Hey, I am a ex heroin addict been clean 7 yrs I have no wish or no thoughts of ever going back,my problem is ive been wiv a fella for 2 yr now and he's always struggled wiv his addiction, he goes through stages of being clean usually in the week then binging at weekends, he's a hard worker loves a normal life as far as everyone else thinks, I'm the only person he talks to about it because he thinks I should understand, although I do understand I'm finding it frustrating that once again he going down hill again and been doing it daily for the past month, he's on his 2nd day of his cold turkey as I type, I truly believe he wants to be free of it and he can't see in me that it is possible but I just can't help thinking were gonna keep going through this for yrs with him, I feel stuck because I know how he feels n don't no what to do to finally help him stay off it for good, frustrating!
I don't think there's a damn thing you can do to help him stay off it.
That's become obvious by now, hasn't it?
I'd even go so far as to say your providing him with a safe understanding partner with which to share his pain and suffering is doing more harm than good.
That's my personal experience anyway.
I guess he could be different.
See my post - Notes From A Heroin Addict. That's my take on it.
Mark
That was a little harsh huh? I'm sorry, I'm having a tough day...
I hope others respond with maybe something a little more sympathetic and helpful.
M
That's become obvious by now, hasn't it?
I'd even go so far as to say your providing him with a safe understanding partner with which to share his pain and suffering is doing more harm than good.
That's my personal experience anyway.
I guess he could be different.
See my post - Notes From A Heroin Addict. That's my take on it.
Mark
That was a little harsh huh? I'm sorry, I'm having a tough day...
I hope others respond with maybe something a little more sympathetic and helpful.
M
I know how this will end...I was clean for about a year but my partner was still using every day and I found it so frustrating even though I knew how hard it was for him.I thought I was well and truly clear of heroin but ofcourse I ended up giving in that 1 time and now we ars BOTH back to square 1.when I am strong he is weak and vice versa.I am on 60mls of methadone but I am still using.I really want to stop but its my head that I'm trying to beat and it is so hard.I have 2 sons and I want to do it for them.I am a good mum I take care of my boys and the have no clue bout drugs(the are 8and 3 so they shouldn't).I am a functioning addict but an addict none the less.if I can stay clean just 3 or 4 days then I get stronger everyday but 3 or 4 days clean might as well be 3 or 4 years or that's how it feels! I wish I could go to rehab but they're so expensive....
No I'm well n truly out of all that now would never go back, I hit my rock bottom n never wanna relive any of it, if I thought for one second that I would do it again I would leave him like a shot. .
I like to think I'm a good judge of character I can tell the people theres no hope for n the ones that there is but at the same time I feel torn between being there or leaving him to cope by hisself
But struggling wiv guilt Coz I think I can help him and like u said maybe making it easier for him to do...aarrgghh
I like to think I'm a good judge of character I can tell the people theres no hope for n the ones that there is but at the same time I feel torn between being there or leaving him to cope by hisself
But struggling wiv guilt Coz I think I can help him and like u said maybe making it easier for him to do...aarrgghh
Well as u know he has to want 2 do it himself and even if u are strong u are still at risk from relapse just being reminded of that world.I was strong and he thort he was helpin me by not doin it near me but I still knew he was doing it so it made me really angry and in the end he was spending all my money and the stress of it all made me end up using,but its so hard cos even though u sympathize with them u do sort of forget how hard it is and its very frustrating what do u think u will do?
Do u think there's no hope for him? X
Also could he not try getting on methadone or subutex/suboxone? Cold turkey is well harsh I couldn't do that x
