She's Going In....

Alcohol
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....to intreatment outpatient services beginning tomorrow, if she doesn't cooperate with them, she will be transferred into inpatient care (lock down) for however long it takes, that's my daughter, the one I've shared about...the last couple of weeks she has become more rebellious, disrespectful and defiant and even physical. So, me and my ex-husband have come to an agreement we will be taking her in at 2:00 pm tomorrow. What a sense of relief, my company pays 100 %. I am so grateful. I am exhausted though.
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VW...
Time for you to take care of you...you sound tired but you did the footwork now give it to God...Good luck and I will keep you in my prayers...

xoxoxo
Stacey
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Hey VW
Geez VW you are going thru a bit at the moment with the young one ay,

I hope it all works out,

You are in my thoughts,

Ginge
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that's a good development VWGirl - hopefully she will get the professional help she needs to make your and her life better.

You have really worked hard on this situation, you should be proud of yourself. I'm sure this is a scary and uncertain time for you but you have acted rightly throughout.

I'll be thinking of you
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VWgirl,

How blessed your daughter is to have such steadfast and loving parents. You are doing the right thing.

You and your daughter are in my prayers.

Keep us posted..

Gail
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Hey VWG your daughters journey is well and truely begun in life, make a list of the hurts, lies, people affected that her actions have caused over the last year also make a list of her attributes and reinforce your love for her.
Also be ready for the anger hurt that may come from her to you.
Youre ex and daughter may like to do the same.
Rely on the meetings and youre partner for the extra support you will need and of course pray and hand over to God even more than you do

Light and love Zac
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awww sweety, I'm so glad that you are getting her help...I pray that it will sink in and she will embrace recovery.

Now you take care of yourself!
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Wow...a big turning point.

You have the strength to walk through this... just one foot in front of the other..

Make sure to practice good self-care...and go to an Al-anon meeting.

My love and prayers are with you and your family.

love,
C

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Hi Everyone, Thanks so much for your support! Please pray today for me, my ex-husband, his wife and my daughter as we walk through this new chapter in our lives together...honestly, I hope she goes right to lock-down. The guilt starts to creep in a bit, and I think hmmm, is she really that out of control, kinda like I'd ask myself about my own drinking and using for 28 years....and I could talk myself right into how I really wasn't that far gone afterall....my head just won't shut up!
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VW...
You and your entire family are in my prayers and in God's hands...pray, my friend, pray and give the stinkin thinking up to your HP...I'm hoping you can hit a meeting after all this is done today and put this out on the tables and get it out of your head...no expections today, you did the footwork now give it to God and he'll do the rest...

Again, lots of prayers coming your way....
Remember to be easy on yourself and it'll be okay....
(((big hugs))))
Stacey
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Dear VW...I hope everything went okay today...thinking and praying for you and your family all day...I won't be back online until tomorrow (Sat) evening...and will continue prayers...{{{HUGS}}} Love Gina
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Hi all, I'm checking in from my sister's home. Well, what a long and exhausting day...K is on a 5150 in the psych ward...she bolted from my step-Dad today, while the car was moving...my parents were trying to keep her with them until the appt we had at the IOP...my ex and I jumped in the car found her walking down the main street and he jumped out restrained her (by the way I had the Police from my Mom's town on the way) and then I grabbed her bottom half and tried to get her in the car...she fought us...he had the top half...two cops drove by and I flagged them down and they ordered her in the car and escorted us to IOP (a concerned citizen got involved too). She was non-compliant and threatening and we were in assessment for four hours...it was decided that she be taken away in an ambulance to the Psych ward...she will be transferred to either a 28 day program with follow up care for a year....or we will be sending her to Aspen treatment center for the better part of ayear...Social services will be contacting us tomorrow. I have such a sense of relief...believe me I know she's got to want it but I've got to keep her safe until she is 18...and with that I am going to try to get some sleep, I'm spending the night at my sister's house tonight. PS-She tested dirty....the kid who doesn't do drugs, she only drinks....hmmmmm...
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Rach and Geri,

Thanks so much for the update. I was thinking about it all through the day. What a great sis you are to be there with her. The two of you will probably get some much needed sleep tonight now that K is safe! Good luck and God bless to you and your family ladies!

Love, Valarie
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Val, thanks so much, I'm calling it a day!
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Hey VWGirl..
I'm sending energy, hugs, and love to you, youre x, K, grandparents, sister, other daughter and partners......what a day.

Hopefully this will all be a laugh for K at a meeting in years to come after her journey into addiction and its web are sorted.

GOD GRANT ME THE SERENITY TO ACCEPT THE THINGS I CANNOT CHANGE, COURAGE TO CHANGE THE THINGS I CAN, AND THE WISDOM TO KNOW THE DIFFERENCE.

Light and love VWGirl whatever happens you have been true to your love as a parent to K.

Zac
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Good Morning All, it's VWGirl, I slept 10 hours!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Woohoo! Thank you all so much for your love, support and encouragement....I'm refreshed and ready to start slowly hiking up this long hill battle....one thing I have to say is K has my genes, she's a fighter and she's not going down easy ~ shoot you guys know it took me 28 years to surrender....I wasn't ready until I was ready, but K is safe for the next three days...and then off to the OC. Without God, PRAYER, the Steps, my Family and Friends, you guys ~ I really don't know how I couldv'e held on....I am in the deepest gratitude to all of you, for putting up with all these posts and all my sharing about this situation....you all have certainly helped me to stay sober through it all one day at time....as it is said NOTHING CHANGES IF NOTHING CHANES & boy life as we all know, especially for K, has changed...she has been the Director for awhile now and they are not having any of that where she is right now!
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Hi VW...Glad you got some sleep! Sure you needed it...I can only imagine how rough yesterday was...I send continued prayers...Love Gina

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How lucky she is to have a mom as smart and knowledgeable as you are. Lots of kids (including me) are able to b.s. their parents for years.

She is truly a lucky girl.

Gone to al-anon yet? :)

love ,
C
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Hi there everyone...it's me VWGirl...had a pretty good day, did my laundry and will be spending the night at my Sister's again tonight...it has been so peaceful for the entire family today...even though we can call and talk to K, the entire family has decided that would not be a good idea, as did the staff at the Psych ward. I've also been on the phone off and on with Social services, Insurance reps, my ex-husband, and a multitude of other people who have assisted me in the past and now the new people who are walking with me through this new journey God has presented to me...I cannot say enough about the people from the Program, OMG, the outpouring of love and support I've received is overwhelming; I'm often reminded you never have to do this thing alone (and yes Carolyn I have finally been to Alanon... *smile*...)
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She couldnt have a better inspiration!

much respect &all the best *of course*
jack

I never knew that Rach & you were sisters- see what ya learn when ya slow down- -
have a nice Sunday!