.
It's awful!!!
This is a great site so just know there are a lot of good people here.
It's awful!!!
This is a great site so just know there are a lot of good people here.
